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I haven’t read the responses yet, but I do hope you have gotten some polite responses.I’m a little scared to post this because I’ve seen a couple of rude comments in a few other threads… so try to handle with care or at the very least don’t be rude…
True. I would say that the abortion issue and true contraceptives are immoral for different reasons. Its much easier to argue against abortion because people automatically innately know that murder is wrong. However the contraceptive issue is a much larger issue to argue and explain and in the end not everyone is convinced that the Church’s views on sexuality are correct. I think I am one of the rare people who never argued with it and who only came later to an understanding of how much faith it does take to live without contraceptives.
No. The Church teaches that if a couple has grave/serious reason to space or limit children, they can perioidically abstain during the woman’s peak fertility to reduce the chances of becoming pregnant. A woman can observe her fertility symptoms, chart them and know when her body is preparing to ovulate and about when she does ovulate.
That said, it is the abstainence that is moral. It is considered always immoral to engage in sex with an entirely closed heart to accepting the gift of a child, and our consent to accepting the gift of children is a part of our marriage vows. That doesn’t make it easy, but if pregnancy does occur outside of our time table, we are called to trust in God’s providence.
Ultimately we are called to respect the nature God gave us and to respect that fertility is an innate and beautiful part of our sexuality. We are not to live in fear or have an obsession with controling our lives. Just as we cannot perfectly time out exactly when we will meet that person we will end up marrying, we cannot control when we will meet that special someone. All we can control is whether or not we put ourselves into situations that will allow us to meet someone. Sex is always an invite to accepting a child. If we engage in the act completely closed to the possibility of pregnancy, it is as if we were continually leading people on about our interest in them, breaking their hearts and lying to them.
Overall we need to be honest with our actions. As such, we can exclusively have sex when we are in our non-fertile periods, just as we can legimately go out to places that people sometimes meet romantic partners at during the time of day where say that place of business is less busy or not filled with a lot of single and available people. But to sabotosh that business or to lead strangers on and to have the door closed to developing a real relationship is immoral. As such, we should not artificially sterilize ourselves or block the possibility of pregnancy for the sake of engaging in sexual pleasure during our fertile time without getting the elements we don’t want.
No. Most Catholic families I know who practice NFP find that they underestimate what they can handle and that God opens their hearts to accepting a larger family. Fears our abandoned and our trust in God’s Divine providence grows. They realize how valuable sex is and they come to a greater appreciation of the gift of their fertility. I won’t say it isn’t trying though. There’s a lot of trying to promote NFP based on the success rates, but most of my NFP using friends feel that the Church promotes NFP far too much as if it were Catholic contraceptive. As a friend of mine said, its more important to put your faith in God than your faith in a method. Practice the method, but don’t obsess over having control. Ultimately God is in control of your life.
No, it is true. Most Catholics in our country ignore the Church’s teachings against contraceptives. Typically those families who do have larger families tend to flock to parishes where there are other large families.
it’s actually intimacy.
