I’m wondering what you all think about this. Some years ago, I was a teacher in a Catholic school. I had a student with severe, life-threatening allergies. The list of foods he could eat would fit on a post-it note. Neither bread nor wine was an option for him. Needless to say, when he became old enough for his first Communion, there was a general uproar. The child’s parents requested a special host for their son so he could participate in his religion without, well, dying shortly thereafter.
Parish opinion was deeply divided. Most felt the child shouldn’t be punished just for the way he was born. Of course, others said too bad, the recipe cannot be changed. The boy had an almost saintly desire to have Communion; if you’ve ever known a child with a terminal illness who just seems wise beyond their years, you understand what I mean.
The request was refused. Eventually the family left the parish and moved away. I don’t know what became of them, but I do know their leaving was a direct result of this issue.
I’ll state upfront that although I spent several years working closely with this parish, I am not even a Christian, much less a Catholic. I’m pretty well-versed in your beliefs, but I’m sure there are things I will simply never understand. This is one of them, and I’m curious to hear what people think about it.
To me, if a person has a deep and genuine desire to participate fully in their religion, an affliction outside their control should not be permitted to get in the way. It all seems incredibly unfair and to this day I still think of that little boy. I have an extremely hard time picturing Jesus saying to a child, “Sorry, you can’t partake of this sacrament because it has to be wheat.” This does not mesh at all with the image I have of Jesus Christ, or of God the loving father. In fact to me it’s more like the “soup Nazi” on Seinfeld - “No soup for you!”
I’m interested in hearing everyone’s thoughts on this.