You see, I don’t believe that what the Church teaches about Communion is basically a policy or a discipline. I believe it is… a belief. It applies equally to all people. The Church does not discriminate by saying that if you are in a state of mortal sin you cannot receive Communion. The Church does not discriminate by saying that pretending to be married to someone you are not in fact married to is sinful nor does the Church discriminate by acting like it (I think the latter part is really the key here). The Church does not discriminate by refusing to privilege certain sins over others; I think that, in fact, would be highly discriminatory and would implicitly be a highly negative commentary on the Church’s basic views of the human. It is not discriminatory because it applies to any and all people equally if they are in such a situation. This is all rather unfortunate to me; I have confidence in the ability of people to strive against their tendencies and unfortunate situations. Whatever happened to the universal call to holiness? Or are we–soooooo ironic!–back to the supposed status quo ante of “only sisters and priests can be holy, I’m just a layperson leave me alone?”
Just some thoughts, don’t read too much into what I’ve said above, I’m not commenting on you or anyone personally.
I agree we are all called to holiness. But I can say from my own experience that it isn’t something achieved instantly. It’s something we have to work at. I started my journey in somewhat of a mess, a difficult and irregular marriage. I married my unbaptized wife civilly, as a lapsed Catholic. It took some years for our marriage to improve and to finally have it convalidated (my wife was baptized after my reversion, but as an Anglican). I mentioned my story elsewhere, but a good parish priest applied the principle of gradualism in that I was told it was OK to receive the sacraments provided I worked at regularizing my own situation.
It did take longer than I would have liked, but eventually things worked out. At the time, not very well catechized, I took my priest’s “permission” to partake of the sacraments at face value. Later after convalidation, I was unsure I had received worthily, and I confessed, to another priest, that I happen to know very well (I won’t give any more detail to avoid identifying him), and who was very holy and orthodox. His response: “I won’t ever say this in public but you needed the graces of the Sacraments to reach this point”.
He was, of course completely right at least in my case. The sacrament of reconciliation and the Eucharist were vital to my ongoing conversion. Not to get too personal but being married to a non-Catholic, “living in continence” while we worked all this out (which took years) was not a practical suggestion and no priest ever even required it of us. Many priests “in the trenches” are aware of “gradualism” and have used it to good effect.
But according to Church “law” I would not even have been able to have access to the healing of the Sacrament of Reconciliation, never mind the Eucharist. I’m pretty sure I never would have made it without. To me, “spiritual communion” is a load of nonsense. Sacramental grace is healing, “spiritual communion” does not confer sacramental grace and we are cutting off the very people who genuinely want to heal, from it; conservative cardinals can spin it all they want, but their view is indeed that it is a “prize for the perfect” instead of medicine for the sick but striving. Note I’m not talking about admitting people who don’t give a hoot, but just want the Church to validate their sinful situations; I fully support that folks in these situations are not eligible to receive worthily (many do anyway, but that’s another issue).
But that was not the case for me, and for many others. I hungered to be able to be in a regular situation and I know many do as well. I even tried radical sanation at one point but my diocese refused to get involved with that and told me to have my marriage convalidated instead. Fortunately by then my wife was ready to consider convalidation. A one-size-fits-all pastoral solution seems to be what the conservatives are proposing. I don’t believe it will work at evangelizing.
I’ve always upheld the orthodox position of the Church but now, what I see with from the conservative side, the machinations, the lack of any shred of mercy, taking a cardinal’s interview in a language he has difficulty with and putting a negative spin on it (anybody with a modicum of linguistic skills recognizes that the cardinal’s syntax was so mangled that it couldn’t be a true representation of his thinking), openly criticizing the Holy Father, I find very disturbing; it is disloyal to the Holy Father, and to the Church at least to do it so publicly.
Meanwhile, I pray, especially for our Holy Father, and I pray that my faith in the Church, at least the institutional part, survives this because it has been badly shaken. I will cloister myself into my Benedictine spirituality until the storm dies. I see no further gains from debating in circles and talking past each other (not directed to you personally, but in general).