YES exactly. Even on the “Catholic” singles sites you find a plethora of men who claim to be Catholic, yet believe contraception or premarital sex is no big deal. Once you weed through the “Catholics” to find the REAL Catholics, then further weed out the ones who are 20+ years your elder…it leaves not much more than a handful of men.
So yes, it would be wonderful if I could develop stronger feelings for this man, and I think I will pray for that (“God if it is Your will, help my feelings to increase for this man you have placed in my life”)
I have never found anyone through the online thing…but would like to know what the deal is with making age such a factor. I know four couples who are 15, 20, and 30 yrs apart (2 are 20 yrs apart) and they have great marriages. After a certain point, age should not matter, it’s maturity. I am, by geneology, in the generation of those 20 yrs older, if I limited my friends to my age group, I’d have NONE. I have acquaintences my age, but we do not like to do the same things at all when it comes to activities and outlook on life. I try hard, but the fact of the matter is I think like the 50 yr olds, not the 30 yr olds–my likes, dislikes, experiences, music…going all the way back to when I was a kid and we’d go on a field trip—I would be talking to the parents, not my classmates because the parents would discuss the event. If the only reason “he” has to not want me is age—that is shallow, two people can be the exact same age and have totally different life experiences because one is rich, the other poor, one from the city and the other from the country. I just don’t think it’s right to make age a deciding factor if you’re both over 25. I also don’t think you should say “oh, I’m 45, it’s too late” because I know people who have married for the first time in their 50’s. God is not limited by age, in fact, going by Abraham and Sarah, Moses, Zachariah and Elizabeth----I think God doesn’t really care about age so much as what is inside us and what His plan is for us.
Sorry, that’s my opinion. I don’t particularly like the idea of judging someone on age…seriously, doesn’t that sound a bit shallow: “You’re a great person, faithful to the church, I love spending time with you, we talk about so many things and you are so much fun to be with…but you’re not the right age.” Ok, or hair colour or weight or height???
And to the topic—I have mixed feelings. I have always prayed for God to guide my feelings and let me know when Mr. Right showed up so that I would not be confused, I am sure He can direct me in this, if I ask for guidence in a job or other things, why not love and marriage? However, praying for someone to fall in love with you? No, I don’t think that is really right. Maybe just try to be friends, to build the relationship from there. As others have said, make sure you know the real him!
I’m so disappointed and am wondering if that is something I can pray for. Can I pray for God to give me attraction and chemistry toward someone? Can I pray for God to make me fall in love with him?
