This sums up the challenge of ministry to gay/lesbian/homosexual/same-sex-attracted Catholics if they have embraced the common way of thinking about homosexuality today.
Thanks Janet.
I would add that we avoid an apriori assumption that gay and lesbian people are anti-Catholic, have a victim complex and personality defects that makes them paranoid. This does not do justice to the majority of people in the gay and lesbian community.
There are always going to be people who will claim bigotry and hate, if they can use this line. Look at some Black leaders.
St. Francis taught us that most people are good, even if they are mistaken. Mother Teresa taught us that Jesus lives within every human being. Therefore, people must be inherently good.
We have to have faith the the silent ones are listening. Even if they disagree or feel disappointment, they are not going on the attack.
Disagreement is OK. The Church respects the primacy of conscience, as long as its an honest conscience, even it it’s a mistaken one. The Church understands human disappointment and feels compassion in those cases.
As to those who throw stones at the Church, well the Church also has love and compassion for those who are angry and bitter.
I was trained in Franciscan spirituality. We were always taught to embrace the cross and identify with the crucified Christ. Christ was the target of abuse, but he didn’t see evil in those who abused him.
His parting words were, “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
The Gospels are full of examples of people who were confused by Christ’s teaching and we see him calmly accepting that as a fact of life. He doesn’t jump to believe that they have an agenda. He knows they are confused. He accepts that. Time and grace will take care of that.
There are those who disagree, but do no harm. They debate with him and he tells them how things are.
The only time that we see Christ angry and almost insulting is when he calls some “whitened sepulchers” and “children of the devil”. Because they are not just disagreeing, they are out to do damage and smoke screen it behind some pius excuse. That was a small group.
I learned this through my Franciscan education. It has really helped me learn to trust human integrity, even whe we make mistakes. Most of the time, they are not meant to do harm.
Therefore, I believe that those who cry bigotry or hate crimes on this issue are a small number compared to those who will listen, reflect and make up their own mind.
That’s why I love St. Francis and Mother Teresa. They have taught us such a simple, but evangelical way of approaching such issues and those involved.
Isn’t it great to have such examples on how we should behave and feel in these situations!
