Thank you for your response. To be honest I don’t know what I believe…I know that sounds horrible. I personally do not find anything wrong with raising our future children in my wife’s church. Like I said previously I do like the church but I’m starting to feel confused…
Well, I suggest you read and study your own faith. **Don’t be led into a new faith out of ignorance because you are “comfortable” there. ** I suggest you actually study what the Episcopal church teaches. You will find it to be significantly different that the Catholic Church’s teachings (which you also seem to be ignorant of).
I was raised Episcopalian and was very ignorant of what that church *actually *taught until I began studying as an adult. It seemed like it was sorta Catholic-- looked like Catholic, used a lot of the same terms/rituals, etc. BUT, it’s not Catholic. I discovered major doctrinal and moral differences. I am now a Catholic.
and every time that I bring it up with my wife…well we don’t try to have babies for about a week…get the picture?
Only married a short time and your wife is using sex as a weapon. NOT a good sign. Not a mature way of communicating. Something you need to think seriously about.
We both want to have happy well adjusted babies with a good Christian faith but I’m feeling so conflicted which is odd because I did not feel this way until we started trying.
Yes, many people come to realize what they have lost by rejecting their faith only after they have gotten themselves into a marriage with a non-Catholic and are contemplating children. It’s common, and it’s very unfortunate.
You, as a Catholic, have an obligation to raise your children Catholic. But, you don’t really seem to fully grasp what it is you are considering walking away from. You need to read, study, and educate yourself as an adult Catholic.
You
are still a Catholic, albeit one who has separated himself from the Sacraments. You are also in an invalid marriage as far as the Catholic Church is concerned-- if you did not go through Catholic marital preparation and receive a dispensation from Catholic form to be married in your wife’s church.
I can’t talk to my folks because they don’t understand the love and respect that I have for my wife…they would tell me to that I’m the man of the house therefore I make the rules…Well I don’t agree… I can’t even begin to explain what a loving woman she is…
I am sorry your parents cannot discuss this rationally. Of course they are upset. They are concerned about you and your future children.
You should not return to the Catholic Church because of parental pressure. You should resume the practice of your Catholic faith because it’s the Truth.
I would do anything to prevent conflict between us.
You should think twice about this statement. Does “anything” include the condemnation of your soul? You really want to separate yourself from the Church, the Bride of Christ?
There are many Christian witnesses who went to their death rather than deny Christ and his Church. And, you would give that up for a lesser cause?
I know I sound pathetic and I’m sorry. I never expected this to be an issue…or at least not so soon.
The one thing I can tell you is that you need to figure things out BEFORE you have children. You do not want them to be in a tug of war over religion.
Start by both of you studying the teachings, origins, and beliefs of your two religions. Be adult about this. It’s a search for the Truth-- not a competition or a control issue.
And, the bedroom nonsense she is pulling needs to stop. It’s manipulative and childish.
You are one with your wife now. And your communication must improve.