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I’m a little scared to post this because I’ve seen a couple of rude comments in a few other threads… so try to handle with care or at the very least don’t be rude… 😃

I am 100 percent again abortion because it is the ending of a life that has begun. However, I do not see what is wrong about birth control - it is preventing the beginning of a life, not ending a life. My husband and I are not ready to have children right now for a variety of personal reasons that I am not going to get into. Are we really supposed to remain celibate for years because of this? I find that completely absurd. And what of the couples that already have several children? Do they simply stop having sex after having a couple of kids?

Please be honest… because you don’t find a lot of Catholic families with 6 or more kids anymore… so I’m SURE I’m not the only person who feels this way.

To give you a bit of my background - I was born and raised Catholic until the age of 10. My family left the faith, and I’m now 30 years old and have just started going to church again. So I’m a new/old Catholic… or I suppose a cradle Catholic (I saw that term going around in here, and I think that would probably apply to me, though I didn’t really have any say in my family leaving Catholicism). So I’m still fairly new to some of the doctrines, customs, etc. Thanks for bearing with me!
 
You were very young when your family left the church. You must have received First Communion but have you been to confession or been confirmed?

Unfortunately many Catholics are not following their religion and are using birth control. I had 4 kids close in age and then had a tubal ligation. I wish that I had followed NFP and never used ABC.
 
kdragonfly said:
I’m a little scared to post this because I’ve seen a couple of rude comments in a few other threads… so try to handle with care or at the very least don’t be rude… 😃

I am 100 percent again abortion because it is the ending of a life that has begun. However, I do not see what is wrong about birth control - it is preventing the beginning of a life, not ending a life. My husband and I are not ready to have children right now for a variety of personal reasons that I am not going to get into. Are we really supposed to remain celibate for years because of this? I find that completely absurd. And what of the couples that already have several children? Do they simply stop having sex after having a couple of kids?

Please be honest… because you don’t find a lot of Catholic families with 6 or more kids anymore… so I’m SURE I’m not the only person who feels this way.

To give you a bit of my background - I was born and raised Catholic until the age of 10. My family left the faith, and I’m now 30 years old and have just started going to church again. So I’m a new/old Catholic… or I suppose a cradle Catholic (I saw that term going around in here, and I think that would probably apply to me, though I didn’t really have any say in my family leaving Catholicism). So I’m still fairly new to some of the doctrines, customs, etc. Thanks for bearing with me!
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All hormonal birth control has a possibility of being abortive, so we are looking at only “barrier” methods of birth control in this discussion.

Natural Family Planning (The 4 main methods) are more reliable in avoiding pregnancy than any artificial birth control at all.

I recommend reading “Good news about sex and marriage” by Christopher West.
 
cviolette said:
You were very young when your family left the church. You must have received First Communion but have you been to confession or been confirmed?

Unfortunately many Catholics are not following their religion and are using birth control. I had 4 kids close in age and then had a tubal ligation. I wish that I had followed NFP and never used ABC.
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I did make my First Communion and went to confession (they had us do both at 8 years of age). I’m possibly interested in getting confirmed. I’ve started going to Mass again, and I’m thinking of inquiring about those classes the precede confirmation.

So if many Catholics are using birth control and not following their religion, does this mean they are going to hell? Would God really prefer that I have children that I cannot take care of?
 
kdragonfly said:
I did make my First Communion and went to confession (they had us do both at 8 years of age). I’m possibly interested in getting confirmed. I’ve started going to Mass again, and I’m thinking of inquiring about those classes the precede confirmation.

So if many Catholics are using birth control and not following their religion, does this mean they are going to hell? Would God really prefer that I have children that I cannot take care of?
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Artificial birth control is a grave sin with serious effects on a marriage. If someone willingly offends God knowing they are committing a serious sin, hell is a possibility. None of us can say because it is up to God to judge.

You are presuming that you “can’t take care” of your children. How do you know? Don’t you think God knows best? God creates each individual person. You also can use Natural family planning.
 
kdragonfly said:
I’m a little scared to post this because I’ve seen a couple of rude comments in a few other threads… so try to handle with care or at the very least don’t be rude… 😃

I am 100 percent again abortion because it is the ending of a life that has begun. However, I do not see what is wrong about birth control - it is preventing the beginning of a life, not ending a life. My husband and I are not ready to have children right now for a variety of personal reasons that I am not going to get into. Are we really supposed to remain celibate for years because of this? I find that completely absurd. And what of the couples that already have several children? Do they simply stop having sex after having a couple of kids?

Please be honest… because you don’t find a lot of Catholic families with 6 or more kids anymore… so I’m SURE I’m not the only person who feels this way.

To give you a bit of my background - I was born and raised Catholic until the age of 10. My family left the faith, and I’m now 30 years old and have just started going to church again. So I’m a new/old Catholic… or I suppose a cradle Catholic (I saw that term going around in here, and I think that would probably apply to me, though I didn’t really have any say in my family leaving Catholicism). So I’m still fairly new to some of the doctrines, customs, etc. Thanks for bearing with me!
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I’m sure someone will be able to answer your questions about why artificial birth control is a sin more thoroughly and completely than I ever would be able to.

The one thing I wanted to address in your OP is that please, please, please do not assume that a couple that does not have a large family is practicing artificial birth control. Please be sensitive to the fact that some couples that have none, or one, or maybe even two could be suffering from infertility. Just please do not assume that you know what a Catholic couple is or isn’t doing when it comes to planning their family, sometimes it beyond their own control.
 
kdragonfly said:
I did make my First Communion and went to confession (they had us do both at 8 years of age). I’m possibly interested in getting confirmed. I’ve started going to Mass again, and I’m thinking of inquiring about those classes the precede confirmation.

So if many Catholics are using birth control and not following their religion, does this mean they are going to hell? Would God really prefer that I have children that I cannot take care of?
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I refuse to judge people and say they are going to hell. I am pretty sure that if I died right now that I would be quite warm.

But ABC is considered a mortal sin.

Find out where you can NFP classes. At least learn about it before deciding to use ABC.
 
agapewolf said:
All hormonal birth control has a possibility of being abortive, so we are looking at only “barrier” methods of birth control in this discussion.

Natural Family Planning (The 4 main methods) are more reliable in avoiding pregnancy than any artificial birth control at all.

I recommend reading “Good news about sex and marriage” by Christopher West.
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Until today, I didn’t even know what “NFP” stood for… so I’m learning a lot… thanks also for the book recommendation.
 
cviolette said:
I refuse to judge people and say they are going to hell. I am pretty sure that if I died right now that I would be quite warm.

But ABC is considered a mortal sin.

Find out where you can NFP classes. At least learn about it before deciding to use ABC.
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What does ABC stand for? (At least I know what NFP stand for now… 😉 )
 
kdragonfly said:
I’m a little scared to post this because I’ve seen a couple of rude comments in a few other threads… so try to handle with care or at the very least don’t be rude… 😃

I am 100 percent again abortion because it is the ending of a life that has begun. However, I do not see what is wrong about birth control - it is preventing the beginning of a life, not ending a life. My husband and I are not ready to have children right now for a variety of personal reasons that I am not going to get into. Are we really supposed to remain celibate for years because of this? I find that completely absurd. And what of the couples that already have several children? Do they simply stop having sex after having a couple of kids?

Please be honest… because you don’t find a lot of Catholic families with 6 or more kids anymore… so I’m SURE I’m not the only person who feels this way.

To give you a bit of my background - I was born and raised Catholic until the age of 10. My family left the faith, and I’m now 30 years old and have just started going to church again. So I’m a new/old Catholic… or I suppose a cradle Catholic (I saw that term going around in here, and I think that would probably apply to me, though I didn’t really have any say in my family leaving Catholicism). So I’m still fairly new to some of the doctrines, customs, etc. Thanks for bearing with me!
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Hey there and welcome back to Christ’s Church! My humble recommendation is that you focus on the Church’s teaching on sexuality rather than initially focusing on contraception. There are many answers, and, in my opinion, freedom! Someone suggested “Good News About Sex and Marriage” and I second that recommendation.

You can also check out some of these talks and speakers: Contraception etc.

Also, check THIS out. Christopher West is great, in my opinion.
 
cviolette said:
I refuse to judge people and say they are going to hell. I am pretty sure that if I died right now that I would be quite warm.

But ABC is considered a mortal sin.

Find out where you can NFP classes. At least learn about it before deciding to use ABC.
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PatriceA said:
I’m sure someone will be able to answer your questions about why artificial birth control is a sin more thoroughly and completely than I ever would be able to.

The one thing I wanted to address in your OP is that please, please, please do not assume that a couple that does not have a large family is practicing artificial birth control. Please be sensitive to the fact that some couples that have none, or one, or maybe even two could be suffering from infertility. Just please do not assume that you know what a Catholic couple is or isn’t doing when it comes to planning their family, sometimes it beyond their own control.
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Couples who have small families or no children due to infertility issues are to be expected, and my heart goes out to them. However, large Catholic families were definitely much more common in the past than they are now, which leads me to believe that many are practicing some form of birth control.
 
kdragonfly said:
What does ABC stand for? (At least I know what NFP stand for now… 😉 )
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I am happy that you stated the thread. Now you have a solution to look into that follows the church’s teaching 🙂 And no one was mean :eek:
 
kib said:
Hey there and welcome back to Christ’s Church! My humble recommendation is that you focus on the Church’s teaching on sexuality rather than initially focusing on contraception. There are many answers, and, in my opinion, freedom! Someone suggested “Good News About Sex and Marriage” and I second that recommendation.

You can also check out some of these talks and speakers: Contraception etc.

Also, check THIS out. Christopher West is great, in my opinion.
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Thanks for the links!
 
kdragonfly said:
Couples who have small families or no children due to infertility issues are to be expected, and my heart goes out to them. However, large Catholic families were definitely much more common in the past than they are now, which leads me to believe that many are practicing some form of birth control.
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See, I don’t see what you see. There are many, many families with multiple children at our parish. But still, please do not jump to the conclusion that anybody is using birth control until they have told you personally.
 
kdragonfly said:
Couples who have small families or no children due to infertility issues are to be expected, and my heart goes out to them. However, large Catholic families were definitely much more common in the past than they are now, which leads me to believe that many are practicing some form of birth control.
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Be careful not to justify doing something because everyone else is doing it. We live in a pretty messed up world.
 
PatriceA said:
See, I don’t see what you see. There are many, many families with multiple children at our parish. But still, please do not jump to the conclusion that anybody is using birth control until they have told you personally.
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You’re right, I definitely shouldn’t assume anything. I’m just telling you what I’ve observed. I even taught at a Catholic high school, and I can’t recall a single family with more than a few siblings in each. It just seemed to me that there would be at least a few families in an entire school of children with more than just 2-3 kids per family. Maybe it’s the part of the country I live in, too, who knows.
 
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