Catholic Courtship

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A catholic man interested in dating a catholic girl…is it normal that he calls her sister as a term of endearment when he writes or speaks to her?

Or is this something all catholic men call catholic women in general.
 
What country are you in?

Edit: Nevermind, just saw London. Unless there’s a convention I’m unaware of, he probably just likes the girl and is a little awkward about how to get it across.
 
I have never had a man refer to me as sister, Catholic or not.
 
I think it would depend on the girl. For some reason (in Canada at least) guys can call themselves ‘bro’ and it is cool. Some girls call themselves ‘sista’ but it has more of an icky connotation.

Personally, if a BF called me ‘sister’ I would think he was goofing around and laugh histerically.
 
In the Song of Songs, the beloved is addressed as “my sister, my bride.”

But that’s not our cultural context.
 
JoyousCatholic said:
A catholic man interested in dating a catholic girl…is it normal that he calls her sister as a term of endearment when he writes or speaks to her?

Or is this something all catholic men call catholic women in general.
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Catholics usually do not address each other as “sister” or “brother” unless you are speaking to a religious. We usually address each other by first name or Miss or Mr. if not well aquainted. If you are unsure, then ask the young lady how she wishes you to call her.
 
JoyousCatholic said:
A catholic man interested in dating a catholic girl…is it normal that he calls her sister as a term of endearment when he writes or speaks to her?

Or is this something all catholic men call catholic women in general.
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my only experience that even remotely applies is when a priest or bishop addresses the whole congregation as brothers and sisters.

besides that, no, people generally don’t do that here anyways
 
Catholic1954 said:
Catholics usually do not address each other as “sister” or “brother” unless you are speaking to a religious. We usually address each other by first name or Miss or Mr. if not well aquainted. If you are unsure, then ask the young lady how she wishes you to call her.
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I am the young lady being addressed this way by the gentleman. We’ve only known each other a week so it is very very early days, but he has told me that he really likes me
 
JoyousCatholic said:
I am the young lady being addressed this way by the gentleman. We’ve only known each other a week so it is very very early days, but he has told me that he really likes me
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If you have only known each other a week, how is this courtship? Even though courtship is a kind of ridiculous term…
 
Irishmom2 said:
If you have only known each other a week, how is this courtship? Even though courtship is a kind of ridiculous term…
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i guess you can say that we are at the beginning stages of a friendship
 
Xantippe said:
In the Song of Songs, the beloved is addressed as “my sister, my bride.”

But that’s not our cultural context.
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Yes, that’s an Egyptian term of endearment. In contemporary (= the time of Solomon) Egyptian culture, “sister” was a common equivalent to “wife” / “lover” / “mistress”.

Not sure how that would fly these days, though, but ultimately it’s just a matter of taste; it could just be harmless fun. (For example, when my wife calls me “Mister”, I know I’m in for a lecture, but a good-natured one. :p)
 
RPRPsych said:
Yes, that’s an Egyptian term of endearment. In contemporary (= the time of Solomon) Egyptian culture, “sister” was a common equivalent to “wife” / “lover” / “mistress”.

Not sure how that would fly these days, though, but ultimately it’s just a matter of taste; it could just be harmless fun. (For example, when my wife calls me “Mister”, I know I’m in for a lecture, but a good-natured one. :p)
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Interesting! He uses that term only in personal conversations in person or text to me. In public, he just refers to me by my 1st name. We’ve only known each other a week and he has indicated a dating interest in me.
 
Speaking of how different spousal naming terms can be, note that in Jane Austen’s works, it’s normal for spouses to refer to each other to third parties as “Mr. Bennet” or “Mrs. Bennet” rather than by their first name. (Hopefully, they were a little bit less formal when it was just the two of them.)
RPRPsych said:
Yes, that’s an Egyptian term of endearment. In contemporary (= the time of Solomon) Egyptian culture, “sister” was a common equivalent to “wife” / “lover” / “mistress”.

Not sure how that would fly these days, though, but ultimately it’s just a matter of taste; it could just be harmless fun. (For example, when my wife calls me “Mister”, I know I’m in for a lecture, but a good-natured one. :p)
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JoyousCatholic said:
Interesting! He uses that term only in personal conversations in person or text to me. In public, he just refers to me by my 1st name. We’ve only known each other a week and he has indicated a dating interest in me.
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Each couple finds endearments that they’re comfortable with. If I posted some of the things we called each other during our engagement (or even now), you’d all be :rotfl:

Still, one week is early days. Praying for both of you! 👍
 
Xantippe said:
Speaking of how different spousal naming terms can be, note that in Jane Austen’s works, it’s normal for spouses to refer to each other to third parties as “Mr. Bennet” or “Mrs. Bennet” rather than by their first name. (Hopefully, they were a little bit less formal when it was just the two of them.)
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I remember 19th century French novels where aristocratic couples referred to each other as “mon ami / amie” (my friend), which is kind of sweet. 🙂
 
RPRPsych said:
Each couple finds endearments that they’re comfortable with. If I posted some of the things we called each other during our engagement (or even now), you’d all be :rotfl:

Still, one week is early days. Praying for both of you! 👍
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Thank you!!
 
Such terms vary by culture. Democratic socialists frequently call each other “brother”. The early Christians called each other brother and sister. In the Mediterranean culture, that was normal.
 
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