AlanFromWichita:
Sorry women can’t join, but I think at least getting the men this unified behind Mary is a plus.
Alan
When it comes to religious groups, such as K of C, I see nothing wrong with men’s only or women’s only groups. I am proud of the things the Knights do and there are so many other groups in which I can participate. It just seems selfish to me, and prideful, for women to try to push their way into such groups.
I had an emptiness with regards to Mary, but it stemmed from no exposure, other than seeing my dad pray a Rosary and talk about her, which is more than most Catholics in the '70’s got. Although, all that dad tried to do was undone when I got active in the youth group up at Church and Catholics there pretty much never bothered with anything Marian at all, and I took on an attitude of “why do devotions when I can simply talk to God?”
I decided to trust a little more and to get into some Marian devotions. I’ve now been praying the Rosary daily since May and decided to plunge into the Total Consecration to Jesus through Mary, which is coming up on the 15th. I’ve been using the 33-day preparation based on St. Louis de Montfort’s method. It is loaded with readings and prayers for 33 days. While I do not fully grasp this whole concept, I saw the list of popes and others I respect who themselves had taken the plunge. With that, I move forward mainly on faith while working to understand this whole thing better through reading. It is working. True Devotion to Mary by de Montfort and the Secrets of the Rosary are two books I have been slowly chewing on and they are quite interesting.
Imagine the Mystical Body where Christ is the Head and we are the members. If Christ was born through Mary (Head), it stands to reason, as de Montfort says, that the members too would pass through her. One does not give birth only to a head.
How does this relate to the topic of Cafeteria Catholicism? As I said earlier, I have no problems with those who struggle with the faith. However, I believe those struggles need to be dealt with in a way that does not create scandal or lead other people down a path of confusion. I humbly search for answers in true Catholic material by good theologians and when I still don’t get it, I ask an orthodox Catholic priest to help me to understand. When I struggled with contraception, no one knew. It took many years for me to finally come to an acceptance, but I never once, that I recall, led others to question it by taking my doubts public.
I have a problem with blatant dissent - people who have thought it over, who are no longer struggling and simply want the Church to change. That is a true Cafeteria Catholic to me. They are obstinate and what I find most often is that they have not even made an attempt to dig deeply into why the Church has taken the position it has. Many who do, end up where I have. Some continue to work and chew on it, but that should always be done quietly, with prayer and reflection, study, and dialogue with people who themselves have accepted it.
In other words, doubts should be dealt with as if the particular teaching we struggle with is something to which we should assent, not something in which we need to decide if we are going to assent to or not. By taking the first approach I go to sources that support it and get that end of the argument first, not at the same time and not last. I am helping myself to assent to something, be it papal infallibility on faith and morals or contraception. Christopher West has so many books out that young Catholics are now reading based on JP2’s Theology of the Body. I have seen complete change in people based on this material. This makes it a good source of information if one is struggling and truly trying to help themselves to accept the teaching. If they are not trying to accept it, they won’t bother with it because it may drive change.
What I also find all to often among those who blatantly dissent, such as McBrien, Kung, Curran, and the people who loyally follow them at events like Call to Action which many true dissenters support, is that they have shoved Mary aside. That is how you get a book written by a Nun-theologian suggesting Mary is simply our “sister” and not our mother. The book is shameful in how it reduces Mary and disregards Jesus’ words, “This is your mother…”
newoxfordreview.org/reviews.jsp?did=0105-gardiner
Fortunately, the attempts by many older and retiring Nuns and priests (spirit of V2 folk), to dissolve Mary have failed. The young, inspired by JP2, are taking her up now. It is driving some like McBrien nuts.