I’m beginning to see….
Alright so far, defining worship is being based on outward acts. Some outward acts ae “worship” and others are “honor”. And the lines between the two are different for Protestants and Catholics.
Cultural Forms is the key:
I think this is the issue, putting to much emphasis in one aspect of the cultural dimensions. There are three main dimensions of a culture; a) what is perceivable b) what is organizational and c) what is conceptual.
What is perceivable are the various “forms” and outward aspects of a culture. This would be on the surface and displayed through such things as “shaking hands means I greet you”. This varies from place to place. Like a language, two languages can have similar sounding words and mean two different things, the words themselves are cultural forms used by the culture to express its deeper aspects (the conceivable dimension). Perceivable dimension also includes cultural artifacts (pens, paper, laptops, totem poles) and ceremonies. Also words such as “pray” so We cannot say that when someone uses the word “pray” they mean worship, they can mean whatever they want to mean by it, and it is an accepted concept that the word carries not the idea of worship, but the idea of request.
Therefore by very definition you cannot judge what defines “worship” and “to honor” merely by outward act. We cannot say “singing a song” is universally “worship” (even consistently, do we not sing songs to girlfriends?) Nor can we say that burning a candle to an object is worship by the very act itself. This is an outward expression that means something deeper. The question with this then is what the conceptual meaning behind the act is.
If a Catholic only “looks like they are worshipping” and we have no evidence that they are “in fact worshipping” Then we cannot use their cultural outward forms to make the decision on how far is too far. (i.e. just because you see them burn candles, sing sons, make pilgrimages, ect.)
So in the end, Catholics don’t worship Mary because they say they don’t. The issue for Catholics is to define what exactly on the conceptual level is the difference between honor and worship.
This conversation is just talking past each other, because we are debating the perceivable level, which is highly subjective and not the conceptual level where universal Scriptural norms lie.