Why is it that whenever there is a thread about a women having problems with sexual sins it always follows with the blame of the man? Unless it is rape involved, which I doubt since there is no mention of the OP taking police action against her boyfriend, then a woman must take responsibility for her own chastity especially in a relationship with a non-believer. Non-believers have different morals than believers do. By giving in to sex, you actually show to him that religious people are hypocrites that preach one thing and do another when pleasure is at stake and by this you harden his heart to Christ even further. Remember, for many non-religious people sex is a sign of basic love in a relationship. It is something normal that you do if you love each other. So for an agnostic, turning down sex with him can be like rejecting him personally. This is because for many sex is not viewed with the same reverence as Christians revere it. To him, it feels like he is with a girl that he is attracted to but for some reason that he doesnt understand or comprehend she tries to say no to him…then eventually says yes. He probably thinks you are playing a game of hard to get and is playing along. A situation like this happens all to often yet people never seem to learn that there are many ways to get involved with a like-minded person. If you cannot find someone through the course of your life, many churches have single or young adult groups. If this fails, you have tons of dating websites that are centered around Christians finding love.
I have to say that women want equality yet they expect the man to do all the work in keeping the relationship chaste and take most of the blame. If woman want equality and respect from every man than they must stop settling for less and demand more. Just because some men are failing doesnt mean that women have to lower themselves to meet that level. Too many women complain about men and yet they almost always lower their standards to meet the lowest of the men. It seems like an exercise in futility. You complain about something you can control but are too weak to actually stand up for what you want. I think many of the feminists of the 19th and early 20th century would be horrified by women that lower their morality to meet the demands of men. They all fought for the superiority of women’s virtue over men. We have gone from Susan B. Anthony to Paris Hilton in this country. A woman can as Susan B. Anthony believed compete with men on their feminine basis but women are all too content with stooping down to their level and then complaining about how the man didnt change. Well, people do not always change and it does not help anyone get to heaven when we lower our standards because we are too weak to imagine life without regular sex.
I know many men who are much better men than I am that are single just like myself. I think with the amount women complain about finding a good man it is a travesty that some of my friends and family are still single. Many of them have been treated horribly when they have been in a relationship. My brother had a girl that he dated for a short time that got mad at men that held doors open for her. Other women that my friends and family try to get involved with have such emotional problems from past relationships that they cannot handle a normal relationship with a man that treats them well since it seems abnormal to them. Still others cheat on my friends sexually with other men. The common complaint from them is good women are hard to find. Yet I do not see them lowering standards or doing things sexually to gain love like women do. Yes, it is hard for men including myself to find good women but we do not need to have a relationship. This need for a relationship that many women have creates many of their desperate actions to find a man. If only the good women could actually follow through with what they say they want and not accept less I think we would see less of these all too common threads on here and we would all have less problems with temptation and falling into sin.
