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Well thank you to everyone who posted on the thread. Please don’t fight anymore as I think we should be able to talk with out judgement of each other
 
edwest2 said:
It looks like underwear. As a beauty contestant friend told me: “I don’t want people seeing me in my underwear.” That’s why she only wore one-piece bathing suits in competitions.

Peace,
Ed
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And that is EXACTLY how men see them, too. As I believe Jason Evert pointed out, ladies, how would you feel if a guy burst into the girls’ locker room while you were changing? Would you preen around like some beauty contestant? Would you go for a swim? Or maybe “lay out” for a while?

And yet it astounds me that decent women and girls will literally undress themselves and call it a “swimsuit.”
 
Here’s the rule of thumb for us girls.

Wear clothing formed enough to show you’re a woman, and modest enough to show you’re a lady. 🙂
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
Outfits I have been wearing that men/boys/guys have looked at me like an object:

high school cheerleading uniform
high school softball uniform
bikini
one piece
t-shirt and jeans
sundress
maxi dress/blazer combo
cocktail dress
Bermuda shorts and a polo shirt

Maybe guys should be taught not to look at women like objects and we wouldn’t have to have this discussion.
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Kendra, are you always able to distinguish being looked at like an “object” from being looked at in an “admiring” way, eg. “Gee, she’s really beautiful” (and absent lurid remarks, gestures, etc)?
 
Rau said:
Kendra, are you always able to distinguish being looked at like an “object” from being looked at in an “admiring” way, eg. “Gee, she’s really beautiful” (and absent lurid remarks, gestures, etc)?
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I didn’t say that. I think I know the difference between, “oh you’re pretty,” and things that have been said to me/gestures. I didn’t say every time I step out of my home that men treat me like an object. I said these are outfits that I have wore and was treated like an object. When you are treated like an object and it makes you uncomfortable, you remember.
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
I didn’t say that. I think I know the difference between, “oh you’re pretty,” and things that have been said to me/gestures. I didn’t say every time I step out of my home that men treat me like an object. I said these are outfits that I have wore and was treated like an object. When you are treated like an object and it makes you uncomfortable, you remember.
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Didn’t say what? You may have misread or misunderstood my post. I just asked if you can always distinguish between objectifying and admiring…etc.

Implicit in my question was that in some cases, men may “stare” (from a distance) but this is not to objectify or to lust, simply to admire. The woman involved, on noticing, may not know what is in the man’s mind (unless he says or does something inappropriate), but may feel an affront nevertheless.
 
Rau said:
Didn’t say what? You may have misread or misunderstood my post. I just asked if you can always distinguish between objectifying and admiring…etc.

Implicit in my question was that in some cases, men may “stare” (from a distance) but this is not to objectify or to lust, simply to admire. The woman involved, on noticing, may not know what is in the man’s mind (unless he says or does something inappropriate), but may feel an affront nevertheless.
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I was most definitely treated like an object while wearing these outfits.Things were said/done to make me uncomfortable. I don’t think it would be appropriate to go into detail on here. I will say that I don’t pay attention to my surroundings, I wouldn’t even notice the stares from a distance. For me to be uncomfortable, someone would have to be inappropriate in my space.
 
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