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Love is of course pleasant.
Not always.

It’s not pleasant to get your kids vaccinated. But it is loving.

It’s not pleasant to get up in the middle of the night to calm a crying baby. But it is loving.

It’s not pleasant to get up early to follow your husband around as he runs his marathon, to cheer him on. But it is loving.
 
Not always.

It’s not pleasant to get your kids vaccinated. But it is loving.

It’s not pleasant to get up in the middle of the night to calm a crying baby. But it is loving.

It’s not pleasant to get up early to follow your husband around as he runs his marathon, to cheer him on. But it is loving.
In context, we were talking about being loved, though. Even this, however, is not always pleasant. It is not pleasant to do the things necessary to experience love – for example, to admit your own uncertainty and wrongdoing, or to leave behind the comforts of an ordinary life to spend time with your lover (in the case of Christianity, to spend time with Jesus).
 
Let me understand here because I could be mistaken but I do believe we are now saying love and pleasure-intimacy can be unpleasant? How can pleasure be unpleasant, how does this relate?

Or are we now arriving at the idea love isn’t always pleasure-intimacy, it could be this or something very different. I’m not sure how, but I think the point is important.

So we are also saying true love is sacrifice, pain-hurt, and so forth?

Definition of love

1.feel tender affection for somebody: to feel tender affection for somebody such as a close relative or friend, or for something such as a place, an ideal, or an animal

2.feel desire for somebody: to feel romantic and sexual desire and longing for somebody

3.like something very much: to like something, or like doing, something very much

Wait, wait, there’s no mention of this love is sacrifice, pain-hurt, and so forth? I can’t imagine why that’s omitted.
 
Let me understand here because I could be mistaken but I do believe we are now saying love and pleasure-intimacy can be unpleasant? How can pleasure be unpleasant, how does this relate?

Or are we now arriving at the idea love isn’t always pleasure-intimacy, it could be this or something very different. I’m not sure how, but I think the point is important.
Well, the fact that intimacy can be unpleasant is obvious because of the fact that people avoid intimacy. Why would they avoid it if it was completely pleasant?
 
Well, the fact that intimacy can be unpleasant is obvious because of the fact that people avoid intimacy. Why would they avoid it if it was completely pleasant?
They confuse love for pleasure-intimacy and neglect the responsibility which accompanies it. So they don’t avoid, they incorrectly chase an illusion of love dressed as pleasure-intimacy and throw caution to the wind with “responsible love and concern”.

That would be my best two-cents deposited from reading the thread bro. 😃
 
They confuse love for pleasure-intimacy and neglect the responsibility which accompanies it. So they don’t avoid, they incorrectly chase an illusion of love dressed as pleasure-intimacy and throw caution to the wind with “responsible love and concern”.
Actually, I think very little intimacy is usually involved in sex, in our society. Sometimes it is, but usually not.

Intimacy = knowing and being known.
 
Actually, I think very little intimacy is usually involved in sex, in our society. Sometimes it is, but usually not.

Intimacy = knowing and being known.
These are the words through this thread though which when asked what is love and its virtue, the hard fast response was a pleasure-intimacy definition. Since procreation and responsibility to life itself is neglected.

Thus they are seeking pleasure to run from the pain. The pain of correctly understood responsible love and concern.
 
Responsible love and concern, and running from it, and I would say by large not connecting to the greater good. Think about it and reflect back through life at the meaningful moments of true love with your wife or your children, family and close friends. Yup you remember the pleasure, intimacy, good times for sure, lots of laughs-love, what do say about the trials and their meaningfulness which indeed exit? There often resides a level of meaningfulness that transcends here, and the pain is blessing. So if the pain is blessing why do we run from the pain? Life-Faith-Love-Hope-Charity.
 
Which is one of the things badly wrong with the vocabulary of ‘sodomy’ - it takes ahorrible horriblemoral system to look at the story of Lot and Sodom and conclude that the main thing wrong with habitually gang-raping visitors to death was the same-sex aspect.
This is actually a sense of false compassion to attempt to shift the blame on Lot rather than the criminals and aggressors. Thats like blaming the police in a case of rape rather than blaming the rapist.

Lets also not forget that Lot was a product of his time and a product of the environment he was in; immersed in a city that worshipped sex, excess, and homosexuality. These things are what tainted Lot. The difference was, however, that Lot utterly detested these things (and his own actions and brokenness) while the others worshipped and indulged in these inmoralities. Sounds a lot like today.
 
DrTaffy;12003582:
Why can a same sex couple not, according to you, enter into a marriage and not have sex?
Because a homosexual is homosexual only after he made his decision and put in practiced. Therefore he can’t.
What? :confused:

What decision?
Why is a homosexual not a homosexual before making this ‘decision’?
How does this rule out a sex-less same-sex marriage?
 
What? :confused:

What decision?
Why is a homosexual not a homosexual before making this ‘decision’?
How does this rule out a sex-less same-sex marriage?
Oh, good. You’re online.

Bible verse, please, that states Joseph and Mary did not have sexual relations. Which, remember, you brought up in response to my query about marriage and sex.

Book, chapter and verse, please.
 
Ah, I see, then.
Oh, how I wish you did. Getting you to see a new point of view, just see it and understand it, not necessarily agree with it, would be a big achievement for me.
So as a teacher when the student tells you, “Well, since it’s just what you mean by a circle, I have a different defintion. And I want to now say that this is a circle. And it would appear, by your own paradigm, that you cannot correct me. You can only give me what you believe is your personal opinion regarding a circle.”
Whether we use the word ‘circle’, or another word such as ‘ring’ or ‘hoop’ is irrelevant to me. So I would discuss this with the student, try to work out why he or she objected to using the usual word, and try to come to a reasoned consensus. Obviously in a real classroom, given pre-printed materials, scope for this would be limited, but I would try to make it a learning opportunity, not an opportunity to humiliate the stoopid stoodent wot dared to dissagreee wiv me!

Apparently what you would do is:

  1. *]try to humiliate the student with sarcasm and condescending but innaccurate metaphors
    *]go red in the face and shout at him/her that “IT IS A CIRCLE
    *]threaten to send him/her to the -]moderators/-] principal if he/she did not admit that you were right about everything.

    🤷

    Now can you explain how this metaphor is relevant? Why is this student wanting to call a square a circle? What historical precedent does he or she have? How is he or she disadvantaged by calling it otherwise?

    Compare this to same sex marriage.
    What an inutile paradigm you’ve set yourself up for, Dr. Taffy!
    No, it is perfectly ‘utile’, non-pretentious, and reasonable. You just don’t understand it.
    You will never be able to teach anyone anything, without it having as much impetus as a proclamation that you believe that turnips are a better vegetable than parsnips.
    … oddly enough, I love turnips (at least raw), am not fond of parsnips (they’re OK, but not exciting) and have to grow a lot of the latter for my Mum who loves them. You have spies everywhere, don’t you? 😛
 
DrTaffy;12003824:
The words mean what they mean. If you are using them to mean something other
than their face value, then that is a clear example of what I mean by you using jargon to obscure rather than elucidate.

Exactly.

Quid pro quo.
… you don’t know what ‘quid pro quo’ means, do you?

Or if you do, please explain how it is relevant in this context! 😃

Also you have either misunderstood, or deliberately ignored, the meaning of the bit of my post you quoted there.
Well, unless you want to say that using your stomach to hold your lithium batteries (so you’ll always have them when you need them!) is a useful practice, I think we both agree that certain things have certain purposes.
If you could do that, I would say that it was pretty useful. Weird, gross, and unhygienic, to be sure, and no way would I be borrowing your lithium batteries, but useful.

Wouldn’t you?
Really, that is your response to a classic issue in semiotics?

2000 years of Catholic thought have really reached their apex in you, haven’t they?:rolleyes:
I’m sure you could find some examples of bizarre relationships that were called marriages throughout history, but I think only extremists would ever deny that historically, marriage has meant 1 thing: a lifelong commitment between 2 people of opposite gender which is beneficial to the raising of children.
Actually, only an extremist, or someone who had made no attempt whatsoever to research the issue, would ever accept that narrow definition.

Hint: again, the Bible itself gives the lie to your assertion here.
 
No they are not. They are acts of uniting within a (civil) married relationship.

Intercourse can (in some cases) procreate. Intercourse can (in some cases) unite. Both procreation and uniting are legitimate purposes of intercourse.

rossum
Correct, but I think the more important thing here is marriage.

According to the RCC Sex OUTSIDE of marriage is a mortal sin, Which means separating yourself from God.

Now marriage between 2 men or women is forbidden in the RCC. So it is impossible for a same sex couple to be married in the RCC, so you cannot have sex outside of marriage and not be in a state of mortal sin.

Also sex between same sex partners is also a mortal sin outside of marriage. But can be fixed simply by confessing the sin, stop the sin, until you are married in the Church.

So the question is how can 2 men or women have sex without being in a state of mortal sin. They can’t!😉 The situation cannot be fixed.

You can be gay, have feelings of sexual desire, pray for help from God to overcome them, but the bottom line is, God or your desire to have sex with a person who will separate you from God.

God promises us that there is no sin that you can have, like the desire for sex, that cannot be overcome by his grace. So your only salvation is to go to God, pray for the grace to overcome the sin.

Just like doing drugs, it separates you from God, but there is no drug out there that cannot be overcome with the grace of God. He can overcome any sin in us, if we want him to, ask him to.
 
Be careful, Dr. Taffy. I won’t report you for this, as it is of supreme benefit to you to be here, in dialogue with knowledgeable Catholics.

But it is against forum rules to misrepresent another poster’s position. (see #5 under Conduct Rules)
You like making this threat, don’t you? You’ve used it several times against me, and I’m sure I’ve seen you use it elsewhere.

Well, feel free. I mean, I think it would be a waste of time and very disrespectful to moderators who must have plenty of real work on a site like this, but I am quite happy to:

  1. *]Show exactly where you say exactly what I claim
    *]Show where you explicitly misrepresent my position
    *]While we are at it, all the times you make this threat. Let’s see if they feel making such threats is your job or theirs!

    Or, just a suggestion, you could try discussing the actual topic of this thread!
    Oh, good. You’re online.
    Why, sweetie, have you been sitting there clicking the ‘refresh’ button waiting for me? I’m flattered, but you really shouldn’t!😛

    If you want me to post more in response to you, just try sticking to the topic.
    Bible verse, please, that states Joseph and Mary did not have sexual relations. Which, remember, you brought up in response to my query about marriage and sex.

    Book, chapter and verse, please.
    Ok, if you first post an explicit statement that you, as a “knowledgeable Catholic”, deny the perpetual virginity of Mary, or even that she was virgin for a significant period of her marriage to Joseph, I will post the verse I was referring to.

    If you don’t deny this, of course, you are just wasting everyone’s time on a cheap and empty rhetorical ‘gotcha’ rather than substantive dialogue.🤷
 
… you don’t know what ‘quid pro quo’ means, do you?

Or if you do, please explain how it is relevant in this context! 😃

Also you have either misunderstood, or deliberately ignored, the meaning of the bit of my post you quoted there.

If you could do that, I would say that it was pretty useful. Weird, gross, and unhygienic, to be sure, and no way would I be borrowing your lithium batteries, but useful.

Wouldn’t you?

Really, that is your response to a classic issue in semiotics?

2000 years of Catholic thought have really reached their apex in you, haven’t they?:rolleyes:

Actually, only an extremist, or someone who had made no attempt whatsoever to research the issue, would ever accept that narrow definition.

Hint: again, the Bible itself gives the lie to your assertion here.
Lets see what God says about sex between same sex partners. Hint: Its an abomination!
 
DrTaffy;12003848:
Then we are way off the original topic, are we not? And is it not irrational to criticise arguments aimed at the natural law argument for not countering your new consequentialist argument?
I entered the conversation because someone (you?) claimed that people only have subjective purposes, not an objective purpose.
Not me, I think. But if we are talking about something completely different from the original natural law discussion, I think you need to set out what we are talking about, not just pick up on my argument on the natural law issue as though it applied to whatever we are now discussing.

Seriously, I am not clear on what that new topic actually is.
Also, my argument may be consequentialist, but only in an Aristotelian sense.
Could you explain how that differs from what you thought I was saying?

Can you, for example, explain what you mean by ‘virtue’ such that a bowel movement is virtuous? Yet a lifelong productive loving joyful relationship between two people who raise a number of lovely children is not? Or even more bizarrely, is only virtuous if the two people are of opposite sexes?
But then my question for you is this: Is there anything special about the sexual organs? If not, then why is it OK to tickle a child, but wrong to fondle him or her? If there is something special about the sexual organs, then why should we believe that your analogies to other parts of the body hold?
I don’t see that there is anything special about the sexual organs. Sure, they have unique qualities, but so do most organs. And many cases of sexual abuse do not directly involve the genitalia, nor is that where the harm occurs - it is in the brain that the relevant harm occurs.
So you are suggesting that actions that harm no one at all could be seriously morally wrong? :confused:
Sure. If you rape a child, or drive drunk through downtown at 100mph, you have done something gravely immoral even if no actual physical or psychological harm occurs.

Unless, I suppose, you want to drastically widen the definition of ‘harm’ - but that is something I associate with consequentialist philosophy that you apparently want to distance yourself from?
Gee, I thought that was something only “those crazy Catholics” did. Aren’t fornication and gay sex defended under the claim that “they harm no one”?
Catholics do tend to think that everything they think is uniquely Catholic! 😉 e.g. those who seem to think it odd that other faiths (or even atheists) still extoll things that christians consider to be ‘christian virtues’ as though you had a monopoly on them.

But no. Proof that fornication and gay sex did intrinsically cause harm would be one way to argue against them, so proof that they do not (not necessarily a claim I am making) would be an argument in favour, but not in itself sufficient to disprove all other possible arguments against them.
Of course it was. I am potty trained, after all. 👍
:ehh:
…how … nice.

And thank you so much for sharing.:frighten:
Aw, shucks, I thought you’d never ask! 😊
Well, despite the good news about your potty training, I am afraid I just don’t think about you that way! 😛 Maybe if you bought me dinner and a movie?

Seriously, one of the things I still don’t understand about whatever it is that we are debating is whether it is your own personal attitude to gay marriage that only affects your own life, or a broader question of whether others who do not share your beliefs should be permitted gay marriage.

It makes a big difference, at least in my mind, to the standard to which arguments should be held.
 
You seem to believe that I am somehow attempting to impose my view on others. Explain how.
How about if you tell somebody that something is wrong because think it doesn’t make you personally happier.
But I don’t think engaging in them makes me a better person or makes me happier, so I think they are wrong.
And sometimes, even with individuals actually giving their consent, the activity can still be wrong.

To wit: adulterous relationships. Consenting adults? Certainly. Good and moral? Not so much.
Doesn’t count becase you are breaking a commitment before you even get to the mutual consent part.
Um, how exactly does pleasure add *meaning *to life?
Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die?
I think that the term ‘pleasure’ on this context is a synonym for happiness.
So as a teacher when the student tells you, “Well, since it’s just what you mean by a circle, I have a different defintion. And I want to now say that this is a circle. And it would appear, by your own paradigm, that you cannot correct me. You can only give me what you believe is your personal opinion regarding a circle.”
I’m not sure that any teacher would not be able to give a definition of a circle that would put the student straight. Such as a round plane figure whose boundary (the circumference) consists of points equidistant from a fixed point (the centre). It’s not a matter open for discussion. A circle is a circle by definition and geometry will not work if you insist that it’s a plave figure bounf by 4 straight lines.

Whether gay sex is right or wrong is a matter of opinion.
 
What? :confused:

What decision?
Why is a homosexual not a homosexual before making this ‘decision’?
How does this rule out a sex-less same-sex marriage?
He is a normal heterosexual until he falls into the homo temptation, and he falls in the temptation by having homosexual sex. There is no purity anymore in his relationship. Or maybe you thought that “sex-less” means no sex on Fridays only?
The moment he completely gives up sex he become again a heterosexual person, homosexuality doesn’t have any sense for him anymore.This is the best recommendation for those that have fallen in this temptation, and is perfectly logical.
 
Doesn’t count becase you are breaking a commitment before you even get to the mutual consent part.
So it’s not just “consenting adults” that is the cornerstone for your giving the green light to a sexual liaison.

You have other criteria that must be met before it would be ok.
 
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