Brides, would you trash your wedding gown?

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Only if I regretted having gotten married in the first place, LOL. If I’d been divorced for whatever reason, I’d probably want to get rid of reminders of that first marriage. Otherwise, that’s just dumb.
 
Truly_Beloved said:
I thought about wearing mine again for our 25th and then our 50th wedding anniversary parties. Yes, in public! With witnesses! 😃 I figure by the time I’m 47 and 72, I really won’t care what people think of me, anyway, and it would be so much fun.
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Lol! I’m just going to prance about in front of all my boys, that’s enough audience for me! But it does sound like fun, dressing up and going out for dinner as you and hasikelee describe. 🙂

I decided several months ago that I would try my dress on when we celebrate our 10th …it’s been great incentive to keep up with my workouts in order to still fit into my dress after having three big bouncing boys! Pilates rules! :cool:
 
Sr_Sally said:
She probably did what many of us do and restrained herself. Don’t invite everyone you’ve ever met, don’t think ice sculptures are necessary, don’t serve filet mingon and have an open bar, don’t give everyone an engraved bauble as a party favor, don’t have 3,000 ballons in the decor.

The reception does not have to be the best, most magical, most wonderfulest night ever, for it to be memorable. I got married in one of the most expensive cities in the country and we managed a beautiful wedding and a wonderful reception on much, much less than 20 thousand! In fact, we might still be paying for the wedding if it had cost that much!!! :eek:
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Oh, I’ve restrained myself. It’s something I have been complimented on by all of the vendors I’ve worked with so far. The reception site caters and the open bar is part of the package, and it’s 85 dollars a head. No ice sculptures, and egads no ballons, I haven’t even gotten to the favors yet. The flowers quote was 2700 including delivery and set up charges, and I’m not using expensive flowers. Well, I am, but I’m using big flowers,like peonies and hydrangeas which take up more room thus actually costing less.Cake is 3.25 a slice. The problem is that we have an invite list of 260.And that’s not just people I’ve met once or twice. Well some of it is, but that’s his family. My parents have invited only family and a few close friends. I’m only inviting 12 plus guests (and 3 plus their guests are in the wedding party)
 
i don’t have time to read all the posts but…

i wouldn’t trash my dress…I love it. 🙂 If my daughter wants to wear it one day, fantastic. (will it still be beautiful then? or waaaay out of style…who knows.) If not, perhaps I will be blessed with sons, and perhaps I will be blessed further to have priests…in that case I daydream of doing what St. Gianna did with her wedding gown…she had it made into vestments for her brothers, who were going to be priests.

We don’t need baptismal gowns or communion dresses, since we already have family ones to use. 🙂
 
Tenebrae said:
I saw a story on the local 10:00 p.m. news about a new trend. Supposedly, some brides are now jumping into bodies of water, getting their gowns muddy, or ruining them in some other fashion while being photographed doing so. What on earth are they thinking?
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The dress is a symbol of the purity of the birde and the the marriage. So if you trash the dress you are symbolically trashing the sanctity of the marriage and the woman. I would be against that.
 
thedavidwilson said:
The dress is a symbol of the purity of the birde and the the marriage. So if you trash the dress you are symbolically trashing the sanctity of the marriage and the woman. I would be against that.
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Exactly. It seems that they have no concept of the sanctity of marriage.

With regard to re-making the dress–it used to be a custom to use the mother’s bridal gown to make the chasuble for her son the priest’s first Mass.

Also, it used to be that if a woman died in childbirth she would be buried in her wedding gown. There’s an interesting story which is part of Chicagoland’s local lore about Giulia Petta, the Italian Bride. I’ll have to start a new thread about that.
 
thedavidwilson said:
The dress is a symbol of the purity of the birde and the the marriage. So if you trash the dress you are symbolically trashing the sanctity of the marriage and the woman. I would be against that.
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A dress is a dress - it is not a sacramental, it is not a vestment - it is a dress. Wedding dresses are not blessed, they are not required for a Sacramental marriage.

White wedding dresses are a modern cultural trend. If you love your dress, keep it - but it those of us who do not treasure that bit of cloth should not be painted as devaluing the sanctity of marriage and our womanhood.
 
kage_ar said:
A dress is a dress - it is not a sacramental, it is not a vestment - it is a dress. Wedding dresses are not blessed, they are not required for a Sacramental marriage.

White wedding dresses are a modern cultural trend. If you love your dress, keep it - but it those of us who do not treasure that bit of cloth should not be painted as devaluing the sanctity of marriage and our womanhood.
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Yes, blue was originally the color of purity for wedding dresses, but most women, whatever the level of purity would wear their best dress, which was usually dark, because of the dirt roads, frequency of washing, etc. Then rich ones decided to show off and wear white ones - “look at how rich I am. I can wear something that can only be worn once”. Nothing whatsoever do do with purity, chastity, or a sacrament. Just plain old vanity.

Plenty of virgins get married in a non-white gown, and aspersions are cast. Plenty of sluts are married in a white dress and no one says a word. It’s a color, and does not signify purity/virginity - happiness in the West and death in the East, but not virginity.

snopes.com/weddings/customs/dress.asp
 
queen_anne78 said:
in that case I daydream of doing what St. Gianna did with her wedding gown…she had it made into vestments for her brothers, who were going to be priests.
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Now THAT is a cool idea! We have a family baptismal gown also, so no need to make one of those (and really how much of a wedding dress does that use?) But vestments!! Terrific idea!!!
 
queen_anne78 said:
perhaps I will be blessed with sons, and perhaps I will be blessed further to have priests…in that case I daydream of doing what St. Gianna did with her wedding gown…she had it made into vestments for her brothers, who were going to be priests.
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Or you could make it into a *maniturgium * – That is the cloth a priest uses to wipe his hands after their annointing at ordination. Following that ceremony, the priest sets it aside until his mother’s death, when it will be placed in her hands to be buried with her.

Sometimes these days, they use two *maniturgia *-- One for each parent.

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my mom’s dressed got water damage and it’s probably packed away in a box somewhere. No chance of me wearing it, ethier orginally or modified, although if If there is a space on it by the time we pull it out that i can cut out and use on my own dress, I will (for something old), I’m already planning on wearing my aunt’s veil (something borrowed). Of course beyond those I’m not planning on a tradition wedding gown by any means. I want a strapless white cocktail dress, something that can go with fishnets and knee high boots;) .
 
Goth_Catholic said:
my mom’s dressed got water damage and it’s probably packed away in a box somewhere. No chance of me wearing it, ethier orginally or modified, although if If there is a space on it by the time we pull it out that i can cut out and use on my own dress, I will (for something old), I’m already planning on wearing my aunt’s veil (something borrowed). Of course beyond those I’m not planning on a tradition wedding gown by any means. I want a strapless white cocktail dress, something that can go with fishnets and knee high boots;) .
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Umm… are you comfortable wearing a strapless cocktail dress (w/fishnets) in church?
 
rayne89 said:
Umm… are you comfortable wearing a strapless cocktail dress (w/fishnets) in church?
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Yup. I have a long sleeve fishnet top to wear with it. Plus I’m short, a cocktail dress would go nearly to my knees, between the hem of the dress and my boots the fishnets wouldn’t be very visable.
 
Why would you spend so much on a dress just to trash it after the ceremony? I don’t care if it is free… wasting is wasting. I know my dress was only $75 but it was worth alot more nevermind that I got a great price for it… why…all I can ask is why???
 
Goth_Catholic said:
Yup. I have a long sleeve fishnet top to wear with it. Plus I’m short, a cocktail dress would go nearly to my knees, between the hem of the dress and my boots the fishnets wouldn’t be very visable.
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Many Churches don’t allow strapless, fyi. I know ours doesn’t, not that it mattered to my fiance.
 
He_Man said:
Many Churches don’t allow strapless, fyi. I know ours doesn’t, not that it mattered to my fiance.
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I’m pretty sure mine does…but i’m only 16 and 1/2, won’t be getting married anytime soon, I don’t even have a boyfriend!
 
rayne89 said:
No I would not. If I didn’t plan to keep it I would donate it. Mine was made into our daughter’s baptism gown by my MIL. Hopefully it will become a family heirloom.🙂
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Wow! Now there is a beautiful idea.

I hated my dress for my first wedding. Total '80’s high neck, rufflely blech. My mom convinced me to get it because it was only $70 as opposed to the $150 gown that I really wanted. I believe I sent that dress to the Goodwill shortly before my divorce became final. I really wanted to burn it. My mom thought I should save it for my dd, but there was no way I wanted to pass my bad luck onto her.

For my second wedding, I splurged and bought a $600 dress :hypno: I worried because we were paying the entire bill ourselves, and trying to buy a house, and raising five children. Dh was like, "no problem, my ex paid $2000 for hers :eek: ".

Anyway… I love that dress. There’s no way I’d ruin it in mud or clorine. Dd has said she’s like to wear it, but she and I are built very different. I don’t think it will fit her. I’ve debated having it made into a quilt, but really can’t decide. It’s hanging in my closet right now.

Kim
 
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