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First note that the phrase used is “second union” not marriage. A union can have fidelity that is different that matrimony.It IS misapplied because even if the ‘first’ marriage is deemed invalid, and that is a big ‘if’, the second union is still not a marriage, at least not until it is regularized (if the first marriage was invalid). But this is not addressed to those who are in valid marriages or those who have had their second union regularized. It is addressing those who have been divorced and civilly remarried.
Listen, I really want to believe what you are saying about the interpretation of AL, and if I squint hard enough, tilt my head a little, and read AL in a dimly lit room, I can possibly make some of these passages to be understood in an orthodox light. But not necessarily from the plain reading of the text. The lack of precise language and clarity from an Apostolic Exhortation is quite amazing to me. But I do appreciate your (name removed by moderator)ut as this really is a help to me.
What about where AL explains that “divorced and remarried” Catholics can find themselves in a situation where “a second union consolidated over time, with new children, proven fidelity, generous self giving, Christian commitment, a consciousness of its irregularity and of the great difficulty of going back without feeling in conscience that one would fall into new sins.”? So now AL is stating that an adulterous union can have all these descriptors?.. AL is stating that a union which violates the fidelity due to the marriage vows (vows of the ‘first’ marriage) can itself demonstrate “proven fidelity”, that a union contrary to the command of Christ and that contravenes God’s law can in fact display “Christian commitment”, and that an adulterous union can be the place to provide “generous self-giving”.
Some of the cases may be natural first marriages too or non-Catholic at the time. One must apply the necessary objective and subjective qualifications which are significant. Such as, that for a grave sin to be mortal requires three things: grievous matter, sufficient reflection, and full consent of the will. Here the irregular couples do not give full consent of the will to the situation of living together for the benefit of the children, as stated, and accepting life as brother and sister (and not giving scandal).
So now you expand to other cases given in AL 298:
The divorced who have entered a new union, for example, can find themselves in a variety of situations, which should not be pigeonholed or fit into overly rigid classifications leaving no room for a suitable personal and pastoral discernment.
- One thing is a second union consolidated over time, with new children, proven fidelity, generous self giving, Christian commitment, a consciousness of its irregularity and of the great difficulty of going back without feeling in conscience that one would fall into new sins. * The Church acknowledges situations “where, for serious reasons, such as the children’s upbringing, a man and woman cannot satisfy the obligation to separate.” * There are also the cases of those who made every effort to save their first marriage and were unjustly abandoned, * or of “those who have entered into a second union for the sake of the children’s upbringing, and are sometimes subjectively certain in conscience that their previous and irreparably broken marriage had never been valid”.
- Another thing is a new union arising from a recent divorce, with all the suffering and confusion which this entails for children and entire families, * or the case of someone who has consistently failed in his obligations to the family.
It must remain clear that this is not the ideal which the Gospel proposes for marriage and the family. The Synod Fathers stated that the discernment of pastors must always take place “by adequately distinguishing,” with an approach which “carefully discerns situations”. We know that no “easy recipes” exist.
“Finally, there are those who have entered into a second union for the sake of the children’s upbringing, and who are sometimes subjectively certain in conscience that their previous and irreparably destroyed marriage had never been valid