Being single during the holidays....what things do you do?

[barb_finnegan]

One of my cats hates fireworks! One time, I was gone on 4th of July, and she had torn up one part of my bed while I was gone. The other one thinks that noise=party=food. So she gets happy with noise.

CountrySinger-I nearly burst out laughing here in the library reading this! Of course, it was probably NOT FUNNY when it happened. Will you be able to take your cats with you when you move to the UK with your fiance? BTW, congrats on your engagement…

Back to the topic…I spent Christmas by myself, and New Year’s as well. I have two sisters, but they both have ‘mental issues’ and I am scared to death of them. So I’ve had no contact with them since 2008/2009.

After Mass on Christmas, I went to a local hotel for brunch. When I made the reservation two days before, I was afraid I wouldn’t have the money to pay for it. But-guess what-an unknown ‘angel’ in the guise of a lady PAID FOR MY MEAL! So I had a nice time-I even saw a friend with his mother and two other companions, and we stuck around and talked till we ‘closed the place down’.

And after Mass on New Year’s, I went over to the local bookstore and hung around there for several hours. I’ve had no TV since everything went ‘digital’, so I couldn’t watch the football games like I used to.

Holidays usually ''suck" for me as a single, anyway. Most of my friends are married, and I sure as heck don’t want to be a ‘fifth wheel’ or an ‘appendage.’

Next one I dread is Valentine’s Day. Good thing I go to the TLM exclusively, and so am not subjected to the ‘World Marriage Day’ nonsense. When I used to go to the NO Mass, it was hard sitting in a pew by myself and enduring the accolades for the ‘long-wedded’ folks…

 

[Bataar]

Well I meet single guys all the time but they aren’t interested. I go out all the time too. I don’t hang around church much though no singles groups around unless you’re Baptist. I work two jobs which I’m guessing puts some guys off but there’s nothing I can do about it.

Yeah, I don’t hang around the church much either. Not only are there no singles, there aren’t very many people at all under the age of 60 or so. My problem is that the places I go, typically don’t attract women. There are a lot of guys and sometimes, someone will bring their wife/girlfriend or there will be under age girls there, but that’s about it.

 

[kingal86]

A bit late now I know, but don’t a lot of churches arrange meals for the lonely on Christmas Day? I’ve been lucky enough to always be with my family at Christmas and for that reason find it hard to imagine being on my own on that day.

Until recently I had always been single as well, so not sure what I would have done on Christmas Day if I couldn’t have got back to my family - or if I were living on my own and single in the future and for some reason couldn’t get back. Volunteering is a good idea.

It would be strange. The city I study in was probably a ghost town on the 25th, with everything closed except churches, the odd petrol station and a few restaurants serving Christmas dinner I imagine.

 

[MissRose73]

I am too familiar with being single over the holidays

I do go to a few family gatherings that include a meal & gift exchange on Xmas Eve as many of my extended family members must go to their in-laws to celebrate too.

This year, there were 2 gatherings of family - with dinner and gift exchange. Xmas Eve, I went to Xmas Eve Mass with my mother at my parents’ church, my father was not feeling well so he stayed home. I also assisted with the Eucharist distribution alongside my mother.

After Mass, I went home, and watched a few movies. Same for Xmas Day and the days following as I had most of the days off work. Mainly, I watched things like “Its A Wonderful Life”, “The Nativity Story”, “Mary, Mother of Jesus”, and parts of “Jesus of Nazareth”. Later on the classic movie channel was showing Bible related epics like “Ben Hur”, and I watched some of those.

 

[thequeen]

A bit late now I know, but don’t a lot of churches arrange meals for the lonely on Christmas Day? I’ve been lucky enough to always be with my family at Christmas and for that reason find it hard to imagine being on my own on that day.

Until recently I had always been single as well, so not sure what I would have done on Christmas Day if I couldn’t have got back to my family - or if I were living on my own and single in the future and for some reason couldn’t get back. Volunteering is a good idea.

It would be strange. The city I study in was probably a ghost town on the 25th, with everything closed except churches, the odd petrol station and a few restaurants serving Christmas dinner I imagine.

No Kingal86 they do not and that is sad most churches are so focused on family that they forget that there are people in theirchurches that are by themselves but i usally get invited to friends however this year i got sick and the doctor put me on bedrestso i missed out this year

 

[Nanny_PK]

I know it’s past Christmas, but the Catholic Singles Conference is coming up in San Antonio, Texas.

I almost didn’t sign up for it because I was convinced that it would be mostly 20 somethings running around as that is kind of what it looks like on their website. But I’m on Catholicmatch.com, and a lot of people that I see that are signing up to go from that site are in my age range – I’m 40.

So if you can get to San Antonio, come on. You’ll know me at least

 

[kingal86]

No Kingal86 they do not and that is sad most churches are so focused on family that they forget that there are people in theirchurches that are by themselves but i usally get invited to friends however this year i got sick and the doctor put me on bedrestso i missed out this year

Sorry to hear about you getting ill. That’s a pity they don’t, I’m sure I read some churches here in England - at least in some of cities - organise Christmas dinners, I think often attended by lonely elderly people (as well as - presumably - the homeless).