Catholics accused of worshiping Mary

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Singinbeauty:
But I guess what I don’t understand is WHY or HOW you have to have a statue of the Virgin Mary in order to talk to God. This is my stumbling block. For you to pray to Mary doesn’t that take God out of the picture at least a little?
When you’re sitting in your church service, and the pastor is praying, and you’re closing your eyes and going along with him, do you feel that he’s taking away from God? Or getting in YOUR way of communicating with God? Or when someone is saying grace before a meal for the whole family, are the rest of the members of that family supposed to ignore them and not consider that prayer being a thankyou for the food for them as well?
 
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Singinbeauty:
But I guess what I don’t understand is WHY or HOW you have to have a statue of the Virgin Mary in order to talk to God. This is my stumbling block. For you to pray to Mary doesn’t that take God out of the picture at least a little?
  1. You don’t have to have a statue in order to speak with God or the Blessed Mother - they are only reminders.
  2. You can speak to God without the Saints, but the Saints are there to help lead us in God’s will. They have already achieved the ultimate - they are in Heaven.
  3. You don’t have to pray to Mary or the Saints, but they are there, and they want you to do God’s will and thus will pray to help you do God’s will.
  4. If you said ‘Mary, Creator of the universe’, yes this WOULD take away from God. But even if someone were to do that, she would not want that, because she knows she is not God.
 
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rayne89:
You took part in Marian worship? What exactly were you doing?

Our church had an annual May crowning event. I cannot in anyway understand how this could be seen as anything other than worship by any thinking person. A life sized statue of the Virgin is carried to the front of the church (at that time the only woman allowed up there!) People sang songs to it, threw themselves face down before it while promising to consecrate themselves and their entire lives to Mary, recited a litany of the titles of the Virgin, then crowned it with flowers and declared Mary Queen of Heaven and Earth. All this amid tears, a “court” of virgins (who do the crowning) etc etc.

I agree there are probably some people for whatever reason who may go to far (I have not seen it personally) but I did speak of those who follow the teachings of the Church would never do such a thing. And your absolutely right Marian worship is not the teaching of the church.

Agreed!

There are those in the church that deny the Eucharist is the body of Christ, deny the validity of Vatican II -any person can rebel against the church. If someone is worshipping Mary (or anyone or thing else) it is against the teaching of the church.

Agreed!

I am not justifying anything. I have seen others pray the rosary -and I have prayed it myself. This is not Marian worship -we meditate upon the life of Christ as we pray the rosary. I have seen a person light candle in front of our statue a Mary -that is not Marian worship.

Agreed!

. I have seen a May crowning before -again not Marian worship
**What is it if not worship to declare someone Queen of heaven and earth and of people’s hearts? That is more than respect and honor. That is giving something the place that belongs to God alone.

I was there, with the people, seeing their reactions, feeling what they were feeling. It is very hard to take part in this type of ritual and not cross the line between honor to outright worship. ALL the focus was on Mary, and how wonderful she was, and how we didn’t deserve anything as good as her, and how she is queen of the angels etc. It is very hard to sing, process, pray, consecrate, and crown a person without getting emotionally caught up and putting that thing at the highest place in one’s heart.
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Even my 9 year old daughter (who often hears me read things aloud from this forum to my husband) laughs out loud at the idea that we as Catholics worship Mary-or statues. She says emphatically “We worship God, we honor Mary -how come they don’t know that?”

**I think that most of the time, most Catholics honor Mary, but I do think that there is a tendency to let Mary slip into a goddess role (while not outright naming her as such) and work with her exactly as one would with a godess. I wish this was not true, but it is, and unfortunately I do not see the church doing much to quell this.

I suspect that the virgin herself is displeased with such.
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You can only speak from your experience so not assume because you became involved with a heretical group that it’s everywhere and the rest of us are us are just in denial.

**I do not think that most Catholics worship Mary. So I do not think most are denying anything. But I think that in general, a blind eye is turned toward the fact that this practice does take place.

I suspect that a united front is shown, and everyone denies that any such practice takes place out of solidarity and intent to defend the church from what is seen as “attacks”. But I think a wiser approach, as some have taken here, is to admit that some people and groups have gone overboard on Mary, but that is heretical. I think everyone can understand that, because we have all had experience with it. It is when people just shout louder “NO! That NEVER takes place” that credibility is shot.

cheddar
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I had heard it said that to be a faithful Catholic, that you don’t have to pray the rosary or have a Marian devotion.

I ask Mary to intercede is actually optional, but it doesn’t hurt.
 
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Catholic4aReasn:
Rather I think they deny it because it really isn’t true.

Help me understand you here. When you say “it takes place” are you saying that you personally know of people who believe that Mary is a god and they worship her as such? Is it possible, however remotely, that you are misinterpreting what you’re seeing or hearing about; that what you personally and subjectively consider worship really isn’t?

**A person does not need to put the label “god” on a thing to worship it. Worship is an attitude, a feeling, a response. Whether we call the object “god” or not, we can worship anything. It is evident in the way we think, feel and treat it, in our actions toward it, in our devotion to it and its causes.

Most of us have had experiences where we realized we were giving more homage to a thing than was due, that it was receiving too much priority in our lives, and that the things which should properly receive our attention were being pushed out.

We all need checks and balances to call us back to the proper priorities. I think when it comes to devotion to the Virgin Mary, these checks and balances are sorely missing. Many people become so devoted to Mary and working with/through Mary that the proper focus on the Godhead is compromised. And because the accepted idea among the faithful is that there is hardly any way to honor Mary enough, people do slip into worship, whether they name her “god:” or not.

You suggest that I am claiming I can read people’s hearts. I am going by what they show in their actions, words and manner, what they show me of their own hearts.

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I’m not so sure about that. On what do you base your statement that it’s common?

**Living among Catholics, attending Catholic school and being part of a Catholic community for many years.

These are good people, I love them, they are my friends and family. I am not trying to paint them as wackos, but a great deal of Marian devotion disconcerts me. Much of it is rife with superstition (miraculous medal diaper pins!, burying people’s names at Fatima) and it has a tendency to go overboard. We had speakers come to school to talk to us about Mary with some regularity, tears streaming down their face, mumbling over the goodness of the Blessed Mother while others shared testimony of the miracles she had wrought in their lives. Imploring us to devote our lives to her, to take a holy card or a medal and say a certain prayer a certain number of times a day, etc. etc. I’m sure you know the sort of thing I am talking about.

If not, visit a Catholic book store in real life or online. The whole thing has gotten quite out of hand, and that is not even touching on those who want Mary named coredemptrix.

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You, at one point in your life, sincerely believed that Mary was a god? If, as you stated, the Church doesn’t not teach Mary worship how is it that you found yourself worshipping her?

**No, actually, I never had a special devotion to Mary, but I participated in rituals (such as May crowning, and other such that Marian groups led at our church or school) No one needs to teach a person to worship a thing, worship is a response. Mary is placed so highly, and so much is attributed to her, that people who form a devotion to her, and a close relationship sometimes tend to drift into worship. It is understandable, but troublesome.

the church warns people away from many things because it is understood that people have a tendency to respond this way, but there are no such limits when it comes to Mary.
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In Christ,
Nancy 🙂
 
I would like to clarify that Mary is rightfully due honor and respect, and my concerns are in no way concerns against the Virgin.

I believe that no one is more pained than Mary herself at the improper acts that are done in her name.

I believe that it is disrespectful to the Virgin to place her in a position (within one’s heart) above that of her son or divine spouse.

I believe that the Virgin herself does not feel honored when prayers or sacramentals associated with her are used in superstitious ways or as charms or talismans. Or when devotions take attention away from the sacrafice of her son.

My posts are not against the Virgin, they are against practices which dishonor the Virgin by drawing improper attention to her, or using her graces as " charms".

It is not anti Catholic or anti Virgin to recognize that some wrongs are done in her name and to wish to see them corrected.

It does not honor the Virgin to defend the misuse of devotions to her.

cheddar
 
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cheddarsox:
It does not honor the Virgin to defend the misuse of devotions to her.
I understand where you are coming from. But the simple truth is that the Church doesn’t teach Mary worship. Protestantism suffers due to the multiple and contrasting interpretations of Scripture and the rejection of Sacred Tradition. The Catholic Church has the benefit of correcting those who are mislead. If an individual within the Catholic Church over-emphasizes Marian devotion, they should be gently corrected by proper Church teaching. I hope your reason for leaving the Catholic Church was not because some people within the Church were over-emphasizing their devotion to “The Mother of God”. The following excerpt from an article on Catholic Answers is worth looking at:

… the early Church considered devotion to the Blessed Virgin a sign of a proper understanding of the Incarnation and a full devotional life for Jesus Christ. It may not be those who honor Mary but those who neglect her who are distorting the historic faith. Those who dishonor Mary should pay attention to Epiphanius who writes also from the fourth century that “who dishonors the holy vessel [Mary] also dishonors his Master” (quoted by L.Gambero in Mary and the Fathers of the Church [Ignatius Press, 1999], p. 127).

The main problem with criticism of Catholic devotion to Mary is the basic Protestant mindset. Because Catholics venerate Mary, non-Catholics assume that this devotion must take the place of proper devotion to the Lord Jesus. They see the whole question in terms of either/or when it is really both/and.
 
Magicsilence said:
Don’t be disheartened Karin.
I recently read the Treatise on devotion to Mary by St Louis de Monfort.
You can read it here (and i very much encourage it, both catholics and those who are not, if you have not already read it):
Put simply, my take on it is this.

I think we do not realize the almighty power held by God, his infinite majesty, his astounding beauty, of which we will never comprehend. If you were going to ask a powerful King for a favour, but you constantly offended Him, would you not want to ask one of his subjects to make the request for you, who were in good favour with the King. How much more so with God! We are all sinners, how much better it is then to implore the help of those who God has allowed into heaven, and how much more so to implore the help of the Blessed Virgin, who has never been defiled by sin. The perfect disciple of Christ.

We often think of Mary and Jesus on competing terms for prayer, as if by praying to Mary we somehow shun Christ. Such thoughts are surely insane, Mary is the perfect image of Christ, and wishes only to lead people to her son.

What cheddarsox describes above was his own view of it all.

If Christ could have pleased God more by converting the whole world in his time on earth, he would have done so. And yet, he humbly submitted to his mother. If you want to imitate Christ, you must truly venerate Mary.

Thats just my take on it anyway. Definetly read the link above, its long but so worth it.

In Christ

Andre.

Hi All
Your right, it was worth reading. I know that there are many Catholics who don’t worship Mary, but Montfort sure did. I hope that his writings arent the beliefs of the Catholic church, because if they are then the Catholic church is guilty worshipping Mary. Almost everything he says is that God did things through Mary,and we know to get to the Father we must go through Christ. It’s almost as if God couldn’t have acomplished anything if it hadn’t been for Mary. I don’t mean to offend any, but this Montfort is a wacko.
Thanks.
 
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scm:
I admit that I have not read this whole thread, but I have an observation that concerned me. I was all convinced that true Catholics do not worship Mary, but then I was at a Catholic funeral recently and the priest said “It is through Mary that we come to Jesus”.
Sure this is not indicating worship, but it does seem to me to be a bit messed up.
Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
He did not go on to say, “but you have to get to me through my mother.”

We have a direct relationship with Jesus, and through Him, the Father. What was this priest talking about?
Hi scm!

The priest you mentioned didn’t say anything about the Father at all so what the priest said and what Jesus said seem like two different things. I’m not clear on what is confusing you.

In Christ,
Nancy 🙂
 
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Singinbeauty:
But I guess what I don’t understand is WHY or HOW you have to have a statue of the Virgin Mary in order to talk to God. This is my stumbling block. For you to pray to Mary doesn’t that take God out of the picture at least a little?
I’m curious where you got the impression that anyone HAD to have a statue of Mary in order to talk to God?? What do statues of Mary have to do with talking to God at all??

When you ask your best friend to pray for you doesn’t that take God out of the picture at least a little? Why not just go directly to God?

In Christ,
Nancy 🙂
 
When you ask your best friend to pray for you doesn’t that take God out of the picture at least a little? Why not just go directly to God?
You know, I was almost about to pass this reply just as I have the others because, quite frankly, it was making sense. But then I thought about WHY I had issue with this in the first place. Yes, I do go to friends to help me pray for stuff. But that analogy lacks a VERY important quality. When I go to my friend there aren’t a billion other people trying to get at her at the same time and expect her to hear them even if they are in another country or just another city. And you would think this was ridiculous if I sat at home and, even though she wasn’t in the room with me, you would think it quite weird for me sit in my room and expect her to hear me and pray with me even though I never spoke to her face to face. Since we all agree that Mary is NOT God or even God-Like it, to me, is like we are sitting at home expecting our friend to hear us even though it’s not humanly possible. And you might bring up the argument of praying to the saints and how the bible mentions it in Revelation and all that but the bible also calls all christians, saints, so those christians here on earth would be the saints we are to go to to pray with and for us.
 
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NonDenom:
Hi All
Your right, it was worth reading. I know that there are many Catholics who don’t worship Mary, but Montfort sure did. I hope that his writings arent the beliefs of the Catholic church, because if they are then the Catholic church is guilty worshipping Mary. Almost everything he says is that God did things through Mary,and we know to get to the Father we must go through Christ. It’s almost as if God couldn’t have acomplished anything if it hadn’t been for Mary. I don’t mean to offend any, but this Montfort is a wacko.
Thanks.
I guarantee that St. Louis de Montfort did not worship Mary, you misunderstand him (and it is understandable), he speaks in a devotional tongue, but if you read all of his works in context, you will find that St. Louis condemns Marian worship (I know I have read nearly all of his books as well as commentaries on them…True Devotion is too much for you to swallow for you right now, so don’t worry about it.)

You should also read his book, Love of Eternal Wisdom, it will give you a better idea of the complete thought of St. Louis de Montfort.

(Actually read it, don’t just pick out parts here and there or you will miss the context [again].)

Here it is ewtn.com/library/Montfort/LEW.HTM
 
Mary can hear everyone’s prayers because she is partaking in the Divine nature. As we read in 1 Peter, part of Heaven entails partaking of the Divine nature. In other words, we get to experience some of what it is like to be God, though of course not all of it or we’d be God! But He loves us so much that He wants to share this with us in some way. One aspect of the Divine nature is the ability to hear millions of people at once.

Another reason is that Mary is in eternity. Eternity isn’t the same thing as forever. Now, if she really was just in “forever,” then she could spend a few million years hearing everyone’s prayers and then spend the rest of forever just hanging around, or doing whatever else one does up there. However, she’s in eternity. That means she’s outside of time, and time doesn’t really bound her in the same way it does us. How does it work in Heaven? We don’t know exactly, but we know we won’t be bound by it as we are now.

As far as Revelation, remember that in chapter 5, John is witnessing events in Heaven. The folks with the bowl of incense are the saints already in Heaven, and the saints who’s prayers are mentioned are the saints on earth.
 
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Singinbeauty:
You know, I was almost about to pass this reply just as I have the others because, quite frankly, it was making sense. But then I thought about WHY I had issue with this in the first place. Yes, I do go to friends to help me pray for stuff. But that analogy lacks a VERY important quality. When I go to my friend there aren’t a billion other people trying to get at her at the same time and expect her to hear them even if they are in another country or just another city. And you would think this was ridiculous if I sat at home and, even though she wasn’t in the room with me, you would think it quite weird for me sit in my room and expect her to hear me and pray with me even though I never spoke to her face to face. Since we all agree that Mary is NOT God or even God-Like it, to me, is like we are sitting at home expecting our friend to hear us even though it’s not humanly possible. And you might bring up the argument of praying to the saints and how the bible mentions it in Revelation and all that but the bible also calls all christians, saints, so those christians here on earth would be the saints we are to go to to pray with and for us.
So you think that Mary can only hear one request at a time or that she must be in the room with you to hear you? Odd concept to me. Have you never gone to a grave and talked to your dead ancestors or friends? What if you brother in another city was also talking to them, do you think they would hear only one of you? You are right in that it is not humanly possible, however Mary and the Saints in heaven are no longer human(as we know it). They are perfect souls with God.
 
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Lance:
So you think that Mary can only hear one request at a time or that she must be in the room with you to hear you? Odd concept to me. Have you never gone to a grave and talked to your dead ancestors or friends? What if you brother in another city was also talking to them, do you think they would hear only one of you? You are right in that it is not humanly possible, however Mary and the Saints in heaven are no longer human(as we know it). They are perfect souls with God.
Actually, and this statement has been called idiotic so please refrain from calling it that as I do NOT do that to any of your beliefs, I don’t believe that anyone except God and Jesus in Heaven can hear anything that is going on here on earth. She has reached the end of the race and is enjoying her Just Reward. Yes, I have gone to a grave of a loved one and spoken BUT this was for ME I don’t believe that they could hear me.
 
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Singinbeauty:
You know, I was almost about to pass this reply just as I have the others because, quite frankly, it was making sense. But then I thought about WHY I had issue with this in the first place. Yes, I do go to friends to help me pray for stuff. But that analogy lacks a VERY important quality. When I go to my friend there aren’t a billion other people trying to get at her at the same time and expect her to hear them even if they are in another country or just another city. And you would think this was ridiculous if I sat at home and, even though she wasn’t in the room with me, you would think it quite weird for me sit in my room and expect her to hear me and pray with me even though I never spoke to her face to face. Since we all agree that Mary is NOT God or even God-Like it, to me, is like we are sitting at home expecting our friend to hear us even though it’s not humanly possible. And you might bring up the argument of praying to the saints and how the bible mentions it in Revelation and all that but the bible also calls all christians, saints, so those christians here on earth would be the saints we are to go to to pray with and for us.
Catholic Answers has a nice article about this:

catholic.com/library/praying_to_the_saints.asp
 
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Mickey:
Catholic Answers has a nice article about this:

catholic.com/library/praying_to_the_saints.asp
A small section of the article that addresses Singinbeauty’s disbelief that the saints can actually hear our prayers:

One charge made against it is that the saints in heaven cannot even hear our prayers, making it useless to ask for their intercession. However, this is not true. As Scripture indicates, those in heaven are aware of the prayers of those on earth. This can be seen, for example, in Revelation 5:8, where John depicts the saints in heaven offering our prayers to God under the form of “golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints.” But if the saints in heaven are offering our prayers to God, then they must be aware of our prayers. They are aware of our petitions and present them to God by interceding for us.

Some might try to argue that in this passage the prayers being offered were not addressed to the saints in heaven, but directly to God. Yet this argument would only strengthen the fact that those in heaven can hear our prayers, for then the saints would be aware of our prayers even when they are not directed to them!

In any event, it is clear from Revelation 5:8 that the saints in heaven do actively intercede for us. We are explicitly told by John that the incense they offer to God are the prayers of the saints. Prayers are not physical things and cannot be physically offered to God. Thus the saints in heaven are offering our prayers to God mentally. In other words, they are interceding.
 
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Singinbeauty:
You know, I was almost about to pass this reply just as I have the others because, quite frankly, it was making sense. But then I thought about WHY I had issue with this in the first place. Yes, I do go to friends to help me pray for stuff. But that analogy lacks a VERY important quality. When I go to my friend there aren’t a billion other people trying to get at her at the same time and expect her to hear them even if they are in another country or just another city. And you would think this was ridiculous if I sat at home and, even though she wasn’t in the room with me, you would think it quite weird for me sit in my room and expect her to hear me and pray with me even though I never spoke to her face to face. Since we all agree that Mary is NOT God or even God-Like it, to me, is like we are sitting at home expecting our friend to hear us even though it’s not humanly possible. And you might bring up the argument of praying to the saints and how the bible mentions it in Revelation and all that but the bible also calls all christians, saints, so those christians here on earth would be the saints we are to go to to pray with and for us.
In Heaven they are outside of space and time. God is the creator of the universe, and His domain doesn’t have space, OR time. Thus, there is no problem of people ‘trying to get to them all the time’. 🙂

I’m also wondering where you got the idea that Catholics had to have statues to speak to the Saints or God… or that we had to speak to God thru Mary. We say the Our Father at every Mass.
 
Singingbeauty, let me ask you this…

Do you really think that a mother in Heaven is no longer allowed to see what’s going on with her children? Do you think that God, once a mother has died, suddenly tells them they aren’t allowed to know what her children are doing, or if they’re ok, or if they are happy? This would not be Heaven… this would be Hell 😦 In fact, it goes against the very idea of Christianity itself. Christianity is about loving each other… it is the second great commandment, to love one another as you love yourself, and moreso as Jesus has loved you. All of Christ’s commandments are summed up in the two commandments, to love God, and to love one another. Remember Lazarus and the rich man? Lazarus was outside of the mansion, in need. But the rich mand didn’t care about Lazarus, he just cared about his life in the mansion. If those in Heaven are just enjoying their rewards and aren’t paying attention to those still on earth, they are just as bad as the rich man.

In fact, we know those in Heaven know what is going on on earth. Revelation describes the martyrs in Heaven watching those on earth and asking God when those on earth will be punished for killing them (if they don’t repent of course). Hebrews describes those in Heaven as a great bunch of witnesses watching as we run our race toward Heaven.
 
E.E.N.S.:
A small section of the article that addresses Singinbeauty’s disbelief that the saints can actually hear our prayers:
Thanks E.E.N.S.

I was too lazy to cut and paste it. Am I guilty of sloth? Oops, gotta stop being scrupulous. 😃
 
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