Can men dress immodestly?

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It’s interesting how culture affects things as well. For example, in various cultures, the mentality was that women had to be watched all the time, because women were so insatiably sexual that if they weren’t watched they’d hop into bed with any man at all. (The solution, usually, was to keep them home.) Now we think the opposite.
 
That’s not to say necessarily that men in their twenties don’t get turned on easily.

It still remains that men’s attraction (as a general rule) is physical, whereas women’s is more psychological. Also, men just have a much more intense sex drive than women.
 
My friend,

You are confusing attraction and lust. It is possible to be attracted to someone without listing after them.
 
semper_catholicus said:
That’s not to say necessarily that men in their twenties don’t get turned on easily.

It still remains that men’s attraction (as a general rule) is physical, whereas women’s is more psychological. Also, men just have a much more intense sex drive than women.
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Of course you’ll still have a drive in your 20s, but by then most people have grown into it (so to speak) and aren’t the same hormonal spazzes that they were as teens. I turned 23 today, and I’m much more at ease with my sexuality compared to when I was in high school. Even then, I certainly wasn’t presumptuous enough to think that anyone who “set me off” was being immodest.

Have you actually asked women about their experiences with sexual attraction? A lot of women do fantasize about the male form, do care about what men look like, and can experience extremely strong desires. Men don’t have the monopoly on intense physical attraction, or struggles with lust.
 
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Male bodies are not as heavily sexualised as female bodies in our society, so a natural result is that men’s fashion are typically modest (ie not designed to look ‘sexy’). Women are visual though. Pop psych likes to say that women are seduced through the ears but that’s honestly just a huge generalization. We are just not as visual, but a good deal of us lust after men. Increasingly so, since everything now is sexualised (including men) which can explain why a significant portion of women watch porn now. Think of men in Saudi Arabia vs men in Hawaii. They’re conditioned to find different areas of the body sexy. An ankle is not scandalous in the states, but go to another culture…

However there are certain types of fashion that can be immodest (codpieces) lol.

Anyway, men can be immodest. From what I see as a young woman, men tend to be immodest by the things they post rather than what they wear on a night out. Nobody wants to see your gym pics on Instagram every day, Jack!
 
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Lea101 said:
Attraction in general is psychological, dude.
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That is very true. I would imagine that most men are looking for more than T&A in an SO, just as most women are looking for a little more than a “nice guy.”
 
True, but it’s also that even if you’re attracted to boobs, your brain is involved and responsible for the arousal. Which makes it psychological, lol!
 
Lol, true. Technicalities are bae.
 
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semper_catholicus said:
You are confusing attraction and lust. It is possible to be attracted to someone without listing after them.
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You can’t lust after something that you don’t find attractive, though, which begs the question of why pants on women are such an issue for you.
 
I’m pretty shocked that thin white t-shirts don’t seem to have been mentioned. I’m here as a man attracted to men, but I daresay men ought to be concerned about being modest with respect to what we find attractive, too. To me, a man could be handsome and attractive in a totally nonsexual way with tight-fitting jeans and a casual shirt, but if he’s wearing the jeans and a white undershirt instead, it suddenly becomes like he’s screaming “look at me!”

It’s the same with certain types of sweatpants. And speaking as a man, whether you’re immodest in sweatpants has a lot to do with whether you are wearing boxers or not. Boxers + sweatpants is equivalent to a woman walking around in a t-shirt without a bra. I’m not sure if all men realize that.
 
I wear skinny jeans to church, school, malls, basically everywhere. Normal jeans are just odd on my figure. I don’t get what’s so wrong about people seeing the shape of my (covered) 2 legs…? Usually I wear them with boring t shirts or sweaters.
https://www.dstld.com/products/black-high-waisted-skinny-jeans (just an example, although my jeans are a little less tight, because that’s what happens when you are the size of a 12 year old).

The only comments I hear about tight pants are my old Indian uncles, lol. But they are perfectly okay with us showing our bare stomachs in sarees. But men in general don’t seem to think much about it. I asked my dad and my brothers once. They all replied ‘…what?’ 😂 I think guys who are already in a state of arousal would find the female form arousing in various type of fashions.
 
I noticed it was a trend for men to wear grey sweatpants without…anything underneath. Women online were all for the trend which wasn’t surprising.
 
Lea101 said:
I noticed it was a trend for men to wear grey sweatpants without…anything underneath. Women online were all for the trend which wasn’t surprising.
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Yup. This is, I think, especially a trend with gay guys. So perhaps those women would have a rude awakening if they came onto the immodest fellow. 🤣
 
My Mass attire, while perfectly modest, would still upset many on here. Jeans, plaid long sleeve shirt with button down collar, hiking boots, and sometimes a tweed blazer, with or without tie.
 
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Can they? I mean, sure. But, it’s usually not men who you see dressed like this at Mass:
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OK, I’m not looking at that image again… 😮

But I will say that in all my years going to Mass, I have never seen a woman dressed in the immodest feminine equivalent of that. And if I ever saw a guy dressed like that in Mass, I would turn around and go home, and God would forgive me.
 
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