Brides, would you trash your wedding gown?

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I saw a story on the local 10:00 p.m. news about a new trend. Supposedly, some brides are now jumping into bodies of water, getting their gowns muddy, or ruining them in some other fashion while being photographed doing so. What on earth are they thinking?
 
This is a trend that is growing in popularity, at least in my area. I think that it does make for some magnificent photos, but I personally am too attached to my dress (not to mention how much it cost :eek:) to be able to actually “trash” it. I am considering doing a session with about 15 other brides in my area where we would walk around downtown, Churchill Downs, etc. It’s still called “Trash the Dress”, but at worst there will only be a little dirt that could easily be cleaned so I can still preserve my dress. 👍
 
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I saw a story on the local 10:00 p.m. news about a new trend. Supposedly, some brides are now jumping into bodies of water, getting their gowns muddy, or ruining them in some other fashion while being photographed doing so. What on earth are they thinking?
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Heh – In my bride’s family it is just the opposite. In my attic there are four(!) wedding gowns (hers, her mother’s, grandmother’s, and great-grandmother’s) – All “saved” so “my daughter will wear it one day”. And obviously none of them have. 😛

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The dress is just a dress. There is no magical power to it. I had mine put away in a storage box because I wanted my daughter to be able to wear it if she choose. But I did walk to the river’s edge in it on my wedding day and got it pretty muddy on the hem! In the past, women did not buy a dress specifically for the wedding. That is a pretty new custom (historically speaking). And the practice of spending outrageous sums of money of dresses, cakes, etc for the wedding is very new (at least for us regular folk). Pesonally, I wouldn’t want to jump in a lake fully clothed and be photgraphed doing it period, but some people just can’t stay out of the spotlight!
 
COnsidering the ridiculous amount of money people spent on these gowns, it seems like a bit of a waste.

That’s be like me driving my Ferarri into a pond (if i had one) for the sake of cool pictures.

It just seems like a way to get attention. Fiscally, they should have just sold the dress on ebay or craig’s list and recouped the money. My fiancee is selling 8 bride’s maids dresses as we speak online.
 
No I would not. If I didn’t plan to keep it I would donate it. Mine was made into our daughter’s baptism gown by my MIL. Hopefully it will become a family heirloom.🙂
 
Well, I made my dress for about $50 and it was really nothing special (I’m not such a good seamstress) so I woulnd’t really care. But there is no way I would spend the kind of money most brides to and trash it. I’d rather sell it or donate it if I didn’t want to keep it.
 
rayne89 said:
No I would not. If I didn’t plan to keep it I would donate it.
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After my divorce, I donated mine to the Association for the Blind thrift shop. I figured I went into that disaster of a marriage as a blind fool, so this was an appropriate charity. (BTW, this was when I was young and stupid, and before I became a Catholic and learned what marriage was really supposed to be about). But I certainly wouldn’t trash it, esp. having photos taken, even though it wasn’t very expensive – mine was an ivory-colored prom dress bought on sale for less than $100.

My mother’s wedding dress is still in its box in the attic, 55 years later. I was the only girl of this generation and it wouldn’t have fit me even if I had wanted to wear it (I didn’t), and the next generation is all boys, so I don’t know what will finally become of it. Maybe sell it on eBay? 🤷
 
I think the reality that dresses are passed down to daughter to wear rarely happens. Most brides want to be able to have the fun of picking out the dress that suits them.

Donating the dress is a great idea. I have had my first dress in a box doing nothing. So I guess there is no difference in trashing the dress in a mud pit or setting it in a box to sit forever.

I am thinking that I may display my new dress for my upcoming wedding in a glass covered shadow box. Not sure.
 
mother nature did that for me, when the basement of our first home flooded. sickening, but true.
 
I think this is all part of the trend to spectacularize weddings, and feed the wedding industry, not the marriage. No where does all this folderol make a good marriage, including and especially jumping in a pond or river or the ocean in a $1,500-$10,000 and up dress worn for one day. In the past 30 years, it has gotten worse, to the point where a couple feels compelled to live with each other for years (I’ve heard three years and counting upwards) in order to afford a “proper” wedding.

I’m not saying go back to the time when the bride wore black, dark gray or brown because her wedding dress became her “good” dress and those were servicable colors.

It should not take more than six months to a year in my opinion to put together a servicable household, plan a reception, and most importantly, prepare for the Sacrament of Matrimony each part of the couple will confer on the other- living separately until there are vows exchanged.
 
I wore mine to a halloween party once, then after that - It just disappeared in cleaning out when we moved. Of course, I did not spend a gazillion dollars on that dress ($75) 😃
 
My wedding dress mysteriously disappeared. That’s okay though because I got divorced.

I have a feeling if you are seeing photos of women trashing wedding gowns by getting them muddy, they are probably second hand gowns picked up at thrift stores. My daughter and I went and made the rounds to the local thrift stores a couple of weekends ago, and there were no shortage of wedding dresses there.
 
If I had a $10,000 wedding gown, no way would I trash it for some silly photo opportunity. That is wasteful.

I made my dress, and some time afterward made it into curtains for our home.

I would have loved to wear my mother’s dress, but none of us four girls fit in it (my mom was a model and had a teeny waist).

'thann
 
rayne89 said:
No I would not. If I didn’t plan to keep it I would donate it. Mine was made into our daughter’s baptism gown by my MIL. Hopefully it will become a family heirloom.🙂
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Now that’s a really neat idea! Maybe my dd’s will be so lucky to have MIL’s that can sew(I sure can’t).
 
Mine is sitting in a box in a closet. I wanted to rent one, so that I could have a really gorgeous gown I could never afford to buy, and then not have the hindrance of keeping it around. I know I never wanted to wear my mother’s wedding dress…the thing was hideous. And by the time my daughters are getting married, the styles will be all different and they will want to choose their own. When I suggested the rental, both my MIL and my stepmom had coronaries and insisted I couldn’t do that, that I would regret not having the keepsake. And yet, here I am, 10 years later, with a gorgeous white dress in a closet that has not seen the light of day since the cleaners put it in that box! :rolleyes:

I would never trash it though. That’s just stupid and wasteful. But how much of our culture is like that these days? It’s just part of the ethos of the times, I guess. How many of these people will trash their marriages inside of five years? I always cringe when I hear about these $100,000 weddings, because I wonder, what does Daddy think about spending all that money when it doesn’t last? I think our wedding cost less than $10,000 total, and I mean including the rings.

I heard about people who will make your wedding gown into a christening gown, and I just thought that was a BEAUTIFUL idea! Had I known about that before I had my first, I would have had that done. Then I would have had all my babies baptized in it. But alas, I didn’t know until years later. But I am thinking that perhaps I will do that for one of my children. Or maybe I will eventually donate the dress to charity, I don’t know. 🤷
 
I have never heard of this. I sure would not intentionally dirty or damage my lovely dress!!
 
**My dress has no special significance to me. It’s my rings that symbolize my love for my husband and his for me. The dress…once removed that night 😉 …was history. It’s already yellowing (we’ve only been married 19months.) I saw no purpose in getting it preserved…I mean the chances of me having a girl that would be the EXACT same size, build and shape on her wedding day…yeah right. 😛 **
 
For those of you who might be looking to donate your dresses, during the month of October, Curves collects used dresses for the Brides for Breast Cancer event.

The used dresses are cleaned and repaired then sold at terrific prices. The money goes to breast cancer awareness. (no debates about the pill and breast cancer, please) —KCT
 
Hey, thanks KCT! Maybe I will finally get rid of it. There are several Curves around here.

I have the beautiful pictures from the day, and as a PP pointed out, it is the consecrated rings on my finger that are the important part of what I wore that day…
 
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