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Can someone please shed some light on why Catholics claim they are against birth control, but then they practice NFP. Isn’t NFP essentially birth control? Why is that okay but using any other type of contraceptive not okay?
 
The Church does not teach that birth control-- the spacing/planning of children-- is intrinsically immoral.

The Church teaches that contraception is an immoral means of spacing/planning children, while periodic or total abstinence from the marital act is not.
 
The Church teaches that contraception is an immoral means of spacing/planning children, while periodic or total abstinence from the marital act is not.
Could you please elaborate on this? What exactly is it about contraception that is considered immoral?
 
I’m sure you’ll get lots of correct answers…but understanding comes hard for non-Catholics on this one. I think it is because this is a 5th level question, not a basic one, and people always, always want to do things out of order. It’s like wanting to have calculus fully explained before geometry…or wanting to go right out and defuse a bomb after the the 5 minute orientation to the bomb disposal course.

Catholicism is a religion that is focused on Christ, who preached sacrifice for the Kingdom of God. As such, Catholics are called to a life that is not easy. On this message board, like many others, you can find innumerable Catholics comforting each other about the difficulties, complaining about the difficulties, agitating to change the rules, etc. But the underlying truth is that it’s difficult, and that’s exactly what Christ promised it would be.

After hearing various Catholic moral teachings, non-Catholics usually don’t understand, and sometimes think they are silly. Try going to an OB-Gyn and explaining that you don’t use artificial birth control. Of course everyone in the office thins you are crazy. This is how it has always been, since the Bible says Catholic teaching are “folly” to non-Catholics.

So, step one to understanding Catholic moral teaching is to understand that Catholicism is not primarily concerned with what’s “easy” or “practical”. It’s concerned with what is Holy, and sex is of course treated with reverence since it is an extremely important foundational human activity. Catholics are not allowed to modify or take liberties with the sex act, especially not ones that frustrate its natural purposes.

If someone doesn’t understand why this is so, well, consider that Catholic priests, who are expected to teach the people the principles of the religion, are schooled for years and have advanced degrees to be able to do this, and some of them still aren’t very good at it. None of their seminary professors would expect them to be able to give an exhaustive discourse on the fine points of Catholic sexual teaching on their first day in seminary or even after their first year. So, it’s not reasonable to expect to become an expert or gain a really nuanced understanding on an internet message board…it’s reasonable to expect to get some basic insights.
 
Can someone please shed some light on why Catholics claim they are against birth control, but then they practice NFP. Isn’t NFP essentially birth control? Why is that okay but using any other type of contraceptive not okay?
NFP still allows the possibility of conception and maintains the unitive aspects of sex.
 
Can someone please shed some light on why Catholics claim they are against birth control, but then they practice NFP. Isn’t NFP essentially birth control? Why is that okay but using any other type of contraceptive not okay?
The Church is not against birth control that preserves the unitive and procreative portions of sex for just reasons; i.e., NFP. The Church is against “artificial” birth control; i.e., contraception, which directly affects the unitive and procreative elements of sex.
 
What exactly is it about contraception that is considered immoral?
The fact that it desecrates marriage by turning it into an act of lust.

The sexual union, which is bound to only take place in wedlock, is meant primarily for procreation, and secondarily to unite the spouses in mutual love and joy (which is why God blessed it with beautiful feelings). If you remove the former, the spouses become one the pleasure tool of the other - we may not acknowledge this right away, but that’s the way it is.

Natural Family Planning, by studying the way the human body naturally works, allows the spouses who do not want to deprive themselves of one another for too extensive periods of time (as St. Paul wisely advises) to be able to be more responsible in planning for the development of their family. It is fully centered on life.

Contraception is fully centered on taking life away. The very word, against conception, clearly shows the exact goal of this means.

But the story does not end there.

We are not just talking about being selfish here. We are also talking about what this does to society as a whole: by disrupting the family (along with the other two evils that come along with it, namely abortion and divorce) they inexorably destroy society if nobody does anything to oppose it/them.

This is what Pope Paul VI wrote in Humanae Vitae back in 1968, that’s 44 years ago. Was he right? Emphases are mine.
Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings—and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation—need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law.
Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere **instrument **for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.
Finally, careful consideration should be given to the danger of this power passing into the hands of those public authorities who care little for the precepts of the moral law. Who will blame a government which in its attempt to resolve the problems affecting an entire country resorts to the same measures as are regarded as lawful by married people in the solution of a particular family difficulty? Who will prevent public authorities from favoring those contraceptive methods which they consider more effective? Should they regard this as necessary, they may even impose their use on everyone. It could well happen, therefore, that when people, either individually or in family or social life, experience the inherent difficulties of the divine law and are determined to avoid them, they may give into the hands of public authorities the power to intervene in the most personal and intimate responsibility of husband and wife.
 
NFP still allows the possibility of conception and maintains the unitive aspects of sex.
Can’t the same be said for other types of contraception (except for sterilization, of course)? When you are ready to conceive, you go off of it… just like how when you would like to have a child on NFP, you stop practicing it.
 
What exactly is it about contraception that is considered immoral?
The fact that it desecrates marriage by turning it into an act of lust.

The sexual union, which is bound to only take place in wedlock, is meant primarily for procreation, and secondarily to unite the spouses in mutual love and joy (which is why God blessed it with beautiful feelings). If you remove the former, the spouses become one the pleasure tool of the other - we may not acknowledge this right away, but that’s the way it is.

Abstinence is always an option. However, Natural Family Planning, by studying the way the human body naturally works, allows the spouses who do not want to deprive themselves of one another for too extensive periods of time (as St. Paul wisely advises) to be able to be more responsible in planning for the development of their family. It is fully centered on life.

Contraception is fully centered on taking life away. The very word, against conception, clearly shows the exact goal of this means.

But the story does not end there.

We are not just talking about being selfish here. We are also talking about what this does to society as a whole: by disrupting the family (along with the other two evils that come along with it, namely abortion and divorce) they inexorably destroy society if nobody does anything to oppose it/them.

This is what Pope Paul VI wrote in Humanae Vitae back in 1968, that’s 44 years ago. Was he right? Emphases are mine.
Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings—and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation—need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law.
Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere **instrument **for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.
Finally, careful consideration should be given to the danger of this power passing into the hands of those public authorities who care little for the precepts of the moral law. Who will blame a government which in its attempt to resolve the problems affecting an entire country resorts to the same measures as are regarded as lawful by married people in the solution of a particular family difficulty? Who will prevent public authorities from favoring those contraceptive methods which they consider more effective? Should they regard this as necessary, they may even impose their use on everyone. It could well happen, therefore, that when people, either individually or in family or social life, experience the inherent difficulties of the divine law and are determined to avoid them, they may give into the hands of public authorities the power to intervene in the most personal and intimate responsibility of husband and wife.
Last but not least, what does the availability of contraception do to young people? Gives them the idea that anyone can have sex at any time. The very idea of marriage is totally deprived of meaning. Divorce becomes unnecessary: people simply choose not to marry at all, and to have even multiple partners at the same time. We see this all the time in society. At best, marriage becomes a utilitarian act, an act of convenience, that can be interrupted at any time. Welcome to the jungle.
 
The fact that it desecrates marriage by turning it into an act of lust.

The sexual union, which is bound to only take place in wedlock, is meant primarily for procreation, and secondarily to unite the spouses in mutual love and joy (which is why God blessed it with beautiful feelings). If you remove the former, the spouses become one the pleasure tool of the other - we may not acknowledge this right away, but that’s the way it is.
What about people who choose not to have any children? Just because they do not want to have a child means that their marriage is now forever desecrated and sex is reduced to only an act of lust?
 
Could you please elaborate on this? What exactly is it about contraception that is considered immoral?
To be properly ordered (as God designed it) each act of intercourse must be:
  1. Marital (this is why forincation, adultery, etc, are wrong)
  2. Order to procreation (for example contraception, masturbation, homosexual sex acts, etc, are not ordered to procreation)
  3. Ordered to unity of the spouses ( for example rape, pornography, etc, are not ordered to unity of the spouses)
Ordered to procreation does not mean conception must occur every time. It does not occur most of the time when a couple has intercourse.

NFP is not an act. It is information. The couple can use that information to decide whether to engage in a properly ordered act of intercourse (completed vaginal intercourse between spouses) or not. They can decide to engage or refrain based on whether they are trying to have a child, space their children, or neither (i.e., whatever happens, happens).

Each time they engage in the marital act it is fully ordered to both procreation and unity because it is an unaltered act of intercourse.

Contraception seeks to engage in the marital act while disordering that act by frustrating its natural end.

You can respect the order of the act by deciding not to have sex. You cannot disorder the act by disrupting the unitive and procreative ends.

And, please note that it is each act of intercourse that must be ordered this way, not the marriage as a whole (i.e. the idea of proportionality is not consistent with Catholic teaching).
 
The natural result of relations is children. This is seen in all levels of nature.

When the natural is suppressed instead of being an act of creation and giving it becomes an act of pleasure and seeking. When it is not open to life there are two usual results. First the woman is subjected to various herbs/chemicals/etc. to alter her body so it may be used for pleasure, ignoring the cost of this pleasure to the woman. Also there are invariably offspring produced that are not wanted because that was not the intent of the act in the first place. This invariably results in cultures which then approve of the direct killing of unwanted offspring, either in the womb or after birth.

The part that is always left out in the discussion is that there is an option of refraining from relations if one does not wish to have kids. Within marriage, all marriage, when kids are no longer a possibility self restraint is an option. There were enough women deciding to practice this in the 1500s that reformers, like Luther, were complaining about it and insisting that if in a woman denied a man the marriage was then null and he should try sleeping with his wifes sister as well if his wife would permit it but if not he should flee and marry someone else.

The notion that marriage is for everyone is the key to unraveling the mystery. Marriage exists for the creation and care of children. If one is not interested in kids then a life of singleness exists. Church has always taught that singleness and living a life apart from relations, even outside of religious orders, is noble.

Beyond that the effects upon a culture when the natural result of relation is removed are pronounced. Consider the drastic sexualization of culture that has happened in the US in the last few decades. The nation existed pretty much the same regarding family for centuries then suddenly it went off the rails why ? Because there was a consequence, the natural result, and so society could not devote itself to unbridled lust. Once the consequence was removed the nation rapidly altered as everyone at all levels began to think that happiness and self fulfillment depending on a constant dose of pleasure without consequence. The result is a society devoted to self seeking pleasure.

Thats my stab at it.
 
What about people who choose not to have any children? Just because they do not want to have a child means that their marriage is now forever desecrated and sex is reduced to only an act of lust?
One cannot validly enter marriage with a permanent intention against children. It is one of the threefold essential properties of marriage.

One could licitly use natural family planning indefinitely, for example if after someone married they were found to have a serious illness. that is the case with several posters on this forum-- and several people I know IRL-- they have a life threatening illness and so although they would like to have more children they have been using NFP for over a decade to indefinitely postpone until/unless their health condition changes.
 
NFP still allows the possibility of conception and maintains the unitive aspects of sex.
This is not the basis of the Church’s moral teaching on contraception vis-a-vis NFP. It is not the “possibility of conception” that makes it moral or immoral.
 
What about people who choose not to have any children? Just because they do not want to have a child means that their marriage is now forever desecrated and sex is reduced to only an act of lust?
It is important to note that, in order to get married in the Catholic faith, part of the requirement is being open to children. It is written into our vows. We stand before God, and promise with our whole being – with God as our witness – that we will be open to children.
 
It is important to note that, in order to get married in the Catholic faith, part of the requirement is being open to children. It is written into our vows. We stand before God, and promise with our whole being – with God as our witness – that we will be open to children.
It’s not just a Catholic matter.

It’s a matter of why are man and woman man and woman.

Matrimony is not a human invention, is a most natural thing. As humans, we can acknowledge its greatness and how it is at the root of society and civilization.

And by the way, the Church does allow for a chaste Matrimony, which is called Josephite Marriage or Spiritual Marriage.
 
And by the way, the Church does allow for a chaste Matrimony, which is called Josephite Marriage or Spiritual Marriage.
One must still be willing and able to enter into marital relations with the spouse upon request.
 
Can someone please shed some light on why Catholics claim they are against birth control, but then they practice NFP. Isn’t NFP essentially birth control? Why is that okay but using any other type of contraceptive not okay?
You are conflating (or at least confusing) the terms birth control and contraception. Birth Control are methods while contraception is a means that intends to prevent the likely result and consequence of sexual intercourse, pregnancy.

Further clarification:
Can’t the same be said for other types of contraception (except for sterilization, of course)? When you are ready to conceive, you go off of it… just like how when you would like to have a child on NFP, you stop practicing it.
Here is the objective truth, every single form of contraception ever created is prone to failure. If one engages in sexual intercourse the likely result and consequence is pregnancy, period. One that uses contraception does so with the intention of preventing pregnancy, negating the sacred, life-giving purpose of the act. When you remove that all important aspect of sexual intercourse it simply becomes an act of lust, pride, etc which objectifies those involved. You share nothing but rather are using and being used.

NFP does not teach that it can or will prevent pregnancy, in fact it serves to open those practicing NFP up to the fact that is is likely that they may get pregnant while potentially reducing the probability. The practice of NFP intends to be fully open to the gift of life unlike contraception.
 
Thank you for your responses. While I still don’t agree with the church’s view on birth control and sex, at least I am more educated than I was as to their position.
 
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