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Perhaps I misunderstood your message then.I 'm sorry, but the problem is yours, and it appears that you want the school to be the bad guy and not you.
Perhaps I misunderstood your message then.I 'm sorry, but the problem is yours, and it appears that you want the school to be the bad guy and not you.
This is fascinating. Thanks for posting this. It sure gives a lot of “food for thought.” (sorry for bad pun).When I went to Catholic grade school, maybe a fourth of the kids walked home for lunch and the rest of us brought our lunches. Nobody thought anything of it.
My grandchildren go to a Catholic grade school that has a cafeteria. A lot of the kids are farm kids, and their nutritional needs are very different from those of urban kids. A lot of the kids are in athletics. The school tried to follow the mandated federal dietary guidelines, but the kids were hungry all the time, so the cooks, who theoretically “comply”, actually cheat with extra helpings of certain things, unscheduled “side dishes” and such things.
One person’s “ideal meal” is not the same as another’s.
Finally, there might be biological reasons for differences in dietary preferences. Can a German eat like a Vietnamese and be okay? Can a Vietnamese eat like a German and be okay? I have my doubts as to both. As the OP is probably aware, for example, Indo-Europeans are the only people on earth, the majority of whom retain lactose tolerance into adulthood. There might be other things that are similar. I have two daughters who are without excess body fat or any health problems, but who eat large quantities of beef and thrive on it. I had a maiden aunt who, for perhaps 40 of the last of her 94 years, ate two rib eye steaks and two eggs for breakfast every morning, Never had an ounce of fat on her, but she had a racing metabolism. Would she have lived to 104 if she didn’t eat the way she did? Or would she perhaps have died at 74?
Nobody knows.
Your comments are right on. I once had a “confrontation” shall we say with our Director of Religious Ed because she was permitting artificial sweeteners to be used in the mixed drinks the Summer Bible School student were being served. I discovered this as several of my 3rd and 4th grade students were coming down with sudden headaches and nausea after recess and snack time.Richard, you describe a fairly sorry dietary tale. The US diet and its impacts on children are well known around the world!
Have you had a chat with other parents to try and see how they view the offerings and the practices? Change is most unlikely (inconceivable in fact) if you are the lone voice.
In regard to the classroom treats, you would think that healthier alternatives would be readily available, and the teachers would acknowledge the merits. Alas, I’ve often found teachers, indeed school staff in general, to hold the view that their decisions ought generally to be considered above review, certainly by parents. That’s just my experience though.
Good Luck.
Quite true. Do others have the right to tempt my child, who has never been exposed to this kind of “food” in such quantities before, without my permission? I’m just as irritated and astonished with the overtly sexualised marketing messages targeting my children. Should I be silent about this, too? Is it irrational to resent the influence of a corrupt society on one’s children, no matter what efforts one makes to inoculate them?You have a right to see that your child does not eat junk if that is your desire. You do not have a right to pass judgment on people that allow their children to eat snacks you do not allow.
Of course not. Should adults outside my family have the right to dangle objectively unhealthy “treats” in front of my child, with the implicit message that they can consume such items frequently without consequence? Do they have the right to interfere in my child’s diet at all? I’ve raised my children to trust their teachers. Should I now tell them not to? The obvious reality is that a large number of adults responsible for the care and education of children have little or no understanding of nutrition, yet feel entitled to dispense rubbish-quality “food”, often to help them control the children’s behaviour. It’s simply bad practice.You do not have the right to dictate what everyone else eats.
Honestly, I don;t think you’re sorry. It seems more likely that you prefer to believe junk food is harmless. It isn’t, and the health status of the children around here makes that perfectly clear.I 'm sorry, but the problem is yours, and it appears that you want the school to be the bad guy and not you.
Sorry, but this is very poor advice. Of course a child should be raised to make the right decisions in their own interests. But very few eight-year old children have the maturity, self-discipline and understanding of consequence to control their own diets. It is unambiguously the final responsibility of the parent to ensure that their eight year old children eat properly.You should teach your child, as others have said they have done, to say no thank you, and to be strong enough to just not eat it. No one is standing there forcing them to eat it. An 8 year old is certainly able to resist, and certainly able to do something that no one else is doing.
Thanks for this. I’ve been confused about what the rules actually were, and I was completely unaware of the Eastern practice.I think you should request that a meatless option is offered at least every Friday as per canon 1251 of the 1983 Code of Canon Law to abstain from meat on all Fridays is the universal law of the Catholic Church. Additionally most Eastern Catholic Churches also have Wednesday as a day of penance.
I hope you understand that the responses you get here are an indicator of what you will face at the school.Quite true. Do others have the right to tempt my child, who has never been exposed to this kind of “food” in such quantities before, without my permission? I’m just as irritated and astonished with the overtly sexualised marketing messages targeting my children. Should I be silent about this, too? Is it irrational to resent the influence of a corrupt society on one’s children, no matter what efforts one makes to inoculate them?
Of course not. Should adults outside my family have the right to dangle objectively unhealthy “treats” in front of my child, with the implicit message that they can consume such items frequently without consequence? Do they have the right to interfere in my child’s diet at all? I’ve raised my children to trust their teachers. Should I now tell them not to? The obvious reality is that a large number of adults responsible for the care and education of children have little or no understanding of nutrition, yet feel entitled to dispense rubbish-quality “food”, often to help them control the children’s behaviour. It’s simply bad practice.
Honestly, I don;t think you’re sorry. It seems more likely that you prefer to believe junk food is harmless. It isn’t, and the health status of the children around here makes that perfectly clear.
Sorry, but this is very poor advice. Of course a child should be raised to make the right decisions in their own interests. But very few eight-year old children have the maturity, self-discipline and understanding of consequence to control their own diets. It is unambiguously the final responsibility of the parent to ensure that their eight year old children eat properly.
In the United States, the USCCB’s Pastoral Statement on Penance and Abstinence is still in effect. It leaves it up to the individual to determine their Friday penance and no longer requires abstinence from meat (outside of Lent) as the only choice under pain of sin. This is within their rights to do in lieu of Canon 1253 in the Code of Canon Law.Thanks for this. I’ve been confused about what the rules actually were, and I was completely unaware of the Eastern practice.
Of course I’m not in a position to wade in and start quoting Catholic law. I’ve only mentioned the issue of meat on Fridays to a school administrator once, in passing, noting that I was surprised there was not fish on Fridays.
I was told the rules had changed at the same time as (but not by) Vatican II. I’ve read the following, but I cannot claim to understand how it fully applies in practice:
vatican.va/holy_father/paul_vi/apost_constitutions/documents/hf_p-vi_apc_19660217_paenitemini_en.html
Also, there aren’t any high school kids at the school, so most of the children are under the age of 14, to whom the rules of abstinence do not apply.
Don’t recommend they have fish as fish is not cheap especially in noncoastal areas, merely recommend a vegetarian option.Thanks for this. I’ve been confused about what the rules actually were, and I was completely unaware of the Eastern practice.
Of course I’m not in a position to wade in and start quoting Catholic law. I’ve only mentioned the issue of meat on Fridays to a school administrator once, in passing, noting that I was surprised there was not fish on Fridays.
I was told the rules had changed at the same time as (but not by) Vatican II. I’ve read the following, but I cannot claim to understand how it fully applies in practice:
vatican.va/holy_father/paul_vi/apost_constitutions/documents/hf_p-vi_apc_19660217_paenitemini_en.html
Also, there aren’t any high school kids at the school, so most of the children are under the age of 14, to whom the rules of abstinence do not apply.
Remember, it is left up to the individual and the universal law is still meatless Fridays. To refuse to offer a meatless option on Fridays is making it harder for the children to do what is morally right.In the United States, the USCCB’s Pastoral Statement on Penance and Abstinence is still in effect. It leaves it up to the individual to determine their Friday penance and no longer requires abstinence from meat (outside of Lent) as the only choice under pain of sin. This is within their rights to do in lieu of Canon 1253 in the Code of Canon Law.
Thus, we cannot really say that a Catholic school must not have meat on Fridays outside of Lent. But considering the tradition, it would still make sense for a Catholic school to do that.
Most of these children are under the age where any abstinence is required. The OP already said that peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are offered on Fridays. Not have more variety of meatless options is not a moral requirement.Don’t recommend they have fish as fish is not cheap especially in noncoastal areas, merely recommend a vegetarian option.
Remember, it is left up to the individual and the universal law is still meatless Fridays. To refuse to offer a meatless option on Fridays is making it harder for the children to do what is morally right.
Indeed, we cannot say that a Catholic school must not have meat on Fridays outside of Lent, but it is in effect morally obligatory for them to offer a meatless option.
Turns out while this is widely believed, it is not always true. There may be more work involved in prep (it isn’t just heating anymore, its actually cooking.)It’s a matter of money. The processed foods are cheaper.
And Wednesdays for Eastern Catholics?Most of these children are under the age where any abstinence is required. The OP already said that peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are offered on Fridays. Not have more variety of meatless options is not a moral requirement.![]()
Indeed, many places lack the facilities to prepare actual meals.Turns out while this is widely believed, it is not always true. There may be more work involved in prep (it isn’t just heating anymore, its actually cooking.)
Given the epidemic of nutritionally based poor health in this country, I think the OP should sit down with the school in a nice dialog; it won’t change overnight, but if you get a 20% improvement and then another 15% improvement, etc. over time, things will get better.
Perhaps start by suggesting one fairly simple fresh alternative daily.
It is irrational to think that you can move into a community, send your child to their school then tell them that they are all in effect poisoning your child with “enormous levels of salt, cheap oils & fats, sugar and chemical sweeteners.” All without “causing offence.”Quite true. Do others have the right to tempt my child, who has never been exposed to this kind of “food” in such quantities before, without my permission? I’m just as irritated and astonished with the overtly sexualised marketing messages targeting my children. Should I be silent about this, too? Is it irrational to resent the influence of a corrupt society on one’s children, no matter what efforts one makes to inoculate them?
I have friends from England and France, and when they came to this country nearly 20 years ago they were shocked at the sugar and salt content in our foods and frankly the lack of quality. I had another friend from the Middle East. He too was disgusted at the flavorings, how meat smelled and tasted.If it were really “now and then,” I’d agree, especially if the cupcakes were really cupcakes with five or six ingredients like butter, milk, eggs, flour and sugar. The ones sold by the supermarket “bakery” have 40 (forty) ingredients, most of which offer no benefit to the consumer, but are there to extend shelf life, lower manufacturing costs and enhance the impulse value of the product. Sorry, but I find this appalling. I really doubt you were fed this sort of rubbish as a child. On average, the kids are presented with processed sweets and packaged fried snacks three or four times a week at school alone. On top of that, the same practice is employed by the staff at the YMCA, which is supposed to have a healthy food policy.
Over the course of a typical month my child is offered more than enough low-quality food to lead her directly into a life-long struggle with obesity unless, by luck of the draw, she is genetically immune. Of course we encourage her to make good choices, but she is only eight years old, far too young to expect her to understand how to resist, especially when all her peers are indulging. We’re simply forced to intervene.
You may think it is obsessive, but we’ve lived in three other countries since our first child was born and have never faced anything like this problem before.
In Europe, food costs about twice as much as it does here, relative to peoples’ income. This country long ago decided that food would be as low a segment of peoples’ budgets as possible. Undoubtedly, the industrialization of food production is part of that.I have friends from England and France, and when they came to this country nearly 20 years ago they were shocked at the sugar and salt content in our foods and frankly the lack of quality. I had another friend from the Middle East. He too was disgusted at the flavorings, how meat smelled and tasted.
I got a chance to go to Germany and the difference if food is astonishing and in a good way. I only wish I could afford to go more organic, or import foods from other countries like France and Germany for myself. My sister and I do what we can. If folks want a good idea of how much junk is in our food in this country they should take the time to read the labels.
Of course most of the ingredients almost require a degree in chemistry to read. I am all for people going back to growing as much of their own foods as possible. We are lucky as we learned how to can and freeze foods as kids. Believe me the difference is alarming. I think if people got together as families and in the community to grow different fruits and veggies at home and share with each other it would be wonderful and life saving. I mean to do this in addition to any community gardens in existence.
Stand by your guns on this.