You and I are, I suspect, talking past each other. As to your first comment, I will give an example. There is a priest in southern California, whose daughter lives in my parish. He comes to visit about once er year.
According to him, God was calling him well before his wife died. the bishop wasn’t. After his wife died, and he resolved the grief process, he eventually applied for and was accepted as a delayed vocation. God called him well before the bishop, and the bishop most definitely was not going to call him while he was married, although God was.
The second issue does not disprove my point; had the bishop of Nebraska not called them, they would not have been ordained.
And I have yet to meet any priest who would say that God did not call him; but the bottom line is that unless the bishop calls a man to ordination, he will not be a priest. And whether the issue is that he is a cradle Catholic and married, or that the bishop has an issue with some aspect of the person’s life/views/attitudes/inclinations, the results are the same; the person may feel that God is not just gently suggesting a vocation, but almost screaming it,but unless the bishop calls, he will not be ordained.