Can non-catholics have catholic funerals?

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Can a non-Catholic have a Catholic funeral?

What if they were baptized for the forgiveness of sins in another church but accept Catholic teaching?

What if they were just starting the inquiry process, but had not come to a decision yet?
 
I’m not sure what the official teaching is, but if it were up to me, I’d say yes have a Catholic funeral. My reasoning is that once you’re dead, you are assumed to be Catholic because the truth will have been revealed to you.
 
A related question: Since I’m Catholic, but my kids are not, if something happened to them could I have a Requiem mass or have them buried in a Catholic cemetery?
 
Can a non-Catholic have a Catholic funeral?

What if they were baptized for the forgiveness of sins in another church but accept Catholic teaching?

What if they were just starting the inquiry process, but had not come to a decision yet?
If this “inquirer” is in RCIA, and has completed the Rite of Acceptance, they may have a Catholic funeral, and burial in a Catholic cemetery.

If they are in private instruction with a member of the clergy, and made it known that they want to continue study past the inquiry stage, then they would be eligible as well.

There have been rare cases (in our parish) where a person on their death bed has joined the Church, and received all of their Sacraments before passing. This can be done if the person is cable of making their wishes explicitly known to the priest at the time. (i.e. before lapsing into a coma)
 
This question came up on “Web of Faith” on EWTN.

The priests provided this example (althou there may be others as well).

A Catholic marries a non-Catholic. The non-Catholic spouse doesn’t convert, but does attend Mass with his/her spouse.

The non-Catholic spouse, at death, would be given a Catholic funeral Mass, if the surviving spouse requested one.
 
The funeral rite is called the Rite of Christian burial. It is usually reserved for Catholics, but the priest is generally free to perform a funeral service for anyone who requests one, particularly if it is expected to be a large funeral and the Catholic church is the largest in town. For a non-Catholic, a funeral mass would not usually be offered, just a basic liturgy.
 
Can a non-Catholic have a Catholic funeral?

What if they were baptized for the forgiveness of sins in another church but accept Catholic teaching?

What if they were just starting the inquiry process, but had not come to a decision yet?
THOSE TO WHOM ECCLESIASTICAL FUNERALS MUST BE GRANTED OR DENIED

Can. 1183 §1. When it concerns funerals, catechumens must be counted among the Christian faithful.

§2. The local ordinary can permit children whom the parents intended to baptize but who died before baptism to be given ecclesiastical funerals.

§3. In the prudent judgment of the local ordinary, ecclesiastical funerals can be granted to baptized persons who are enrolled in a non-Catholic Church or ecclesial community unless their intention is evidently to the contrary and provided that their own minister is not available.

Can. 1184 §1. Unless they gave some signs of repentance before death, the following must be deprived of ecclesiastical funerals:

1/ notorious apostates, heretics, and schismatics;

2/ those who chose the cremation of their bodies for reasons contrary to Christian faith;

3/ other manifest sinners who cannot be granted ecclesiastical funerals without public scandal of the faithful.

§2. If any doubt occurs, the local ordinary is to be consulted, and his judgment must be followed.

Can. 1185 Any funeral Mass must also be denied a person who is excluded from ecclesiastical funerals.
 
THOSE TO WHOM ECCLESIASTICAL FUNERALS MUST BE GRANTED OR DENIED

Can. 1183 §1. When it concerns funerals, catechumens must be counted among the Christian faithful.

§2. The local ordinary can permit children whom the parents intended to baptize but who died before baptism to be given ecclesiastical funerals.

§3. In the prudent judgment of the local ordinary, ecclesiastical funerals can be granted to baptized persons who are enrolled in a non-Catholic Church or ecclesial community unless their intention is evidently to the contrary and provided that their own minister is not available.

Can. 1184 §1. Unless they gave some signs of repentance before death, the following must be deprived of ecclesiastical funerals:

1/ notorious apostates, heretics, and schismatics;

2/ those who chose the cremation of their bodies for reasons contrary to Christian faith;

3/ other manifest sinners who cannot be granted ecclesiastical funerals without public scandal of the faithful.

§2. If any doubt occurs, the local ordinary is to be consulted, and his judgment must be followed.

Can. 1185 Any funeral Mass must also be denied a person who is excluded from ecclesiastical funerals.
Like I said, talk to the parish priest; the canon is full of may and can, those are not binding.
 
Can a non-Catholic have a Catholic funeral?

What if they were baptized for the forgiveness of sins in another church but accept Catholic teaching?

What if they were just starting the inquiry process, but had not come to a decision yet?
There are options to be able to give a Christian Funeral. In my practice, if it is a family member of a parisher, who is baptized Christian and not in the churh, I will do a service of the liturgy of the word, but not a mass. The same often for baptized Catholics who have fallen from the faith.
It would be unusual to asked to do a funeral for a non Christian, the exception is a child who had not yet been baptized.
 
There are options to be able to give a Christian Funeral. In my practice, if it is a family member of a parisher, who is baptized Christian and not in the churh, I will do a service of the liturgy of the word, but not a mass. The same often for baptized Catholics who have fallen from the faith.
It would be unusual to asked to do a funeral for a non Christian, the exception is a child who had not yet been baptized.
I guess this reflects my questions about one situation in particular. Sorry to be morbid. But…

The situation would be parents who reverted wholeheartedly to Catholicism after many years as Protestants and raised their children to near adulthood in the other church.

One child was baptized as an “adult”, repenting fully and being baptized for the forgiveness of sins, and now accepts Catholic doctrine as true but is in the sloowww stage of consideration of what in the world have their parents done. (guess that is one RCIA stage?). Another accepts the doctrine, has not been been baptized, and is striving to grow their own relationship with God (guess that is the RCIA stage?). Another acquiesces to the doctrine, recognizes need, but hesitates due to fear and is not at the stage of inquiry (probably not).

Thoughts…
 
I guess this reflects my questions about one situation in particular. Sorry to be morbid. But…

The situation would be parents who reverted wholeheartedly to Catholicism after many years as Protestants and raised their children to near adulthood in the other church.

One child was baptized as an “adult”, repenting fully and being baptized for the forgiveness of sins, and now accepts Catholic doctrine as true but is in the sloowww stage of consideration of what in the world have their parents done. (guess that is one RCIA stage?). Another accepts the doctrine, has not been been baptized, and is striving to grow their own relationship with God (guess that is the RCIA stage?). Another acquiesces to the doctrine, recognizes need, but hesitates due to fear and is not at the stage of inquiry (probably not).

Thoughts…
Those who are in RCIA, particularly after the Rite of Acceptance are considered to be part of the Church and in the event of death before coming fully ionto the Church could recieve a funeral with the mass. Depending on the stage of the third, since it seems they are moving in the direcrion of the Church, would have to be a decision at that time. If it were my decision, based on the process of the restof the family and their faith in process, I would lean toward a funeral witha mass.
In case anyone questions my reasoning, as a deacon in charge of funeral planning with families, these are decisons I make all the time. The spirutal work of mercy calls us to bury the dead. We do so always with the greatest respect for the one who has passed and with comfort for the family.

Peace,
Deacon FAB
 
THOSE TO WHOM ECCLESIASTICAL FUNERALS MUST BE GRANTED OR DENIED

§3. In the prudent judgment of the local ordinary, ecclesiastical funerals can be granted to baptized persons who are enrolled in a non-Catholic Church or ecclesial community unless their intention is evidently to the contrary and provided that their own minister is not available.
When my grandfather passed away, he was a baptised Lutheran, but had not been part of the Lutheran church for many years. Shortly before his death he had wanted to go through the RCIA process to become a Catholic. Because my grandmother’s pastor knew of this, he allowed a Catholic funeral for him.
 
Can a non-Catholic have a Catholic funeral?
Just sharing a bit of personal experience…

The husband of a dear friend recently passed away. Although my friend is Catholic her husband was not. In fact, he had not practiced any religion for many years. When he died, my friend approached her priest about a funeral for her husband. Although a mass was not possible, the priest came to the funeral home and conducted a very moving memorial service. The service loosely followed the order of the mass but without the Liturgy of the Eucharist. Interestingly, my friend’s husband had been a career army officer and her priest is a retired army chaplain. The priest made several military references during his “homily” and showed great respect for the gentleman who had passed away.

So…was this a Catholic funeral? Don’t know, but that priest deserves a heartfelt “Well done.”
 
The canon allows for the clergy to make a pastoral desicion that may not fully follow the canon for the spirtual good of the individuals involed.
Can you please show where the canon allows for the clergy to not follow the canon?
 
Can you please show where the canon allows for the clergy to not follow the canon?
I have found it before, it is at the begining of the canon. It was also in my canon law class one of the first things the canon law layer taught us. Dispinsation can be given to any part of the canon for pastoral reasons.
 
As a priest, I have had several funerals for non-catholics. The story I like to tell is of one in the first parish to where I was assigned to serve.
One evening, about 7, two friends (parishioners) (we played on the same softball team) of mine came to the rectory with a question. Is it possible for our father to have a Catholic burial service with Mass? Then they told their story. Their family was baptist and had been for several generations. When the oldest son (one of the two) was preparing to marry a Catholic girl, his father refused to come to the wedding. He threatened to disown his son if he EVER married a Catholic. But the son was adament, first he converted. Then scheduled the wedding. His mother finally convinced his dad on the wedding day that dad was asking too much and that he would regret it if he disowned his son. So to keep some relationship with his son, he reluctantly attended the wedding (he had to wear an old suit that was showing its age.)
No 2 son–same scenario. Only this time, dad did have a new suit for the wedding.
The other 5 siblings marry good baptists as a good baptist should.

Mom dies. Dad becames more and more plagued with the problems of age.
Only two of his children and their families would welcome him into their homes. And both were now Catholic.
On his death bed, in the hospital, with the whole family gathered around him, he asked the nurse to come in and witness what he was going to ask. “Is it possible for me to be buried from the Catholic Church with the full services of the church? I would really like it if it is possible.” One son asked, “Would you like to be received into the church at this time? We can ask father to come and receive you into the Church before you die.”
“No, I am not ready for that, but I would like a Catholic funeral.”
“We don’t know. We will go and ask father about this.
I called the bishop about it. His reply, “If it is his request, by all means have the funeral.” But be careful that you don’t cause a lot of hard feelings with the baptist churches in your community.”
I talked with both Baptist ministers in town and asked them to join in celebrating his life/death at this time. Both indicated that they would be disowned by their congregations if they did so. But they also gave their blessing for having the funeral at the Catholic Church.
It is the only time I had a Baptist’s funeral in the Catholic Church with full Catholic services. And this at the personal request of the Baptist person.
 
a long time parishioner was married to a very good person who never left their original denomination. The funeral was in that church, but the Catholic spouse also had a rosary said here, and a Mass offered for the repose of his soul, which were well attended because of affection for her and the family, and in recognition of all the good he had done for this parish over the years. oh, he was also a Baptist, and regularly joined in rosaries anytime another parishioner died.
 
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