Hey everyone!
I’ve said I’ll get back to you so…I’m done with online dating. It is just way too much for me.
I’m having a break from dating anyway.People (I know not everyone but still) are just too shallow. Long story short me and my friends went out for dinner last night. There was a male colleague of one of our friend saying that he would never date anyone over a size 10 (38/40). And even a size 10 is almost fat depending on your height. What!!! So we’ve started arguing with him and he said he didn’t want to have to worry about his wife getting back in her clothes after getting birth AND that we should’t be upset because we’re all size 10 or less. :bigyikes: + first thing people see is your body so it should look nice…
Anyway we’ve argued for at least 20 minutes but he wouldn’t change his mind.
There is worse in life but this is really depressing.
I’m just praying for him.
Anyway,
God bless you all.
Hi Elizabethelisa,
It’s not about his mind – that has little or nothing to do with it. Allow me to explain in a posting that might take 5 minutes to read.
While I do hope for you to find someone special, calling a man shallow just because he is attracted to a woman with a more petite body simply isn’t fair, and you’re saying it more out of sour grapes rather than out of fact.
Going by that logic, you’d have to call every man on the planet shallow. …
… If it was a man, a man on welfare, it would be like that man calling a woman shallow for not wanting to date a man who can’t pay his rent. That’s not fair either.
It’s simple — women want a man who can keep a certain standard of living$, and men want a woman they are physically attracted to. And neither one of them should be judged as shallow for wanting what they want. — To judge them as shallow would be to judge the whole human race, and that’s not fair.
And that’s not to say that they don’t have the intention of falling in love – they just have the right to be choosy about who they might fall in love with.
And these attractions don’t change just because people happen to be good Catholics – human nature is the same everywhere. …
… Look at Joel Osteen for example – have you seen his wife? Drop dead gorgeous! I can just LOOK at her and tell she’s a rich man’s wife. How many pastors have you ever seen getting a woman that looks like her? — Fact is, when a man has millions of dollars, he can have a smokin’ hot woman. His desire for a hot female body in his bed doesn’t disappear just because he’s a man of God. Unfortunately though, most pastors will never make that kind of money and therefore will never be able to obtain a woman that hot. …
… another example: Think of every superstar athlete or entertainer that you’ve ever seen on TV. Have you ever seen their wives/girlfriends? All gorgeous models! Would you say those guys are shallow for using their millions of dollars to obtain the most beautiful women in the world? What would you have them do? Take an average-looking woman just to prove that they are not “shallow”?
Think of every beauty pageant model that you’ve ever seen with all her values and education. Who does she give that amazing body to? Some clean cut doctor or lawyer? No, she gives it to some dirtbag rocker, as he is worth millions of dollars and she likes that he can easliy provide for her, and she likes that he gets up on stage and sings about what he’s gonna do in bed to some chick he met 5 minutes ago ( nevermind the fact that 2 years later she finds out that he’s cheated on her with 500 groupies and she divorces him ). … ( Don’t get me wrong - I love rock, but the only reasons to become a rock star is satisfaction of ego, tons of money, and hot chicks in bed. )
Facts are facts – beautiful women have choices, and they choose men who are on the wealthier side, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to fall in love. And wealthy men are men with choices, and they choose women with faces and bodies that make make them want to copulate with those women, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to fall in love. … to say that is shallow would be to say that every beautiful woman who has ever lived is shallow, and every wealthy man who has ever lived is shallow – and that’s not fair and it’s not true at all. …
For a beautiful woman not to use her looks to allow herself choices in succes$ful men simply goes against human nature – and conversely, for a wealthy man not to use his succes$ to allow himself choices in beautiful women simply goes against human nature. … How many poor guys do you see getting Playboy Cenerfolds? How many ugly women do you see getting wealthy men?
Every time a less-than wealthy man is rejected by a beautiful woman, he always wants to call her shallow, as if it’s HER problem and not HIS. … and conversely, whenever a less-than-attractive woman is rejected by a well-to-do man, she always wants to call him shallow, as if it’s HIS problem and not HERS.
Both men and women have the right, without being judged, when considering a possible romantic partner, to get their market-value in a partner, regardless of their religious affiliation. And yes while personality is important, a man’s market value tends to lie in the size of his bank account, and a woman’s market value tends to lie in the shape of her body and the prettiness of her face.
The sooner you accept this, the better. Falsely and unfairly judging others for wanting what they have the right to want is not going to hurt them, nor is it going to help you. So please refrain from the jealous sour-grapes of saying that someone is shallow just because they don’t want a physical relationship. That type of statement typically doesn’t fool anyone, and is just said to cope and make one’s self feel better.
This doesn’t mean you should give up your search though – perhaps just be more realistic about what is available to yourself.
I don’t know if I’m joking or not with that.
