You must ask yourself what kind of home do you want? Do you want a Catholic home? No matter what they tell you about women’s lib, women do the majority of the child rearing in a family, especially when they are small. A Catholic wife will raise Catholic children. A Baptist wife will raise Baptist children.
My husband’s aunt was non-Catholic. She married a Catholic. She went to her church, the husband and sons went to the Catholic church. She regrets that now. The kids don’t go to any church. After all, aren’t the all the same? And if they are all the same then you don’t really need a church anyway since they are all different you can just do your own thing.
If your faith is important to you then you will want that for your kids. Money and religion destroy more marriages than infidelity.
the purpose of dating is to discern if you are a match and can form a family. That means you really have to decide what is a priority in your life.
It’s not about being the same…
I believe in the Catholic Church, not the Baptist.
I sympathise with other Christians and alas… I haven’t met many Catholic girls that I felt attracted to (and I’m not talking about looks). I don’t even know if we will get married… that’s why she’s still my girlfriend and not my fiancee.
I know that women teach their children a lot, but that doesn’t mean that fathers do not. I was raised in a house where my mother was often away from home because she was a doctor and couldn’t choose her own schedule or where to work (it’s like that in Portugal).
I had to spend a whole week with my sister and my father without seeing my mother. I believe I am a healthy person, both mentally and spiritually (although some might not agree because I fell in love with a Baptist) and I believe that if a couple decides together how to deal with the education and are honest about it then the children can get raised properly. By the way both my parents are Catholic (if you are wondering) but my father for some years wouldn’t go to mass, and I still kept going.
The truth is that I had a very good support group in the Focolare.
I don’t want a “Catholic” home for the purpose of being Catholic. Sure, I never dreamed I was going to fall in love with a Baptist in my life, but at least she is super devoted to following Jesus, which is not the same I can say for other Catholic girls where I live.
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I don’t know if it can work or not, I was just sharing my experience because I find myself in a similar situation as the OP it’s not like I want to turn the tables on me. I am already talking to the right people to know how to proceed and this Baptism thingy is so important for her because she remembers the day when she was Baptised and for her it was the happiest day of her life and she wants her children to feel the same. It’s not like she’s doing it because of some “imposed doctrine” by the Baptist Church. (Do they even have such a doctrine?)
My priority in my Life is to follow God wherever He leads me. He got me a job in her country. He got me the chance of meeting her and falling in love with her even after our first talks were mostly discussions. God is the center of my life. I don’t want to walk away from something just because I’m afraid of not being able to deal with it. With God all things are possible. And Mother Church allows for her children to marry other Christians… so it’s not like I would be doing something forbiden.
I love my girlfriend very much and getting to know her has allowed me to get to know much more than I ever thought possible. I am young, I can still change, that’s a fact, but for now I don’t see any sign that I should move on. We are still in the process of getting to know each other. I started courtship around 3 months.
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