Can a Democrat stay married to a Conservative?

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My father leans Republican. My mother leans Democrat. They’re also mixed faith. They’re still goin’ strong.
 
Maybe there is something to that “opposites attract” theory.
 
Bataar said:
As a lonely, single conservative, I still wouldn’t want to date a liberal.
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Aw, that’s kind of sad. You’ve prejudged all who don’t share your political beliefs without meeting them. There are plenty of liberals who do the same thing and more’s the pity. We don’t really grow, I don’t think, when we stick to our silos.
 
You might compare it to a Christian not wanting to date a non-Christian?
 
gracepoole said:
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Bataar:
As a lonely, single conservative, I still wouldn’t want to date a liberal.
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Aw, that’s kind of sad. You’ve prejudged all who don’t share your political beliefs without meeting them. There are plenty of liberals who do the same thing and more’s the pity. We don’t really grow, I don’t think, when we stick to our silos.
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It’s not a really a prejudge. If they’re liberal, it’s because they believe certain things or have specific views. Most people know what those are. If those views and beliefs are incompatible with me, there’s no point in dating them as those differences would just be too great. It wouldn’t be fair for that person to date someone who looks down on their views would it?
 
My husband and I were both middle of the road independent when we married, but we have grown towards the opposite spectrum. It wouldn’t be so bad except he watches all those shows making fun of my side of the political thought and posting “deplorable” memes.

Generally speaking, political talk is Verboten in my house though.
 
Believe it or not, there are more to politics than Democrats and Republicans.

Yes, people with differing political beliefs can be friends and spouses. This works when one does not raise politics to the same level as religion.
tomarin said:
What about conservative Democrats? That used to be a thing.
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There is still a very active group of Pro-Life Democrats.
Ridgerunner said:
But I could never marry one of today’s Dems for fear she might kill some of our children. I would never be able to get that possibility out of my mind.
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This is such a ghastly caricature that it boggles the mind. I know people who are high ranking Democrats to plain ole Joe Democrats, not one of them would kill their children.

Might as well say “I could never marry a Republican for fear that they would brag about molesting women” or “for fear that they would take away grandma’s social security”.
 
Bataar said:
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gracepoole:
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Bataar:
As a lonely, single conservative, I still wouldn’t want to date a liberal.
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Aw, that’s kind of sad. You’ve prejudged all who don’t share your political beliefs without meeting them. There are plenty of liberals who do the same thing and more’s the pity. We don’t really grow, I don’t think, when we stick to our silos.
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It’s not a really a prejudge. If they’re liberal, it’s because they believe certain things or have specific views. Most people know what those are. If those views and beliefs are incompatible with me, there’s no point in dating them as those differences would just be too great. It wouldn’t be fair for that person to date someone who looks down on their views would it?
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Well, no – if you’d be looking down on a liberal partner’s views, it wouldn’t be fair to date him or her. But of course, this would be a choice on your part. I don’t “look down on” my husband’s views.
 
It is true that being challenged in our views can help us grow, evolve, and mature our opinions and beliefs. However the idea that “opposites attract” really isn’t all that true. It just depends on what each person holds as truly valuable or non-negotiable. Like I personally don’t like to date women who say they don’t like kids. However I could not imagine a couple splitting up over disagreement on tax policy! They can’t have had much in common at all if tax rates or the national debt drove them apart lol. I imagine it is the more moral issues that are sticking points for people that transcend actual politics in the same way that religious views do. Idk, I think most couple’s non negotiables aren’t political in nature, but I also think that is changing as politics has apparently become so horribly polarized to where people in either isle believe that if the other side disagrees with them, it stems from malicious intent and evil character. Anyways all I really wanted to say is that opposites don’t really attract and if they do it’s usually not a very strong relationship. Politics isn’t necessarily “opposite” though.

And now that I think about it, the majority of my very good friends are actually kind of left leaning while I am not. And I don’t live in a particularly liberal area either. Wonder what that says about me. 🤔
 
I’m a Dem. My husband was a Republican. We were married for 23 years. We didn’t care all that much about politics so the only time it would ever come up was maybe a little joking or discussion around election times.

For some people, politics is super important…maybe too important. Most politics to me is a bunch of hot air.
 
I’m the most blessed person on earth because I have family & friends from one end of the spectrum to the other. There can be debates, but, in the end we respect each other as people and we all desire to end with love.

That being said, only a tiny fraction of my conservative friends consider that small red mammal or other “outrage networks” to be more than fodder for jokes.
 
TheLittleLady said:
This is such a ghastly caricature that it boggles the mind. I know people who are high ranking Democrats to plain ole Joe Democrats, not one of them would kill their children.

Might as well say “I could never marry a Republican for fear that they would brag about molesting women” or “for fear that they would take away grandma’s social security”.
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Repubs don’t say either thing or advocate either thing, so that’s an idle condemnation with no foundation.

But for Dems, abortion is a positive good. Remember Obama saying he supports “choice” because he wouldn’t want one of his daughters “burdened with a baby”.

Think about that! his own grandchild and he was just fine with ending its life so his daughter wouldn’t be “burdened”. Burdened! What a scoundrel! How could he not say he would raise the child if it came to it?

And Dems love the guy and everything he says or does.
 
That was what ONE Democrat candidate said. You can judge every member of the party by what one man said?

Why is it okay to hate that man over one statement yet easily dismiss another candidate for making grossly crude brags about molesting women? The double standard is quite something.
 
TheLittleLady said:
That was what ONE Democrat candidate said. You can judge every member of the party by what one man said?

Why is it okay to hate that man over one statement yet easily dismiss another candidate for making grossly crude brags about molesting women? The double standard is quite something.
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I don’t hate Obama. I do hate the fact that he so airily dismissed the notion of his own grandchildren being murdered. There is nothing at all to compare in killing children and bragging of sexual exploits like a 13 year old. The latter is vulgar and juvenile. But it’s not killing. Killing is killing.
 
Except conservative or liberal isn’t a party, but a value system and worldview, to me.

The two dont share that on essential basic things in life. I don’t need children getting different messages from their parents on key issues in life.

And my wife would never have been able to stand my zeal and intense passion for my conservative beliefs if she did not share. I suspect times, I almost drive her nuts when I rant about an issue, and she agrees with me! I cant imagine how unhappy she be if she felt the opposite.

Friends can be friends as long as they stick to the superficial and trivial. A buddy of mine from high school knows if our conversation gets political at all, it kills our desire to be around one another. So we stick to nostalgic topics and trivial matters.
 
Dr_Meinheimer said:
And my wife would never have been able to stand my zeal and intense passion for my conservative beliefs if she did not share.
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Not everybody has “zeal and intense passion” for something they may see as essentially political.
I save my “zeal and intense passion” for matters other than gun control or this year’s Federal budget.
 
I find many issues are so fundamental that there is nothing worthy of more zeal, other than matters entirely of faith. The definition of marriage, rights of Christian’s being infringed on in the public square, treatment of the poor and destitute, right to life, the oversexualization of our pornographic culture, and more.

I suppose it depends on what a person is most passionate about. Likely a spouse who fundamentally disagreed on those key things would create a major disconnect. What beyond the trivial would we have in common that mattered?
 
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