Between a rock and hard place

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Romans 15 13 … May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Domer90 I hope you don’t mind me making this observation but I went back through some of you threads and you and your whole family seem to have become stuck in an awful place of hopeless negativity that’s completely draining. We know as Christians that suffering teaches us perserverence and you’ve endured a lot, but also let there be optimism and hopefulness in your family. One of the first things to know in the treatment of depression is not to wallow in past hurts. It’ll drain any of the joy of the present.

I’ll pray for your family and your son, that Gods shows you things in the midst of today that fill your family with joy, hope and optimism.
 
No, that’s not quite right. They tried to implicate him on sending death threats over Instagram.
 
You are right. When it occupies my son’s brain, I talk to him and remind him to not have his brain live in the past. I think this is part of his autism spectrum traits he deals with.

We certainly know we need to turn it over to God, and he is starting to get better. We want him to talk about his feelings without the reminded of his freshman year.
 
I understand your question now. When he was at school this group of kids kept calling him an ISIS terrorist. They would chant Islamic phrases to him. He is naive, and the group—mostly girls that wanted to date him—used to report him to guidance. He was worried that he was going to be place on the FBI watch list. So, our New Year’s resolution is to move on and find better outlets for friends.
 
I thank you for all the comments, suggestions, etc. I really need to place everything in God’s hands and have more faith. I am trying. My whole family is going to Confession tomorrow because we need the graces.
 
Since I sold my dad’s house to a house flipper, I guaranteed he will be taken care of until he passes. The house needed work and my dad needed a safe environment (plus he license was taken away). I never realized the slew of problems moving him from one state to another would cause. I have to apply for a birth certificate because he needs a picture ID.

I ended up hurting myself when I had to drive back and forth to his house (120 miles round trip). My knee injury has been affected by the cold weather. And trying to clean his house when we thought we were going to put it on the market didn’t help.

Now that I have some time to breath, I am coming out of the shock of my mom’s death, my dad’s dementia and my son’s cancer.

Basically, I am having a dark night of the soul because I actually have time to think. I need to work myself out of it.
 
School can be difficult when you are ill. I had a great difficulty with school as well after I got diagnosed. I had to start online schooling after 3 years of complete rest.

I found that seeing a mental health specialist helps in time of tribulation. My therapist helped me to clear my negative emotions and hurt from how I and my mom fought, and from my past abuse experience.

Wishing you and your son all the best!
 
Thank you so much. I am suffering from mixed feelings of being raised by a mom who had mental health problems but totally hid that side of her from my son. She completely loved him in a way she wasn’t able to love anyone else.

So, we are all in therapy with different issues to overcome.
 
I see, I am so sorry to hear that.
I also suffer from a mental illness but I was rather abused as a child at school. It was absolutely horrifying experience and it gave me a chronic mental health condition. I can’t undo what they’ve done to me, so I just try hard to be the best person I can be.

Please update us if you would like; I want to offer up a prayer to God for your son and for your family.

You are an amazing parent. Please know that, as a person with a degenerative disease, help is SO important. We need more people like you! ❤️
 
Quick update. Last Sunday, my son was chosen to altar serve the Holy Hour for vocations (he had served the vigil mass the night before). At that time, he was on 2000 mg of penicillin/day to clear his infected and dead lymphoma tumor. The penicillin took a toll on his GI system, and he was frequently doubled over in pain from his bowel cramps. My husband quickly called the church to get a sub, and I called the infectious disease doctor on call. He was on penicillin for 6 months. The doctor was kind and assured us of a return phone call from my son’s infectious disease specialist. He slept 15 hours straight due to discomfort.

I explained how badly the penicillin was bothering him. Immediately he said to take him off because it was probably doing more harm than good. We took him off it and his gut is starting to recover. We moved up all his scans and has been able to concentrate on school again. He dropped 2 classes, but he is doing well in the three he is in. He will start fresh in those courses when he finishes the three he is in. His stamina is coming back, and he is able to do more and more things (like learn to drive). We also found out that his chemotherapy treatments were changed at the last minute. This was only after getting a second opinion from another children’s hospital.

The infectious disease doctor is going to monitor the size of his tumor with the hope of draining a good portion of what is left. He was disturbed that he wasn’t kept in the loop, but my husband and I were not told that he was released back to his PCP when there was no evidence of disease. Regardless, I am upset at oncology for casting him aside. Personally, we have plans to go to Boston Children’s hospital if tumor removal is recommended.

The infectious disease doctor agreed with everything written in the second opinion report. So he is going to take the lead if no evidence of disease is present.

He had made stronger friendships in church now that he can altar serve again. The bullying ring was dismissed after the plot to frame DS from making terrorist claims to 22 kids on Instagram. We heard it was a well thought out plot. It was mostly all girls and a few boys. The police got called in and DS was exonerated while the 22 were suspended from school. Now, the ringleader is pretty much despised by everyone in the school. I think these kids finally discovered that the ringleader is really troubled and is willing to bring down others with her.

It’s nice ro see my son with more stamina and self confidence. Thank you all for the prayers. God bless.
 
I was amazed at what an available, competent., caring and otherwise wonderful social worker our Eucharistic Lord is! Can you get your son to Adoration?

I would go so far as to have a Priest (a charismatic Priest would be my preference), but any priest - lay hands on him and pray. If your son’s heart is open to the realization, the unleashing of the Holy Spirit’s gifts, utterly amazing things will happen.

I was baptized* in the Holy Spirit just before cancer struck for the first time. By the power of the holy Spirit, I am here today after bearing three cancers simultaneously: 2 non-Hodgkin’s Lymphomas and MDS, a bone marrow cancer.

*NOT a sacrament, but submission to the Holy Spirit via hands-on prayer.
 
When his GI system allows him, he does go to Adoration with me, my husband or all three of us.

Our pastor has laid hands on him during our annual Healing Masses. But he always offers up his suffering to Our Lord for the souls in Purgatory. God bless.
 
I am very happy for you that things are going better for your son. It must be such a relief for you 🙂

ETA: of course, I am also happy for your son!
 
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How does one offer up their own pain for the souls in purgatory? Is their a prayer or books on how one can do this?
 
My son was told this by our pastor and by the priests at Częstochowa shrine. My husband studies apologetics, so I will ask him.
 
You simply make the internal decision that “my pain is offered for X”.
 
I also thought it was revealed in Saint Faustina’s diary, but DH read that it predates that.
 
St Paul wrote about this in his letter to the Colossians, chapter 1 around verse 23 or 24
 
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