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Thanks. I’ve actually written it all down.very interesting to read your story… Thanks…
Maybe you should go into more detail and get it published… like maybe as one of the stories in Surprised by Truth… You may know there are 3 volumes or so of that… VERY interesting reading…
If some non-catholics would just read those books… well… i can’t see how they would stay protestant… (oh oh… i just blew it…)
or anotoher way poster could begin to appreciate Catholicism …
he could become Evangelical Free…![]()
We did so to have a record of the exact timeline just in case there was ever an inquiry, or in case one of our daughters came forward with…well, let’s just say that we suspected that there may have been some sexual abuse of one of our daughters by someone in that church, as while we were attending, that daughter refused to go into the church unless she was with one of us (mom or dad) or with her boyfriend. She was actually afraid of the church, and the night we came home after the tribunal, she was waiting at home. After she heard what had happened, she screamed out, “I TOLD YOU! All these years, I’ve been telling you that that church is EVIL! We should have quit years ago. You should have listened to me.”
Yes, it sends chills up and down your spine, doesn’t it? I wish we had listened to our daughter, but who listens to a little girl?
Anyway, we kept a record of it all.
A word about the Evangelical Free Church in America, in their defense and FYI.
Please don’t get the idea from my account that all EFree churches are like this one.
We know several EFree churches that are filled with delightful Christians and rock-solid pastors and teachers (yes, Protestant, of course!). These churches do much good, and as one of the readings (the Gospel?) stated a few weeks ago, “If they’re not against us, they’re for us!”
The biggest EFree church in our city partnered with the Catholic churches and the huge Assembly of God church and a lot of little Protestant churches to do the 40 Days for Life Prayer Vigil this Easter. That was wonderful–the EFree church hosted several of the big rallies, which worked out well because their church building is so ideal for hosting rallies (unlike the Catholic church buildings in our city).
That E Free church also has a huge outdoor ampitheater, and during the summer, they host a weekly FREE concert that features some of the top names in Christian music, like Sandy Patti, Michael W. Smith, Glen Campbell, and other groups that are more contemporary (but since I don’t follow CCM, I can’t remember their names! sorry!)
It’s really really nice to attend these concerts–clean, wholesome atmosphere, cheap food, a special program for the children with puppets and singing and crafts–it’s just really special. I miss this–Catholic churches don’t do this kind of thing, and if they do, there’s liquor.
So there are some really good E Free churches. Don’t assume they’re all creepy like the one we attended and were ousted from.
Here’s the scoop–remember it. The Evangelical Free Church in America is comprised of autonomous churches.
What this means is that each church is free (hence the name “Free”) to do as they please within their church. They can preach or teach any book of the Bible that they wish–there is no “liturgy” or “curriculum” that they have to follow.
They can support whatever missionaries or missionary groups that they wish, and they don’t have to give money to support a denominational headquarters or denominational missionaries–it’s their free choice.
They can have a youth group, or not. They can host a home-school co-op, or not. They can have communion services once a month or once a year. It’s their free choice.
They can support the local food pantry (non-religious, but still a great refuge for the poor), or not. They can support local pro-life activities, or not. It’s their free choice.
They are FREE–there is no denominational council or consistory or convention or board to oversee them and force them to offer a certain kind of church.
This is really nice for a local church, as you can imagine. It’s kind of like “Republican church!” No government interference! You get to keep your money and spend it the way YOU like!
However, this “freedom” can backfire. In autonomous churches, a “bad” pastor can lead an entire congregation astray. Hopefully the deacons and elders would speak up and kick the pastor out, but often, the bad teaching happens gradually, and the people become so attached to the pastor that they tend to ignore disturbing little signs, and then they get sucked into some bad teachings or practices.
We believe this is what happened at the E Free church that we attended. We’ve talked to Christian counselors who’ve told us that others have been “damaged” by that church. Something bad is happening there.
Interestingly, at the E Free church that kicked us out, one teaching that was propagated and emphasized was the important of having many children. The Senior pastor and his wife had eight children, and all were homeschooled. The Youth pastor and his wife had seven children. The Head elder had eight children, and they were still working on more. Many of the families in that church had six or more children.
And there were other good things about the church. Some of the people were pretty decent. The kids and their parents were great.
But the big problem was, when my husband and I were thrown out, there was no one that we could appeal to for an investigation. The Senior Pastor is the final authority in the E Free church. There is no consistory or diocese or anyone to appeal to. No one holds the Senior pastor accountable except for his own congregation.
So different than the Catholic Church. When something is not right about your parish, you can appeal to the diocese, the bishop, and work your way up to the very top! Not the case with the autonomous churches like the E Free churches.
Anyway, hope this info is useful to some of you.