Catholics, what if you don't want children during marriage?

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A man having a vasectomy is the same as a woman having a hysterectomy and should not be done unless there is a severe medical reason that cannot be treated in another way.
This is not really a good analogy. I think you probably meant tubal ligation? Tubal ligation and vasectomy only have one purpose: sterilization.

A hysterectomy is not done for sterilization but if there is something wrong with the uterus.
 
Have you tried talking to a priest about how you feel regarding birth control.
Have you been through marriage preparation class yet?
 
‘You exchange a right to your body… when you marry ‘ suggests this is what you mean. At least that is how it came across.
 
It comes down to trusting God and trying to stick to being open to life . I don’t feel any maternal instinct and would be happy if never had children yet I am married, and since getting a suitable home have subconsciously started building what could be a nursery in the spare room. Don’t have desire for a kid but love my husband and am prepared for the possibility God may send me a child next year. Pray hope and don’t worry
 
Are you catholic are you planning on getting married in a catholic church or are you planning on marrying a catholic ?
 
Profile says she is orthodox.

Also, I think she ran out of replies for her first day.
 
Hello.

We are put here on this earth to love & serve God, if we want to be truly happy. Whose will will you chose?

You are in my prayers, please pray for me.

Perhaps it would help to take some classes to understand the Catholic faith better.
 
Well here’s the thing: doesn’t the wife ever deserve a right to say “no”, even within the confines of marriage?
Yes, she does, if she has a justifiable reason. For example, if you have a splitting headache and you don’t think you can perform the marital act well, then you can ask him to wait until the headache goes away.
Why doesn’t the wife get some say in HER sexual life?
The wife does have some say in her sexual life. But if she refuses sex without a justified reason, then she is also not letting her husband have a say in their sexual life together. Do you think that is fair?
Why is it that the husband is always entitled to sex how he wants, when he wants?
He is not always entitled to sex how he wants it and when he wants it. His rights have limits, too. For example, if you feel that he is only using you, and that the marital act is no longer an expression of love but simply an avenue for indulging in animal passion, then you may have a legitimate reason to refuse.
You see how this can lead to marital rape?
If the husband’s request is inconsiderate, yes it may lead to marital rape. But if the wife’s refusal is without a justifiable reason, then it is just as bad as marital infidelity.
Your body belonging to one another does NOT mean you can’t refuse sex. It’s about being available to each other but also respecting each other’s free will
Exactly! But you can’t say you’re being available to your spouse if you refuse his request without a justifiable reason.
 
How any women have withheld sex until they got something they wanted from their husbands?
 
Birth control is a Sin so yes you are sinning. And what if God’s plan is for you to have children. If you don’t want children in marriage then the only other option is abstinence or learn NFP however you have to realise NFP isn’t 100% fool proof either
How exactly is it God’s plan if even the thought of having children grosses me out to the point where I’ve had neurosis about it? Fertilization doesn’t always equal an innate ability to love and care for children.
 
Contraception is a sin against the sixth commandment. We are called to conform ourselves to God, not the other way around.
I thought the 6th commandment was “thou shalt not kill”
 
My standing with the Church’s rules, or any church for that matter, has nothing to do with my stand with God.
 
I have miscarried multiple times. I know for a fact it happened according to God’s will and for a purpose. My children are blessed to have been born into heaven, and I have seen the way that they have interceded on my family’s behalf here on earth.

I think you need to reconsider your ideas of the way God moves through us. You need to reconsider your ideas of what marriage and life are truly about. And of you aren’t even Catholic, I think you need to reconsider what your purpose in this debate is. Why do you care what Catholics believe? How does it affect you?
 
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Do you think sexual activity between two persons of the same sex can be morally good or even just morally neutral?

Yes or no, and why?
 
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The head of the Church is Jesus who is God your standing in His Church does matter.
whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
 
I have miscarried multiple times. I know for a fact it happened according to God’s will and for a purpose. My children are blessed to have been born into heaven, and I have seen the way that they have interceded on my family’s behalf here on earth.

I think you need to reconsider your ideas of the way God moves through us. You need to reconsider your ideas of what marriage and life are truly about. And of you aren’t even Catholic, I think you need to reconsider what your purpose in this debate is. Why do you care what Catholics believe? How does it affect you?
I think nature is really really cruel regardless…I’m sorry for your losses by the way. Respects.

Why I’m here? Good question. Because why not? I attended a Catholic school. Had Catholic friends. I want to learn about the different kinds of denominations and debate our differences and how those other denominations regard God. There are hardly any other Orthodox around here anyways, but hey, Catholics are the next closest denomination despite our differences. And Catholics are more respectful with their opponents lots of others on any other forums, to be honest. But, I couldn’t understand for my life why Catholics regard birth control as they do. Thus, my question on here. I hope there’s nothing wrong with that.
 
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