Catholic church lays down dress code

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What people wear in church has certainly slid over the years. It has gotten quite bad. Nevertheless, there should NOT be a dress code – even for the people who are being lazy and lacking in respect. You don’t know who you may be demeaning or what their circumstances are. No dress code as such. Instead, the priest and Sunday bulletin notes should ENCOURAGE better clothing. Singling people out from the pulpit would only embarrass and anger some. You’ll get more compliance with gentle continuous encouragement than trying to mandate something. Fashions go out of style because of peer pressure. People stop wearing bell bottom jeans or some other kind of dress because they see others have stopped. Gradually, with encouragement, more people will start to wear nice casual clothing and those who dress grubby or like they are going to the beach will be embarassed and change. In the meantime, we have to grin and bear it so to speak (no pun intended).
 
I went to a Catholic nudist club.

We all wore suits, ties, dresses, long skirts, etc…but *underneath *everything: naked as jaybirds!
 
At first I thought this was a great idea considering some of the things I have seen people wear in Church. After thinking it over, I don’t think this is a path the Church should go. Where are you going to set limits? What about the poor who attend Church wearing tattered clothing? Certainly we are not going to deny them.

Rather than set an official “dress code”, perhaps we as Catholics should be more active in finding out why a person dresses the way they do in Church. I’m not saying suggesting being confrontational about it, but maybe these people are struggling financially, or maybe they are headed down a path they don’t want to go by wearing suggestive clothing.

just my two cents…
 
While i do understand the needs to dress appropriately for services, many of us hail from affluent countries, hence dressing up wouldn’t be a problem. What about those who doesn’t ? so if the church wanna have a dress code for members, meaning they are shutting up to the poor…??
 
While i do understand the needs to dress appropriately for services, many of us hail from affluent countries, hence dressing up wouldn’t be a problem. What about those who doesn’t ? so if the church wanna have a dress code for members, meaning they are shutting up to the poor…??
It’s like the story of the widow’s mite… She gave all she had… When it comes to dress, we wear the best we have… If the best is just a rag to cover our naked body, that’s what we wear when we dine with Jesus… If the best we have is a suit, tie, and freshly laundered shirt, that’s what we wear when we dine with Jesus.

What do you think the poor in Calcuta wore to Mass when Mother Theresa brought them to Mass? What did Mother Theresa expect her nuns and her helpers to wear to mass? I think you will find the answer above. The best they had!
 
It’s like the story of the widow’s mite… She gave all she had… When it comes to dress, we wear the best we have… If the best is just a rag to cover our naked body, that’s what we wear when we dine with Jesus… If the best we have is a suit, tie, and freshly laundered shirt, that’s what we wear when we dine with Jesus.

What do you think the poor in Calcuta wore to Mass when Mother Theresa brought them to Mass? What did Mother Theresa expect her nuns and her helpers to wear to mass? I think you will find the answer above. The best they had!
Amen, we wear the best we can…if we are able to…that’s sound better…!! most importantly we go church to be connected to God and not to show how well we dress to determine our faith…
 
Dressing the best you can is the finest idea that can be done.
We should have a dress code recomending to dress up and discourage the grunge look. We should also discourage dressing like prostiturtes, heavey metal dress atire along with the shorts and flipflops. I forgot to mention the muscle shirts and the sleveless and tank tops should also be discouraged to wear to the mass it’s abomination and I don’t if I offended anyone here but it speaks for itself. I am pleased with some of you women that wear teh long skirts and formal conservative look without exposing too much if you know what I mean and for the men that wear the suit and tie to me that’s great. th emen show what it’s all about keep up the good work. Thank you,
 
dress codes…IMHO, are complete idiocy. People like having their hands held, i don’t. if folks want to dress in tank tops, so be it. i don’t care, thats between them and God.

People want to regulate good taste inside and outside of Church, and you can’t do it. well, they can try to, but they’re wrong.

i want a Church, not a nanny. Jesus wouldn’t have been wearing acceptable garb to enter his own Church under the Manilla code.
Generally, this seems to be the attitude of many Catholics in the USA. Although it is OK for the local golf course or the local cheap restaurant to have a dress code, some Catholics reject the most minimal dress code for Church and think it is perfectly OK to dress in a most outrageous and vulgar manner when attending Catholic Mass. And in many cases, Catholic priests do not lift a finger to enforce a minimal dress code for Church.
 
Generally, this seems to be the attitude of many Catholics in the USA. Although it is OK for the local golf course or the local cheap restaurant to have a dress code, some Catholics reject the most minimal dress code for Church and think it is perfectly OK to dress in a most outrageous and vulgar manner when attending Catholic Mass. And in many cases, Catholic priests do not lift a finger to enforce a minimal dress code for Church.
The Priests are so glad to see people coming at all that they don’t want to rock the boat.

I think in most cases, the way people dress for Mass is the same way they dress for pretty much everything. We’ve had issues with the younger folks in our office about dress, because they’re used to dressing very casually. We’ve come to a balance, we allow some things that make us middle aged folks cringe a little, and the younger folks are putting up with a few rules.

I don’t like the expectation that women need to practically dress like the FLDS ladies and I don’t like people coming to Mass in running shorts, tank tops and halter tops either. I don’t like that the commentary on clothing is almost exclusively about women-nobody is telling men that they should be dressing like St Joseph, but there are plenty of people telling women that they should be dressed like the Blessed Mother.
 
The people I saw dressed inappropriately certainly didn’t look poor
 
At first I thought this was a great idea considering some of the things I have seen people wear in Church. After thinking it over, I don’t think this is a path the Church should go. Where are you going to set limits? What about the poor who attend Church wearing tattered clothing? Certainly we are not going to deny them.
Rather than set an official “dress code”, perhaps we as Catholics should be more active in finding out why a person dresses the way they do in Church. I’m not saying suggesting being confrontational about it, but maybe these people are struggling financially, or maybe they are headed down a path they don’t want to go by wearing suggestive clothing.

just my two cents…
I’m sorry, but I simply must interject my thoughts on this which are certainly contrary to most who have posted on this thread.

We lived for two years in the South in a very poor Amish area in a small town of 2,500. The Catholic Church was 20 miles away. One Easter Sunday the family who took up the gifts were an absolute embarrasment for the entire congregation. The youngest daughter (probably around 13) wore short shorts and flip flops. The only son wore a black t-shirt that had an emblem of a skull on the back and the words, “No Fear” on the front. I know this was a poor family because many of us had helped them in one way or another. IN CONTRAST, we would see the extremely poor Protestant children ALWAYS dressed for church in the only ‘good’ clothes they had. The girls were not allowed to wear anything but dresses (usually home-made), and although thread bare, the boys wore long sleeve dress shirts (sometimes one size too small.) These were "hill-country folk - hill-billies if you get the picture, who had virtually no means but the land they lived upon to get by. My neighbor personally knew many of them. They were scandalized to know the way many Catholics went to church.

I say that the poverty issue is **not prevalent **as you think. There is not a person alive who cannot go to Goodwill and buy something suitable for the occasion, or go to a yard sale and buy clothing for 50 cents. Protestant Churches always have free clothing that they distribute several times a year.

We Catholics have lost the sense of the sacred - we have lost the gift of the Spirit of the fear of the Lord, and God have mercy on us because WE, of all people, have the greatest gift of all, the most holy and loving Eucharist. Did not God tell Moses to take his sandals off because he was on holy ground? Where is the inner sense, when we enter our churches, to bow before Almighty God? Those Protestants had that sense - they would NEVER have entered God’s house without the proper attire.

I had a nun in high school who influenced me profoundly. One of her most frequent sayings was this, “the outer person reflects the inner disposition.” (Reflect on that for a moment!)

The ones who go to Mass wearing their yard clothes are saying “God doesn’t care what I wear to church - it only matters that I’m here!” To me, those people are patting themselves on the back and being self-righteous because they are in church, but they cannot be bothered to give the slightest respect to the Body and Blood of Jesus Himself!

Please forgive the rant - it really isn’t a judgment, but the biggest of my peeves to see so many dress before the altar without any dignity and receive our Precious Jesus in flip flops!
 
I say that the poverty issue is **not prevalent **as you think. There is not a person alive who cannot go to Goodwill and buy something suitable for the occasion, or go to a yard sale and buy clothing for 50 cents. Protestant Churches always have free clothing that they distribute several times a year.

We Catholics have lost the sense of the sacred - we have lost the gift of the Spirit of the fear of the Lord, and God have mercy on us because WE, of all people, have the greatest gift of all, the most holy and loving Eucharist. Did not God tell Moses to take his sandals off because he was on holy ground? Where is the inner sense, when we enter our churches, to bow before Almighty God? Those Protestants had that sense - they would NEVER have entered God’s house without the proper attire.

I had a nun in high school who influenced me profoundly. One of her most frequent sayings was this, **“the outer person reflects the inner disposition.” **(Reflect on that for a moment!)

The ones who go to Mass wearing their yard clothes are saying “God doesn’t care what I wear to church - it only matters that I’m here!” To me, those people are patting themselves on the back and being self-righteous because they are in church, but they cannot be bothered to give the slightest respect to the Body and Blood of Jesus Himself!

Please forgive the rant - it really isn’t a judgment, but the biggest of my peeves to see so many dress before the altar without any dignity and receive our Precious Jesus in flip flops!
That is a great quote-I will have to write it down. There is much truth in what you say. A modest skirt or pair of khakis is usually cheaper than most blue jeans nowadays. My son outgrew his church pants and I was short on cash so I bought $9 khakis at Walmart. When my daughter needed a new dress I picked up a pattern for 99 cents and fabric for $4 (praise God I can sew).
 
I say that the poverty issue is **not prevalent **as you think. There is not a person alive who cannot go to Goodwill and buy something suitable for the occasion, or go to a yard sale and buy clothing for 50 cents. Protestant Churches always have free clothing that they distribute several times a year.
Have you ever been outside of the U.S.? Please don’t give me the poverty issue is not as prevalent as we think. It is a problem everywhere, including the U.S. There is a collection nearly every Sunday for the poor at our Church. Fine, you can go to Goodwill and get your $.50 khakis or t-shirts. $.50 in many countries is a months worth of pay. So I would say there are millions of people alive who cannot buy what would be “suitable” for the occasion.
 
Have you ever been outside of the U.S.? Please don’t give me the poverty issue is not as prevalent as we think. It is a problem everywhere, including the U.S. There is a collection nearly every Sunday for the poor at our Church. Fine, you can go to Goodwill and get your $.50 khakis or t-shirts. $.50 in many countries is a months worth of pay. So I would say there are millions of people alive who cannot buy what would be “suitable” for the occasion.
I was under the assumption that we were mostly speaking of U.S. churches, however, yes, I just recently returned from a five-country tour of Europe. Of course, we were in areas that mostly catered to tourists. However, I will tell you that in most churches (at least in Italy) it is forbidden to show bare shoulders when entering a Catholic Church. In Florence (one example is the Basilica di Santa Maria del Fiore) they had a paper garment that women had to put across their shoulders if bare, before entering the church.

Yes, you are correct - there are many very very poor people in this world, but if you will read my entire post, I think you will find that the point I was trying to make is that your general appropriate appearance is not necessarily related to your level of financial success in this world. Our daughter goes to a large church in a rather affluent area and she knows I would rather not go to the 4 pm Saturday Mass because all you see are shorts (on both men and women) or spaghetti straps on the female youth and bare midriffs. This may be high fashion by today’s standards, but I wonder what Our Lady would think of this immodest dress at the banquet of her Son?

We will never point a finger at the poor, but poor or rich, is no excuse for immodest or vulgar dress!
 
Amen, we wear the best we can…if we are able to…that’s sound better…!! most importantly we go church to be connected to God and not to show how well we dress to determine our faith…
aka Sunday Best.
 
Have you ever been outside of the U.S.?
I would say there are millions of people alive who cannot buy what would be “suitable” for the occasion.
First, I doubt that Tigg was referring to those outside of the US (given the references to Goodwill which only has shops in the US and Canada).
Second, when my family and church went on a mission trip to a poverty striken area of Africa (mud huts, barely enough food to survive), the women dressed quite nicely (and very colorfully).
Third, I have seen “peasants” working in rice paddies in Asia who were more well dressed than some Americans going to church.
Fourth, most people in the “third world” would consider themselves rich if they had the income/assets that Americans consider to be poverty level. We, at least materially, are blessed.
 
First, I doubt that Tigg was referring to those outside of the US (given the references to Goodwill which only has shops in the US and Canada).
Second, when my family and church went on a mission trip to a poverty striken area of Africa (mud huts, barely enough food to survive), the women dressed quite nicely (and very colorfully).
Third, I have seen “peasants” working in rice paddies in Asia who were more well dressed than some Americans going to church.
Fourth, most people in the “third world” would consider themselves rich if they had the income/assets that Americans consider to be poverty level. We, at least materially, are blessed.
Excellent point.
 
Thankfully, I one of those who believes that Jesus doesn’t care how we appear…only that we appear.

John
Your statement suggests that it is perfectly OK to go to mass in a string bikini because Jesus only cares that someone who dresses like that at least ‘shows up’. There is something seriously flawed about that kind of thinking!
 
Your statement suggests that it is perfectly OK to go to mass in a string bikini because Jesus only cares that someone who dresses like that at least ‘shows up’. There is something seriously flawed about that kind of thinking!
I certainly agree The CCC tells us we are not to be our neighbors tempter
 
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