Did we really expect anything else? I wish they had chosen a more accurate title. It should say something like " Church upholds ban on communion for those in irregular marriages". Or, “Church upholds teachings on marriage with regards to communion”.
It’s not the fact that they are divorced and remarried, it’s that they have ignored church teaching on marriage in the first place that got them in trouble. If they hadn’t remarried outside the church in the first place they wouldn’t be in this situation. But yes, lets all blame the church for maintaining it’s teachings on marriage.
I don’t think many Catholics know the real teachings regarding marriage period (let alone when it is not OK to receive communion).
- Many think that the divorce all ready excommunicated them, so getting remarried isn’t a big deal because they already lost the ability to receive communion. Which is not the case. You lose the ability to receive communion when you start living with a new partner/spouse without receiving an annulment.
- Many think getting an annulment is close to impossible, especially if they already have kids. So they don’t even bother trying to get one.
- My one Aunt for example, could have received an annulment pretty easy I think. She was happily married, living in Colorado. Went back East for Thanksgiving with family and when she returned home, her husband had changed the locks, moved everything out of the house, and was already living with another woman. She was only gone for a two weeks. He was in the Air Force and using my aunt to pay for his college so he could finish Officer Training School. But for some reason, she never got an annulment. Either a priest told her something wrong or a friend, but she never got one. Instead she left the Church. She was uneducated.
- My second Aunt was abused by her husband. He hit her several times so she left. She never received an annulment either. (This Aunt was actually divorced and remarried before the Aunt above, so maybe that where the confusion was introduced).
- Either way, I have two aunts who had marriages which didn’t work out due to bad husbands and in both cases, it lead to my Aunts and cousins not being Catholic.
- Many people don’t know that you can still marry a non-Catholic outside the Church if you receive dispensation (Catholic how to make sure their marriage is legit)
- Or if they know about dispensation, they don’t understand why it’s needed.
Everything comes down to needing to re-educating today’s Catholics. I’m 36 years old and my parents did a terrible job raising us in the faith. Of 5 children, I’m the only practicing Catholic (only after falling away and now returning) and none of us were married in the Church.
When including my cousins, of 11 Grandchildren:
- 2 are practicing Catholics (but my cousin’s wife is a liberal Catholic)
- 3 are non practicing Catholics (1 of them might become a Methodist)
- 6 are not Catholic
We need to educate our youth and parents.
Perhaps our Catholic foundation classes for Children should include at least one parent? Perhaps instead of focusing on what grade they are in, perhaps it should be taught more like RCIA and include the parents of the children. All children from the family in the same class, or the parents with the older kids?
We need to re-educate the parents the same time we are teaching the children (I know this is harder with kids who attend Catholic school vs CCD/CFF).
CCD when I was a kid really didn’t work. That’s why I like some of the newer programs like CFF, PREP, etc that are different than CCD. But even then, if the parents don’t know the faith, it won’t be reinforced at home.
And we need to focus more on teaching the Bible, because, we are also losing Catholics to the Baptist and other groups who get hoodwinked because they believe strongly in Jesus, but did not receive a strong Catholic education.
The society of the 70s, 80s, & 90s did so much damage to the Church, that has left us with mess society is today in the 21st Century. It might not be the Church’s fault that these Catholics (I’m including myself) were not educated properly, but we can no longer depend on parents to fix it. Too many parents simply lack the proper Catholic background.
If we don’t improve the way we educate the marriage issues which this thread speaks about will get worse.
God Bless!