Catholic Homeschooling

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Do Catholics homeschool? I have always heard it was more of a Protestant phenomenon.
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
 
I know a couple dozen Catholic homeschooling familes and my wife runs a homeschool coop. Many large Catholic familes homeschool because the public schools often don’t meet moral standards in what they teach and Catholic parochial schools are too expensive when you have 3, 4, 5+ kids in school. Unfortunately some Catholic schools are also more focussed on being college prep schools and barely have a Catholic identity. This makes them less attractive to families that want a strong Catholic foundation as the cornerstone of their children’s education.

I didn’t know what an “enmeshed family” was, but after reading definitions I would say that the vast majority of Catholic homeschooling familes that I know are not like that.
 
Do Catholics homeschool? I have always heard it was more of a Protestant phenomenon.
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
I think it’s more of a North American thing.

The norm in my own country is still “Catholic schools for Catholic children” (though some of them have interesting ways of being Catholic :D), though some parents will actually opt for a secular school if they see it as being helpful to their children academically.

Also, I’m not touching the “enmeshed” thing; family therapies were always my weakest point as a student. 🙂
 
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
My wife is a family therapist, so I will address the second half of the question.
It is to some degree among those type of families (enmeshed), but it is not the majority. Many kids go to school online now. There is a big difference between homeschooling and kids simply ‘not going to school’. Enmeshed families sometimes have something to hide, like abuse. It isn’t always connected with homeschooling however.
 
Do Catholics homeschool? I have always heard it was more of a Protestant phenomenon.
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
I don’t think there is a correlation between “enmeshedness” and homeschooling. Maybe families that deal with enmeshing send their kids to public school or private school and many people choose homeschool for the main purpose of allowing their children to focus on their own interests and to provide individualized opportunities that aren’t possible in a classroom setting.
 
Do Catholics homeschool?
Catholic parents make many different schooling choices-- public, private, private Catholic, online/virtual school, charter school, homeschool. They make these choices for many reasons, just like any other family.
I have always heard it was more of a Protestant phenomenon.
I know Catholic homeschoolers, Protestant/evangelical homeschoolers, and atheist/non-belivers/secular homeschoolers.

School choices are not always based on religion.
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
I have no idea what that is, and it has nothing to do with whether or not Catholics homeschool. So I don’t understand what the question is here.
 
We homeschooled our children (at least until they were in 9th grade, then we gave them the choice). There were a number of other Catholic families in the area that did as well and we used to get the families together once a month or so for activiities.

We used setonhome.org/ for the curriculum.

I’m not sure what enmeshed families are.

Peace,
John Marie Philomena
 
I don’t think there is a correlation between “enmeshedness” and homeschooling. Maybe families that deal with enmeshing send their kids to public school or private school and many people choose homeschool for the main purpose of allowing their children to focus on their own interests and to provide individualized opportunities that aren’t possible in a classroom setting.
Lets be honest. There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school OR Catholic school because they might (horrors!) encounter a diversity of kids from different backgrounds, religions, or color.
I’m not saying they are all like that, but I have encountered more than a few on both sides of the Tiber. Their kids end up with poor socialization skills and tend to make poor decisions when they do reach adulthood due to their isolation.
Again, I am NOT saying all homeschooling families are like that. But different parents tend to have different motives.
 
Lets be honest. There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school OR Catholic school because they might (horrors!) encounter a diversity of kids from different backgrounds, religions, or color.
I’m not saying they are all like that, but I have encountered more than a few on both sides of the Tiber. Their kids end up with poor socialization skills and tend to make poor decisions when they do reach adulthood due to their isolation.
Again, I am NOT saying all homeschooling families are like that. But different parents tend to have different motives.
In general you are talking about a minority of families that homeschool for reasons like that. There are plenty of kids in public and private schools that lack social skills and make poor decisions also so I wouldn’t chalk it all up to some form of “homeschool isolation syndrome”.

Might there be a small minority that suffer from a form of isolation? Sure. But there are plenty of messed up people from all forms of backgrounds. Most socially award people I personally know went to public schools, so exposure to different kinds of people obviously isn’t the panacea you seem to imply.
 
I think it’s more of a North American thing.

The norm in my own country is still “Catholic schools for Catholic children” (though some of them have interesting ways of being Catholic :D), though some parents will actually opt for a secular school if they see it as being helpful to their children academically.
It is possibly more of a US thing since we have a choice of public secular schools or paying out the nose for private or parochial schools. Most other countries seem to give parents choices about what type of school to send their children to.

If all my kids were in Catholic schools we would be looking at around $53,000/year with 4 in elementary and 2 in highschool. Figuring in taxes (school tuition is not tax deductible) and my wife would have to pickup a job making close to 85,000 per year just to pay for tuition and that doesn’t figure in another couple thousand for books, uniforms and fees. Economically it makes more sense for her and me to educated the kids with the side benefit that we can tailor their education to their needs.

If the US actually allowed choice in schools or parochial schools were not so expensive (and actually followed Catholic teachings) homeschooling might not be as popular here. 🤷
 
Lets be honest. There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school OR Catholic school because they might (horrors!) encounter a diversity of kids from different backgrounds, religions, or color.
I’m not saying they are all like that, but I have encountered more than a few on both sides of the Tiber. Their kids end up with poor socialization skills and tend to make poor decisions when they do reach adulthood due to their isolation.
Again, I am NOT saying all homeschooling families are like that. But different parents tend to have different motives.
This is a nasty genealization!😦
 
If all my kids were in Catholic schools we would be looking at around $53,000/year with 4 in elementary and 2 in highschool. Figuring in taxes (school tuition is not tax deductible) and my wife would have to pickup a job making close to 85,000 per year just to pay for tuition and that doesn’t figure in another couple thousand for books, uniforms and fees. Economically it makes more sense for her and me to educated the kids with the side benefit that we can tailor their education to their needs.
That is pretty much how we started homeschooling. My wife was an adjunct professor of physics at a local university. We had4 kids in the local Catholic school. I had no objections, either academically or spiritually, about the school. But boy was it expensive. In addition. Our2ndgrader had a different start\stop time from the kindergartener, who had a different drop off and pick uptime from the pre-schooler. So my wife wastrying to dealwith*3 different drop off times, 3 different pick up times, a baby at home, and her own classes to run.

So she figured that if she would teach a class of*100 college freshmen, she could teach our own kids. And we came out financially ahead, while still retaining the Catholic component to the kids education.
 
Lets be honest. There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school OR Catholic school because they might (horrors!) encounter a diversity of kids from different backgrounds, religions, or color.
I’m not saying they are all like that, but I have encountered more than a few on both sides of the Tiber. Their kids end up with poor socialization skills and tend to make poor decisions when they do reach adulthood due to their isolation.
Again, I am NOT saying all homeschooling families are like that. But different parents tend to have different motives.
NONE of the homeschool families I know are bigots.
And their children do extremely well in college and after. - and no they do not have poor socialization skills.
 
NONE of the homeschool families I know are bigots.
And their children do extremely well in college and after. - and no they do not have poor socialization skills.
Well I have seen the opposite.
They do not want ‘state schools’ teaching them things they disagree with. They do not want them around ‘certain kinds of kids’. They tend to be right-wing and conspiratorial.
 
I’ve known a whole lot of homeschooling families that choose to homeschool for a wide variety of reasons. My cousin had homeschooled his kids because he and his wife are professional performers who have gigs all over the world and homeschooling allows them to educate their children on their own schedule without being penalized for absences. I have known some homeschooling moms who simply didn’t want to give up their young kids to school all day. I’ve known some parents who felt that the school couldn’t provide the diversity of curriculum they desired for their kids. I have known families who homeschooled because they had some sort of issue at their kid’s school and felt like the best choice was to pull them. I have known families who were concerned that public schools would not respect their religion or moral beliefs.

I have never encountered a family that homeschooled their kids because they didn’t want their kids around “the wrong sort”. I HAVE met many of Catholic school families who openly admit that is their main motivation. In my opinion, those people are the “wrong sort” who I don’t want representing my faith to my children.

Sadly, I’ve encountered parents who claimed to homeschool when the truth of the matter is they were keeping their kids out of school to conceal abuse or neglect. This was especially prevalent in rural Missouri where many girls were kept out of middle and high school so they could baby-sit younger siblings at home. I also know of parents who for months claimed they were homeschooling their son when the truth was that he had run away from home and they didn’t want to admit that they had no idea where he was. (He actually frequently showed up for school in order to get the free food.) I’ve dealt with a mother who frequently claimed she was homeschooling because she literally couldn’t get her kids to go to school. I mean, they simply refused to go and she wasn’t strong enough to physically force them into the car. She had been threatened multiple times with truancy charges but she was so in over her head and she had no idea what to do. When she finally admitted what was going on, the school was able to get her some help and those kids finally went to school! None of these people are what I’d call “homeschooling families”. They’re not educating their children at all. Homeschooling families actually have a learning environment in their home and follow some sort of curriculum.
 
Do Catholics homeschool? I have always heard it was more of a Protestant phenomenon.
I have also been told it is common among enmeshed families. Is that true?
Thanks.
Simple answer - yes to ‘do Catholics?’

No response to second question.

Personal answers -

Growing up, had friends who did, but it wasn’t common.

Married with Children answer - we have and are. The Homeschool community is large in this area.
  • right now all our school age kids go to a school, preschool to Highschool.
The oldest two were given a choice between a hybrid situation or all in at school, and are choosing the hybrid- homeschool with the exception of Math (my desire at first, reasoning more than agreed with by all parties - advanced Math needs a teacher daily to progress). Both are in Math classes ahead of peers. The 8th grader is doing Geometry. High Schooler takes 2 math classes - geometry and Honors Algebra 2.

They both homeschool for the rest.

Three of the others are in the closest Catholic school, the three year old is at a Lutheran Church for Preschool.

The baby is well, listening to all the chatter.

We use Seton curriculum for homeschool subjects because I don’t want my wife or I to have to either develop a curriculum or do grading. I also want structure and targets that complete Quarters.

When we first went to homeschooling, that curriculum won, when we went back, we didn’t change, have the time, or want to spend the time to develop a curriculum, so Seton made sense. I’m sure there are others that are also a ‘complete package’. My wife knows them all, usually buys what is needed at a conference in the summer.

I like that certified teachers do all the grading.
 
It is possibly more of a US thing since we have a choice of public secular schools or paying out the nose for private or parochial schools. Most other countries seem to give parents choices about what type of school to send their children to.

If all my kids were in Catholic schools we would be looking at around $53,000/year with 4 in elementary and 2 in highschool. Figuring in taxes (school tuition is not tax deductible) and my wife would have to pickup a job making close to 85,000 per year just to pay for tuition and that doesn’t figure in another couple thousand for books, uniforms and fees. Economically it makes more sense for her and me to educated the kids with the side benefit that we can tailor their education to their needs.

If the US actually allowed choice in schools or parochial schools were not so expensive (and actually followed Catholic teachings) homeschooling might not be as popular here. 🤷
Good post. 👍 The “expense” factor is slowly becoming a reality here too. 😦
 
We homeschool using seton. It’s very Catholic and we love it.
 
Son of Niall.

Concerning Catholic home schooling families, you said:
There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school
I’ve met atheists that feel that way too.

(Have you ever considered that they might WANT to spend the time with their own kids and educate them?)

You went on (emphasis mine) . . . .
There are ‘homeschooling’ families who do not want their kids in public school OR Catholic school because they might (horrors!) encounter a diversity of kids from different backgrounds, religions, or color.
I’ve never encountered this. Not once. Not even close.

You went on further saying . . . .
Their kids end up with poor socialization skills and tend to make poor decisions when they do reach adulthood due to their isolation.
I think this was a “poor decision” from you to post this non-sense.

I think you are 0 for 3, or at best 1 for 3.

Couldn’t disagree more here.

God bless.

Cathoholic
 
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