Dr. Kreeft points out that society has great difficulty distinguishing what we are with what we do. You aren’t a person who happens to be a doctor, you
are a doctor. You aren’t a person who happens to be a garbage man, you
are a garbage man. In the case of homosexuality, you aren’t someone who happens to be homosexual: you
are homosexuality. For most people, this makes it impossible to give any criticism of homosexuality without criticizing people.
The vast majority of Western Society does not make the distinction between the person and the sin; consequently, the fact that others might think this way seems incomprehensible. When the Catholic Church says she loves those with SSA and hates SSA, most people think she’s spouting nonsense.
Until people can accept that this distinction is possible (a distinction that has been widely ignored throughout human history), they will assume the Catholic Church is anti-gay. Simple as that.
Just because the church doesn’t seek to criminalize homosexuality doesn’t mean they aren’t anti-gay. Religious belief is great, and the church should be free to teach whatever they want… They become anti-gay when they actively campaign against gay people’s rights. That is definitely anti-gay.
I think that you haven’t thought this statement through.
I don’t know too many Catholics who enjoy defending Church teaching on homosexuality. Quite honestly: it’s lousy. If I didn’t have to, I wouldn’t. I would gladly never speak about the subject again and let everyone do whatever they want (be that homosexuality or anything else the Church considers to be sinful).
But would that be a decision made out of love? No! It would be one made out of apathy (at best).
We know that a person’s greatest good is to be united with God in the beatific vision. We know that sin damages a person’s relationship with God, and through the teachings of the Church (and scripture, and tradition) we know that homosexual activity is sinful. Now, the Church wants everyone to be happy, and to some extent homosexual activity will do that. That happiness, however, pales in comparison to that of the beatific vision.
If love is to want, will, and work for the good of the other person, then if a Catholic truly loves a person with same-sex attraction that Catholic will try to unite that person with God. That Catholic will hate anything separates that person from God, because that “thing” is denying them the happiness of the beatific vision.And so the maximally loving thing for a Catholic to do is not to keep-on-keeping-on, but to trying to turn that person away from a lesser happiness towards a greater happiness. The fact that the Catholic has to do this when faced with hatred, scorn, and some mild persecution doesn’t make this any less an act of love (to the contrary, it makes their effort more loving).