Boss fired co worker

[HNA444]

I got along very well with a co worker, who I was working in the same department with at my new job. It was only us 2 in the same position, basically working as a team. My boss mentioned how he liked my persistence /aggressiveness, and that she was lacking that . He talked about letting her go, but I didn’t really think he would. We work very well together, and the weaknesses I have, are her strengths, and her weaknesses are my strengths. So, I feel we do great as a team. Today, after work hours, he told me he terminated her because he wasn’t seeing results and that she lacked organization and ambition. About 10 minutes later or so, she called me and told me he terminated her (through text), and he told her it was because they were eliminating that department or something along those lines; basically financial type reasons. She was shocked when I told her what he said, and I was shocked as well. I really like my boss, and felt like he was genuine and I was comfortable opening up, and I liked this co worker a lot. In fact, a big reason for me liking it , was because of her; she helped train me a lot, and I still don’t feel fully trained, and I feel like I won’t perform as well without her there. There’s a lady who works there that is the owner’s sister, and she is not a pleasant person to be around at all, and I feel they might put her in my department, and it would suck. I want to talk to my boss about letting my previous co worker to come back. Any suggestions/advice on what could work, that would help mr get her back in?

 

[ConfusedLucy]

Firing someone by text is really awful, as is your boss discussing your co worker’s performance with you. To be honest I would be questioning whether you want to work there in the long term.

 

[SuperHappy]

A boss who would fire someone by text isn’t likely to be reasonable in you asking for the co-workers job back. Your boss sounds very unprofessional in my opinion. I would be looking for another job.

Also please don’t ever think that your work depends on another person, you have to have more confidence in your own skills and work. Just because the co-worker is gone doesn’t mean you won’t be successful. You made need to take a different path to that success but you can still achieve it.

Good luck with the entire situation.

 

[Jerome1974]

Praying for the intercession of St. Joseph Worker. May his prayers secure blessings for all everyone involved, the wheat and chaff alike.

 

[1ke]

I got along very well with a co worker, who I was working in the same department with at my new job. It was only us 2 in the same position, basically working as a team. My boss mentioned how he liked my persistence /aggressiveness, and that she was lacking that . He talked about letting her go, but I didn’t really think he would. We work very well together, and the weaknesses I have, are her strengths, and her weaknesses are my strengths. So, I feel we do great as a team. Today, after work hours, he told me he terminated her because he wasn’t seeing results and that she lacked organization and ambition. About 10 minutes later or so, she called me and told me he terminated her (through text), and he told her it was because they were eliminating that department or something along those lines; basically financial type reasons. She was shocked when I told her what he said, and I was shocked as well. I really like my boss, and felt like he was genuine and I was comfortable opening up, and I liked this co worker a lot. In fact, a big reason for me liking it , was because of her; she helped train me a lot, and I still don’t feel fully trained, and I feel like I won’t perform as well without her there. There’s a lady who works there that is the owner’s sister, and she is not a pleasant person to be around at all, and I feel they might put her in my department, and it would suck. I want to talk to my boss about letting my previous co worker to come back. Any suggestions/advice on what could work, that would help mr get her back in?

In my experience, smaller family run businesses are rarely run well. They have no concept of proper personnel management, HR laws, etc. They often do things helter-skelter and act capriciously.

I suggest you work hard and build your skills and start looking for something else. You aren’t going to change them, especially if they were looking to make room for the owner’s sister to land in your department.

Move on.

 

[pianistclare]

Boss sounds like a winner.
But really, you should not have repeated his hurtful remark to her.
That’s just as bad in my book. She’s already been let go. Why pile on?
No bueno.
Look fro another job, because you’re likely next.

 

[GLam8833]

Boss sounds like a winner.
But really, you should not have repeated his hurtful remark to her.
That’s just as bad in my book. She’s already been let go. Why pile on?
No bueno.
Look fro another job, because you’re likely next.

I agree, you shouldn’t have told her what the boss’ real reason
for firing her, it will just make her more bitter. In any case pray
for your ex-co-worker and your boss and keep interested in
your work, so that YOU will not be fired.

 

[tawny]

Boss sounds like a winner.
But really, you should not have repeated his hurtful remark to her.
That’s just as bad in my book. She’s already been let go. Why pile on?
No bueno.
Look fro another job, because you’re likely next.

 

[12345678]

I agree, you shouldn’t have told her what the boss’ real reason
for firing her, it will just make her more bitter. In any case pray
for your ex-co-worker and your boss and keep interested in
your work, so that YOU will not be fired.

Not to pile on you, but yeah, I cannot see how telling her what you did was helpful. It may give her more insecurity (and from what you are saying, it may even be unfounded.) For all we know your boss may be telling her the truth and telling you something different to motivate you to work better (or you will get fired as well, kind of thing).

 

[Le_Bonvivant]

Boss sounds like a winner.
But really, you should not have repeated his hurtful remark to her.
That’s just as bad in my book. She’s already been let go. Why pile on?
No bueno.
Look fro another job, because you’re likely next.

How does lying make you a ‘winner’? I hope you’re being sarcastic.

To the OP:

If this boss lies to your friend he’ll do it to you as well when he’s had enough of you or wants to fire you to give your position to someone else. I’ve had a boss in the past as well who lied and set people up against each other. I stayed too long. In the end I left but regretted not doing it earlier. If I were you I would look for a nice job with nice people to work with. Bad atmosphere at your job is a useless drain of your energy.

 

[HNA444]

How does lying make you a ‘winner’? I hope you’re being sarcastic.

To the OP:

If this boss lies to your friend he’ll do it to you as well when he’s had enough of you or wants to fire you to give your position to someone else. I’ve had a boss in the past as well who lied and set people up against each other. I stayed too long. In the end I left but regretted not doing it earlier. If I were you I would look for a nice job with nice people to work with. Bad atmosphere at your job is a useless drain of your energy.

Thanks everyone! I am going to look for a new job. It just sucks because I am still new here. I did apply for a position I was looking to get into, and I got a call today about it. It’s really close to my house too. Hoping I get it.

 

[HNA444]

If/when I do quit, what could I say? I was thinking to just tell him the truth, for the way he fired her.

 

[Anglewannabe]

Sadly, open and honest communication is often a bad thing in business. Telling a boss the real reason you leave is just not a good idea. Tell him you found a better opportunity.

Also,there is obviously a lack of professionalism where you work. The boss telling you he is thinking of firing someone Just not a good atmosphere.

No matter how much you liked this co-worker, telling her what the boss said behind her back was just useless at best. Please think of her feelings and don’t rub salt on her wounds

 

[ConfusedLucy]

As my mother would say, see all, hear all, say nowt. Unless you really feel the need to whisteblow or raise a safeguarding issue at work its best to say little. You don’t need to give your boss a detailed reason for leaving either so its best not to. I’m looking for another job and it is partly due to the commute, I have other issues but me moaning and blaming them for my leaving wont change anything.

Take this as a learning experience and listen to the good advice from this thread.

 

[HNA444]

Sadly, open and honest communication is often a bad thing in business. Telling a boss the real reason you leave is just not a good idea. Tell him you found a better opportunity.

Also,there is obviously a lack of professionalism where you work. The boss telling you he is thinking of firing someone Just not a good atmosphere.

No matter how much you liked this co-worker, telling her what the boss said behind her back was just useless at best. Please think of her feelings and don’t rub salt on her wounds

Of course I’m thinking of her feelings, I’m actually going to help her find a new job! With all due respect, I didn’t call her to rub anything in. She called me to tell me she got terminated, and she thought I wasn’t going to be there anymore either. And then it came up. I didnt do it to hurt her feelings! I actually am on her side, and I’m now looking for a new job, as well as helping her.

 

[Anglewannabe]

Of course I’m thinking of her feelings, I’m actually going to help her find a new job! With all due respect, I didn’t call her to rub anything in. She called me to tell me she got terminated, and she thought I wasn’t going to be there anymore either. And then it came up.** I didnt do it to hurt her feelings! **I actually am on her side, and I’m now looking for a new job, as well as helping her.

Perhaps your intention was not to hurt her feelings. However, anytime you tell someone that someone else said something negatvie about them when they were not around, the end result is you have hurt their feelings.

 

[HNA444]

Perhaps your intention was not to hurt her feelings. However, anytime you tell someone that someone else said something negatvie about them when they were not around, the end result is you have hurt their feelings.

That is true. However, reading back my post, I made it seem I told her right away what he said about her, But what happened was she realized he lied to her since he told her they were elimating that department (clearly they weren’t if I am still there). Then she asked what he said and I mentioned one of the texts that he said that was negative, but I was caught off guard when she asked. I didn’t tell her everything he said, bc he said a lot, and yes he’s very unprofessional. I see what you all mean though… I could had just told her ‘nothing really’ or something else. I feel a little bad now, so I wish I didn’t. I told her I thought she had better potential than me, and she learned a lot of the knowledge very quickly. They made a poor decision. Thanks for the advice!

 

[ConfusedLucy]

That sounds like a really awkward situation where you are told something you shouldn’t have been. This is like a lesson in how not to manage people and if one day you become a manager hopefully you’ll remember what it was like to be managed so badly.

 

[KS_Housewife]

If/when I do quit, what could I say? I was thinking to just tell him the truth, for the way he fired her.

Absolutely not. Then someday when a future job opportunity opens up and the company goes down your resume and calls previous employers, this boss will just unload.

“I am looking forward to new challenges and opportunities. Thank you so much for the opportunity to work for you and learn so much.”

 

[ConfusedLucy]

Absolutely not. Then someday when a future job opportunity opens up and the company goes down your resume and calls previous employers, this boss will just unload.

“I am looking forward to new challenges and opportunities. Thank you so much for the opportunity to work for you and learn so much.”

That’s very true. While most employers just do basic references that confirm you are who you say you are and that the facts you have given are correct I wouldn’t trust someone like this not to retaliate if you left on bad terms.