I admit I’ve had a very similar experience with Catholic sites. I even have to take regular breaks from here because some posters here really lack basic consideration when having a discussion and it robs me of joy. I keep coming back in hopes of finding like-minded people…
I want to offer this up, though, and that is it’s not unique to Catholicism. EVERY Internet community seems to have these struggles. I’ve seen it on other religious boards, hobby communities, political groups where everyone should agree, and even pregnancy/marriage/homemaking boards. Once people get the power to ban others, hide behind a screen, or disappear behind well-plotted out words…truly horrible things can be done and said that one would never do. Keeping my own sin in mind - I am not innocent of this myself. It’s another reason I take regular breaks from here.
I hope the blogger returns. I never heard of her before! Breaks are good for the soul, even Jesus himself would retreat for prayer and rest.