Catholic friend chooses not to receive communion

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A good friend of mine doesn’t receive communion at mass
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I have a similar problem. Considering how some women are dressed, it is difficult for me not to commit the mortal sin of adultery by looking at a woman with lust. Matthew 5:28. My understanding is that it is wrong to receive communion while in mortal sin?
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God does not trap you like that.

Merely seeing a woman inappropriately dressed is not sinful, and I seriously doubt you automatically intentionally entertain lustful thoughts when all that probably happened was that you instinctively found the woman attractive, a far cry from “lust.” Only when you can admit that you intentionally produced a pornographic film in your head involving that woman, and ran it intentionally through the end credits should you come back and then we can talk mortal sin. Otherwise, if you just dismissed any thoughts as soon as you realized then, then simply refocus and carry on.

The proper concept or mortal sin is really escaping a lot of Catholics these days, and this also points to a very unhealthy and negative image of God. God does not trap people.
 
I once asked my priest if it leads to eternal damnation to receive while in a state of mortal sin and he affirmed that it is.

With respect, and some empathy I might add, if you look at women and feel adulterous lust why not try self control and avert your eyes? The other thing worth bearing in mind is that since communion is very important and to receive it we must confess our mortal sins is it worth looking and risking those penalties? Personally I don’t think so.

I find it helpful to pray the little office.
 
If you don’t know her well enough to even know whether or not she’s Catholic then you definitely don’t know her well enough to comment on whether or not she receives communion.
 
A lot of people have chimed in to Sat you shouldn’t have asked her and they are right. But you did and it is done. Now it is incumbent to pray for her and help her to learn about the Sacrament of confession in a gentle and non critical way.
 
I’m sorry, it is still between her, the priest and God. You are neither her priest nor are.you God. For you to ask why she is not receiving communion - in any way shape or form - is incredibly tactless.
 
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porthos11 said:
Merely seeing a woman inappropriately dressed is not sinful
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Unfortunately it leads to lust. " But I say to you that everyone looking upon a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
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The proper concept or mortal sin is really escaping a lot of Catholics these days.
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I thought that even in these days, adultery was a mortal sin?
 
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She said that her belief is that to go to confession for forgiveness of sins doesn’t make sense if she is just going to sin again.
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It sounds like she is making a prudent choice. IF she is in a state of mortal sin and is unrepentant, her confession would not be valid and she would not be in the state of grace required for communion.

I must say I do agree with the chorus. You should not have asked. And, now that you have, you should drop the subject. Pray that the Holy Spirit will give her the grace necessary to repent.
 
I just said i would delete , one moment please . and no i won’t put “out there” I was trying to participate in a discussion. I get that there are forum rules but you should be also mindful of your rudeness.
 
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And no valid reasons to nosy around asking folk impertinent questions about why they are not receiving
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Very true. You are making a good point here. But I was asking myself, not someone else, these questions raised by the OP, as to what would be possible reasons for not receiving communion.
 
Maybe there’s so many on modesty these days because of how the culture has changed a bit. I know the way girls dress on campus today is different from when I was in school. And the shows today! But I’ve read a few times here “another modesty thread” as if it’s such a terrible thing. It’s certainly popular and will get a lot of likes/hearts but i don’t think it’s so terrible that Catholics appreciate and want to talk abut modesty.
 
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It’s so popular here to poke fun at modesty, it’s so bad, not another topic on modesty!
There’s probably equal number of people complaining about too many modesty threads than there are threads.
 
ok. I will and I do understand. But it just seems like the topic itself angers folks and not just the derailment, perhaps that’s just something i’m reading into it.
 
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