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I see that you are a convert. Can I just ask if you were an evangelical before you converted?Jesus said “I Am the Way, the Truth and the Life”.
Since Jesus IS the Truth, His Church holds the keys to that Truth.
I see that you are a convert. Can I just ask if you were an evangelical before you converted?Jesus said “I Am the Way, the Truth and the Life”.
Since Jesus IS the Truth, His Church holds the keys to that Truth.
I don’t. But to be honest, I don’t think the church, the pope, or anyone really has any more authority than myself in the matter.And how do you know you are right? Or that you are interpreting God correctly?
I do. In that context, masturbation would be hurting others. If your wife does not approve of masturbation, one should not do it. But, if you are not in a relationship, it is a different matter. So, you are right, in some contexts, masturbation does break the golden rule.I’m just wondering if you remember this thread: forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=428928.
Exactly - no one has demonstrated any inherent evil in masturbation; it’s just a matter of context. It’s like watching TV; a morally neutral activity in itself which can be done in an immoral way; for example, when someone spends so much time watching TV that he neglect his family or job.I do. In that context, masturbation would be hurting others. If your wife does not approve of masturbation, one should not do it. But, if you are not in a relationship, it is a different matter. So, you are right, in some contexts, masturbation does break the golden rule.
But masturbation hurts YOU even when you’re not in a relationship. As someone who used to indulge and has now largely conquered the sin, I know that it leads to an unhealthy and unnatural obsession with sex. It’s often accompanied either by pornography or at least pornographic fantasies that distort one’s view of sex away from what is healthy, reasonable and well-ordered. It can seriously impact on the health of current or future relationships - it did for relationships at the time I was doing it, for sure.I do. In that context, masturbation would be hurting others. If your wife does not approve of masturbation, one should not do it. But, if you are not in a relationship, it is a different matter. So, you are right, in some contexts, masturbation does break the golden rule.
Your own evaluation of your personal experience is not proof of anything; it’s just an opinion.But masturbation hurts YOU even when you’re not in a relationship. As someone who used to indulge and has now largely conquered the sin, I know that it leads to an unhealthy and unnatural obsession with sex. It’s often accompanied either by pornography or at least pornographic fantasies that distort one’s view of sex away from what is healthy, reasonable and well-ordered. It can seriously impact on the health of current or future relationships - it did for relationships at the time I was doing it, for sure.
It’s taking something sacred, something meant as a communication of love between two people, and turning it into a solo activity, cheapening it to the level where it’s just like any other mindless thing that we do merely to relieve boredom or stress or whatnot.
Like building a 3-storey house entirely out of gold and then using it for your dog or pig to live in. You might say ‘if I pay for it myself, what’s the harm?’ The harm is that that one act is reflective of a wrong mindset, and you can betcha that someone that selfish and disordered in one particular is selfish and disordered in a whole bunch of other ways too.
Is your position that there is no authority?I don’t. But to be honest, I don’t think the church, the pope, or anyone really has any more authority than myself in the matter.
I use my own logic, reason, and the good heart that God gave me to determine my morality.Is your position that there is no authority?
In other words, you are your own authority.I use my own logic, reason, and the good heart that God gave me to determine my morality.
It’s more than personal experience - it’s observational evidence. Evidence which adds weight to the truth of the Church’s claim that masturbation is wrong in every circumstance.Your own evaluation of your personal experience is not proof of anything; it’s just an opinion.
The Church would agree that we not accept something just because the church says so. The Catechism even specifies that one shouldn not be compelled to act against his conscience.Who has the authority to say something is a sin though? Many would say the church, but I will not accept something JUST because the church says it. I must rationally deduce it.
First, these are moral evils; not necessarily sins in Catholic thinking. That is, their effects on the actor and/or others are always and everywhere evil – a retardation to the intimate relationship we all seek with our Creator.I am going to list a bunch of things that are “grave matters” according to the church that do not break the golden rule. Please add to them if you would like.
Homosexual actions
Masturbation
Condom use
Any ceremonial obligation (confession, eucharist, etc)
So, if these things do not go against the greatest commandment, why are they grave matters?
Obviously God can lead two different people to opposite conclusions. Many church leaders and Biblical interpreters have come to different conclusions about the Bible. How else would you explain it? To be honest, I think that when people cannot come to a consensus on something, it likely is not that important in the eyes of God.In other words, you are your own authority.
What if someone uses the same criteria (logic, reason, and good heart) to determine that masturbation (for example) is wrong? How do you know who is right?
Do you think that God can lead two different people to two opposite conclusions?
The detrimental health effects of alcohol can actually be measured though. The effect masturbation has on one’s psyche cannot. In some people, it can lead to an impure mind, but this is not true for everyone.It’s more than personal experience - it’s observational evidence. Evidence which adds weight to the truth of the Church’s claim that masturbation is wrong in every circumstance.
Put it this way - the AMA teaches that we shouldn’t abuse alcohol because among other things it has numerous bad effects on our health. If someone comes along and says ‘yes, I was an alcoholic and can tell you that I DID, as a direct result of my misuse of alcohol, suffer horrible health effects, namely xyz’ then it adds an amount of weight to the claims of the AMA, no?
Isn’t that one of the ways that science works? Someone comes up with a theory - such as Galileo his theory that the earth revolves around the sun - and proves it at least in part by gathering observational evidence. Galileo says ‘well, a planet that revolves around the sun would behave in x y and z ways. We can observe that the Earth DOES behave in x y and z ways, so that’s evidence in favour of my theory being correct’.
I haven’t read any Catholic books. I did go to a Catholic grammar school and high school though.hellopeople (if that is your real name) i want to ask, what kind of catholic books have you read? like what are your sources of information on the Catholic church and it’s teachings?
i don’t know much about you…but i thought this might help me understand alittle more of where your coming from with all these questions…well, maybe, maybe not, but i thought i’d ask.
By that logic, NOTHING is important in the eyes of God. There are self-proclaimed Christians who deny the divinity of Christ, for example. Wouldn’t you think that’d be a fairly important issue?Obviously God can lead two different people to opposite conclusions. Many church leaders and Biblical interpreters have come to different conclusions about the Bible. How else would you explain it? To be honest, I think that when people cannot come to a consensus on something, it likely is not that important in the eyes of God.
I appreciate your various responses to the posts here on this thread, but I would also suggest that you take some time to consider the error that you have in your original post.I am going to list a bunch of things that are “grave matters” according to the church that do not break the golden rule. Please add to them if you would like.
Homosexual actions
Masturbation
Condom use
Any ceremonial obligation (confession, eucharist, etc)
So, if these things do not go against the greatest commandment, why are they grave matters?