Blue jeans to sunday mass if its all you have

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Does your pastor really recommend this? I’m not sure how I would react if that was the actual recommendation of my pastor.

One can buy next to new: blazer, white shirt, tie, khakis and dress loafers for $20.00 at the local thrift shop. With some diligence almost anyone can accumulate $20.00 by skipping a meal or two, or possibly working an extra hour or two. So it wouldn’t be a matter of “the best I have” because that’s an excuse for the most part.

On the other hand I don’t know how I would react if my pastor actually tried to push coats/ties. Some of the ushers do at one of my parishes. They very same ushers that wear old grey pin-striped suit coats with maroon Dockers, a yellow dress shirt and a red tie.
Yes the pastor pushed it for two weeks straight and no I will not go out and buy second hand clothes at the thrift store. I buy and wear clothes that are good quality, respectable and multi-purpose; I don’t need a suit for any reason and I wore ties long enough when I was working. I won’t be kicked out of church nor will I tolerate anyone giving me a hard time over my clothes; I’m too old to care about or put up with that nonsense.
 
Contrary to the coat and tie recommendations of my parishe the best that I have is chinos and a casual shirt; if jeans are the best you have, wear them but by all means go to Mass. If the priest or anyone else says anything just smile at them and walk away, drives them crazy.
Why would you want to drive your priest crazy? :confused:
 
Why would you want to drive your priest crazy? :confused:
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Originally Posted by Bob Aliano
Contrary to the coat and tie recommendations of my parishe the best that I have is chinos and a casual shirt; if jeans are the best you have, wear them but by all means go to Mass. If the priest or anyone else says anything just smile at them and walk away, drives them crazy.
Why would you want to drive your priest crazy?

I think the better question would be by what authority can a single priest or parish council bind the ordinary laity that do not exercise a ministry or is directly employed by the parish to a dress code in the Roman Catholic church?

I doubt they can or could.

Go to Mass and dress in what you have that “descent.”
 
Why would you want to drive your priest crazy? :confused:
If he had the audacity to criticize my clean, presentable clothing he would deserve to be driven crazy, he would be overstepping his authority. In addition, I find that to be be a better treatment of, oh lets call them pests to be polite, than to stand and argue with them.

So far our pastor has only informed the congregation that, in his opinion it would be nice if all the men wore jackets and ties. In fact he made it clear that no one in the congregation has the right to confront another about clothing. However he did so on two consecutive Sundays and put the same in the bulletin, too much? I think so, you decide.
 
Like the song says…

“It doesn’t matter what you wear, just as long as you are there”… 🙂 I wear jeans all the time.
 
If he had the audacity to criticize my clean, presentable clothing he would deserve to be driven crazy, he would be overstepping his authority.
I don’t have any idea what your clean, presentable clothing looks like, so please don’t take this as a personal criticism; I just want to comment on supposedly the priest “overstepping his authority.”

The priest is the liturgist, the presider. As such, he actually is very much within his authority to be particular about (a) which lectors read at his Mass; (b) how those lectors dress, (c) whether EMHC’s will be used, and how many, & whether there are dress requirements for them; (d) what kind of music he will allow & disallow; (e) how seasoned any altar servers must be; (f) what the Offertory intentions will be; (g) when, & how many, announcements will be made.

IOW, he can specify that any lay participating ministers who do not have proper dress, or do not want to wear proper dress, are ones which do not serve at Masses presided over by him. Now, as a practical matter, most priests – including assistant pastors, occasional guest priests, or rare visitors – tend to abide by the existing customs of that parish, in keeping with what the pastor has decided. But in my experience, lay ministers who enjoy their roles tend to comply willingly with mandates because it’s important enough to them to be included. So in one parish in which I participate in different roles, the pastor allows no jeans for anyone serving in ministerial roles in Mass. Men wear khakis or other non-denim pants, and non-athletic shoes. Female ministers also wear skirts or pants, no jeans. Mass-goers wear whatever, and I’ve never heard of anyone being taken aside. Young people on various committees making announcements at the end are often in jeans.

I also have tremendous respect for this pastor because the lectors are so very well prepared & read so beautifully; it’s clear that he insists on that. And he himself prepares his homilies beautifully and truly loves the scripture, which shows. (Hence his requirements for himself & his lectors when it comes to the reverence for the word of God, in oral preparation and in personal appearance.)
🙂
 
At my church, the vast majority of people don’t dress up at all. I felt very uncomfortable the one time I dressed up!

Regardless of what everyone else is doing, who cares? You aren’t there for any of them, anyway! I’m pretty sure Jesus doesn’t care what you wear! 🙂
 
Like the song says…

“It doesn’t matter what you wear, just as long as you are there”… 🙂 I wear jeans all the time.
👍 Nice reference! 😉

At my church, the vast majority of people don’t dress up at all. I felt very uncomfortable the one time I dressed up!

Regardless of what everyone else is doing, who cares? You aren’t there for any of them, anyway! I’m pretty sure Jesus doesn’t care what you wear! 🙂
 
I don’t have any idea what your clean, presentable clothing looks like, so please don’t take this as a personal criticism; I just want to comment on supposedly the priest “overstepping his authority.”

The priest is the liturgist, the presider. As such, he actually is very much within his authority to be particular about (a) which lectors read at his Mass; (b) how those lectors dress, (c) whether EMHC’s will be used, and how many, & whether there are dress requirements for them; (d) what kind of music he will allow & disallow; (e) how seasoned any altar servers must be; (f) what the Offertory intentions will be; (g) when, & how many, announcements will be made.

IOW, he can specify that any lay participating ministers who do not have proper dress, or do not want to wear proper dress, are ones which do not serve at Masses presided over by him. Now, as a practical matter, most priests – including assistant pastors, occasional guest priests, or rare visitors – tend to abide by the existing customs of that parish, in keeping with what the pastor has decided. But in my experience, lay ministers who enjoy their roles tend to comply willingly with mandates because it’s important enough to them to be included. So in one parish in which I participate in different roles, the pastor allows no jeans for anyone serving in ministerial roles in Mass. Men wear khakis or other non-denim pants, and non-athletic shoes. Female ministers also wear skirts or pants, no jeans. Mass-goers wear whatever, and I’ve never heard of anyone being taken aside. Young people on various committees making announcements at the end are often in jeans.

I also have tremendous respect for this pastor because the lectors are so very well prepared & read so beautifully; it’s clear that he insists on that. And he himself prepares his homilies beautifully and truly loves the scripture, which shows. (Hence his requirements for himself & his lectors when it comes to the reverence for the word of God, in oral preparation and in personal appearance.)
🙂
Speaking of Mass ministers, one of my Aunts is a reader and also is a EMHC. At her parish, they do have a strict dress code for those who do those ministries. Most anything suitable for a business casual or business professional dress code office that is also modest is what they wear when ministering. Denim isn’t allowed if you are doing a reading, EMHC, etc. They ask that those on the schedule show up dressed appropriately just in case they need to be called on as a last minute replacement.

Another parish I go to, some of the EMHCs go up wearing denim to assist. Honestly, if that’s all they have then that’s okay, but I’d rather they wear khakis or dress pants instead with the nice top they paired up with the denim.

When I did EMHC and greeting ministries while I was in high school and college/university, I never wore denim when assisting. I always wore nice pants with a modest top based on the weather, sometimes a dress or a skirt/top combination.
 
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