Catholicism Ruins Self-Esteem And Lives

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But…just because the friend is a lapsed Catholic, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t do the above.
Many non-Catholics-to-Atheists do and live by and achieve the above.

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I’m so sorry, but I do not believe that consistent atheists can have a real purpose of life. They might only create a banal purpose** in life** for themselves, which would be limited by their lifespan.

People who envision the consequences that may happen after their death may not be consistent atheists. Such people believe in some sort of afterlife deep in their minds.
 
I’m so sorry, but I do not believe that consistent atheists can have a real purpose of life. They might only create a banal purpose** in life** for themselves, which would be limited by their lifespan.

People who envision the consequences that may happen after their death may not be consistent atheists. Such people believe in some sort of afterlife deep in their minds.
I disagree. Atheists, similar to theists, have moral human values, ambitions, goals, aspirations that are far from banal. They can create a meaning and purpose for their lives here on earth just as theists can. In fact, since this life is all they believe they have, that earthly purpose may become even more precious and meaningful to them than to some theists.
 
I think a LOT of people, perhaps most, can’t separate the faith in which they were raised from the family who raised them. They think the faith was the problem when in truth, it is often the particular parents who didn’t actually LIVE the faith very well.
Exactly.
 
I disagree. Atheists, similar to theists, have moral human values, ambitions, goals, aspirations that are far from banal. They can create a meaning and purpose for their lives here on earth just as theists can. In fact, since this life is all they believe they have, that earthly purpose may become even more precious and meaningful to them than to some theists.
I completely agree, meltzerboy. By any chance, have you ever spent any time with C.S. Lewis? He talks about precisely this in the very beginning of his book Mere Christianity, and he does it in a very relaxed and brilliant way. His basic point was that there is an objective morality which is common to all of humanity, and which encompasses Christians of all stripes, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, Shamans, Pagans, atheists, everybody. Lewis’ examples boil down to fair play and honesty, which are things that everyone expects, even those who feign Nietzchean nihilism, anti-Christianity or other forms of anti-religion. So yeah, you’re right, religion has no monopoly on human decency, or, perhaps, from another vantage point, religious morality has so suffused human thought for so many aeons, that it’s now just our common inheritance as human beings.
 
I would talk to her about YOUR positive experiences, because it’s what you know best. If I were talking to her, I would tell her about how I have learned so much about the love and mercy of God, that we are all sinners, but that no sin is unforgivable, and that the love of Jesus is greater than any sin. I had a lot of the same feelings as your friend (guilt, guilt, guilt!) and fell away for 20+ years, but I’m back and the kind of teaching I’m receiving now focuses on the love, but without distorting the teachings of the Church (regular Confession is highly encouraged at our parish!) When we are talked to about sin, it’s always accompanied with the positive message of absolution through Confession. Maybe you are part of God’s call to bring your friend back. I would suggest just living by example, keeping the lines of communication open, and asking for the Holy Spirit to inspire you with the right words to say when it comes up again.
 
How orthodox of a Catholic are you? I’ve met very few secularists and/or atheists who don’t believe in or practice sex outside of marriage, let alone abortion, gay marriage, etc.
As an atheist, I firmly believed that sex was for marriage, abortion was wrong, and same sex unions were an aberration of nature. Sex for entertainment, outside marriage, was not only wrong but unwise. One had to honest, while fraud, deception, stealing, murder was wrong. To me virtue was its own reward since there was no heaven as a reward when I died. This was my thinking as an atheist. However I was not raised in a vacuum so I think the values I held were influenced and probably originated from my grandparents who were devout Catholics.

Now, as a Catholic …
I still believe the above as a Catholic and believe in and am obedient to all of the Church teachings. So yes, I am fairly orthodox as a Catholic.
 
I disagree. Atheists, similar to theists, have moral human values, ambitions, goals, aspirations that are far from banal. They can create a meaning and purpose for their lives here on earth just as theists can. In fact, since this life is all they believe they have, that earthly purpose may become even more precious and meaningful to them than to some theists.
I think, the words “to them” are key in Your claim. A human here becomes a measure of his/her own morality.
I completely agree, meltzerboy. By any chance, have you ever spent any time with C.S. Lewis? He talks about precisely this in the very beginning of his book Mere Christianity, and he does it in a very relaxed and brilliant way. His basic point was that there is an objective morality which is common to all of humanity, and which encompasses Christians of all stripes, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, Shamans, Pagans, atheists, everybody. Lewis’ examples boil down to fair play and honesty, which are things that everyone expects, even those who feign Nietzchean nihilism, anti-Christianity or other forms of anti-religion. So yeah, you’re right, religion has no monopoly on human decency, or, perhaps, from another vantage point, religious morality has so suffused human thought for so many aeons, that it’s now just our common inheritance as human beings.
C.S. Lewis was writing at a time when atheists and believers still shared the morals in their substantials. Nowadays the boundaries of right and wrong are switching every year; unless one is a believer, there is little to prevent one from falling into contemporary “everything goes” model.
As an atheist, I firmly believed that sex was for marriage, abortion was wrong, and same sex unions were an aberration of nature. Sex for entertainment, outside marriage, was not only wrong but unwise. One had to honest, while fraud, deception, stealing, murder was wrong. To me virtue was its own reward since there was no heaven as a reward when I died. This was my thinking as an atheist. However I was not raised in a vacuum so I think the values I held were influenced and probably originated from my grandparents who were devout Catholics.
Yes, I think, Your last phrase is true. Had You not converted, Your children would have had quite different views on morality.

Good to know about Your conversion! 👍
 
You would really need to hear a lot more form her on the exact source of her guilt. There are many ways this could happen much of which has been illuminated in the above posts.

One source that was not mentioned though is that the priest where she attended Church could actually be shaming people. It does happen and it can have very negative consequences. I am not Catholic but my wife is and she and my daughter attend mass every Sunday without fail. I have gone to many of the services with them. The priest in that parish is amazing, uplifting and his grasp on theology is very,very deep. I feel like I have gotten smarter just listening to him.

However he goes to Ireland for a month out of every year and the man who often replaces him is unequivocally abusive and shaming in his tone and choice of sermons. He is abusive. I will not let my daughter attend a mass of his at any point in her life… It IS possible that your friend went to a parish like that and has harmed her.
 
As an atheist, I firmly believed that sex was for marriage, abortion was wrong, and same sex unions were an aberration of nature. Sex for entertainment, outside marriage, was not only wrong but unwise. One had to honest, while fraud, deception, stealing, murder was wrong. To me virtue was its own reward since there was no heaven as a reward when I died. This was my thinking as an atheist. However I was not raised in a vacuum so I think the values I held were influenced and probably originated from my grandparents who were devout Catholics.

Now, as a Catholic …
I still believe the above as a Catholic and believe in and am obedient to all of the Church teachings. So yes, I am fairly orthodox as a Catholic.
But, this is something atheists and the secular world, and Protestants as well, will usually not admit. They merely adopt their morals and values from the Church. Why else do they get so upset sometimes when they find their beliefs are not in line with Church teaching?
C.S. Lewis was writing at a time when atheists and believers still shared the morals in their substantials. Nowadays the boundaries of right and wrong are switching every year; unless one is a believer, there is little to prevent one from falling into contemporary “everything goes” model.
I don’t buy the fair play thing and nowadays I try not to expect it from people, no matter what religion you claim, or lack thereof. That’s just talk. CS Lewis had a faulty premise. It almost implies that a violation of fair play is supposedly the unforgiven sin; he’s writing his own rules. Anyways, if we’re going to go by this, there is nothing fair about abortion for the kid, no matter how normalized it is nowadays. So there we go.

Several years ago I used to be a bit more zealous about ecumenical dialogue. Not anymore. I came back to the Church after an atheistic/agnostic stint where I thought I can just do whatever I want as long as I thought I was being a decent person, but now I see the folly. I’m beginning to understand what false ecumenism really means. Yes, you may come to similar conclusions or find similarities between moral codes, every now and then, but even a broken clock is right twice a day.
 
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