I’m not always the best writer, Ianjo, but let me try to address some of the points you brought up.
whether it is the parent’s or the network’s responsibility is a tricky problem
Ultimately, it is MY responsibility as the parent to decide what I feel is appropriate (or inappropriate as the case may be) viewing material for my daughter. I wish the networks had more shows like Little Bear, but they don’t get my viewing or my money.
I’m glad that you don’t know many serious “New agers.” New Age and paganism, I believe, manifests itself as a person grows older and has to continually be making choices on how one lives one’s life. Where are priorities, what are his/her “gods,” who provides the “real” power - myself or God, etc. New Age and paganism is dangerous for the exact reason you state that it is basically non-existent and not a serious threat. (People believe that about the devil!) It is insidious and can filter into a person’s life and belief system.
As for banning shows in the house
When I was your age, Ianjo, I felt the same way - experience is the best teacher - experience everything! However, there are now so many “experiences” I wish I hadn’t experienced. Trust me, they did not all benefit me or enrich my life. Hopefully you will find that once you have children that you want to protect them from not just evil, but bad things. And it’s not just that you want them to stay away from certain things–crude language and actions, sexually implied or explicit materials, etc., but that you also want them to be drawn towards and exposed to certain *good *things–God, kindness, compassion, etc.
Like it or not, the “bad” stuff can change who you are and certainly influence decision making. Some things, like pornography (NOT just playboy, but on shows like South Park, Sex in the City, etc.), can stay with you a lifetime–no matter how much you change your views, lifestyle, etc. When a person’s life includes regular doses of the “bad” stuff, the decisions made will not have the best experience and wisdom to draw on. In fact, their decisions and actions will have a terribly distorted pool of information from which to draw.
I’m not only trying to protect my daughter, but trying to provide her good soil to grow in - not something tainted with pollutants like backtalk, disloyalty, crude humor, and so on. I want the bar raised for her!
Your “kids will be kids” philosophy is partially true - kids *will *be kids - but NOT under my watch! Just because someone does something does not mean it should be accepted. Another example - people will always steal - should we make it legal? They do it anyway. Murder? Abortion? Of course not! Those in authority have a God-given responsibility to see that those in their charge have good, moral choices and guidelines to follow. Otherwise, it’s a free for all. As we become desensitized to things like South Park, Sex ITC, it’s not long before someone else pushes the envelope and we roll even faster down the slippery slope.
The ramifications of continually being exposed to crude and vulgar programming? It changes thoughts and actions! How many times have you found yourself thinking about a South Park phrase or repeating something “funny” (and off color) that a character said? Rude or “mouthy” phrases and lines from shows are bound to stick in a person’s mind. They shock our sensibilities (hopefully) and get burned in the memory for a little while, or longer. The crudeness and sexualization viewed will creep into how a person looks at the opposite sex and life in general. Upon seeing a good-looking member of the opposite sex, what’s the first thing that will pop into the mind of someone that has been watching “Sex ITC.” You can bet it’s not the same thing as someone who just finished reading “Theology of the Body.” Bottom line: Garbage In, Garbage Out. It seeps into all areas of your life if given time. Sadly, the more that gets let in, the harder it is to get it out and I’m not sure if it ever gets out permanently.
As a side note, I used to watch “Sex ITC” until I gave in to my conscience and took it to confession on a retreat. “Would you want Jesus to be sitting down next to you while you watched that show?” the priest asked. “Would you be embarrassed? Well, know that Jesus IS sitting there with you and THAT’S how you should judge your television viewing.” Very simple advice, but a real eye opener for me.
Ianjo, I am no fool, I know I cannot control what my daughter does when she is not with me or when she grows up and moves out. BUT, I need to know I did my best as her parent and gave her the “soil” needed for her to grow and be a kind, compassionate, God-loving person. Prayer and God will take care of the rest!
God bless you!
Debbie