You are on the right path in your response! Love is what matters and comes from the Holy Ghost. Just because someone does not have the ability to do the signs and wonders you mention means nothing. St. Augustine remarked on the charismatic gifts and why they ended after the beginnings of the church in regards to what was spoken of them in the Holy Scriptures. He mentioned that there was no longer a need for them to be used to spread the Gospel message, they were only there so that others my believe. Charismatic gifts as you mention do nothing to sanctify the individual directly, but they are there so that others may believe. Even immoral people may posses the “gift” of tounges or something similiar.
However, to have a charismatic gifts also DOES NOT relate to the “charismatic movement”. The wordk “charism” is often misued in recent times.
Here is some scripture…
Quoted from
www.drbo.org
Matthew Ch 7: 21-19
*21 Not every one that saith to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven: but he that doth the will of my Father who is in heaven, he shall enter into the kingdom of heaven. 22 Many will say to me in that day: Lord, Lord, have not we prophesied in thy name, and cast out devils in thy name, and done many miracles in thy name? 23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, you that work iniquity. 24 Every one therefore that heareth these my words, and doth them, shall be likened to a wise man that built his house upon a rock, 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and they beat upon that house, and it fell not, for it was founded on a rock.
26 And every one that heareth these my words, and doth them not, shall be like a foolish man that built his house upon the sand, 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and they beat upon that house, and it fell, and great was the fall thereof. 28 And it came to pass when Jesus had fully ended these words, the people were in admiration at his doctrine. 29 For he was teaching them as one having power, and not as the scribes and Pharisees. *
Also, the actual gifts of the Holy Ghost are:
Wisdom
Understanding
Council
Fortitude
Knowledge
Piety
Fear of the Lord
From New Advent Catholic Encyclopedia:
newadvent.org/cathen/07409a.htm
They are in brief:
St. Paul (Galatians 5:22-23): “But the fruit of the Spirit is, charity, joy, peace, patience, benignity, goodness, longanimity, mildness, faith, modesty, continency, chastity.”