"Children are a nuisance!"

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My husband and I just got back from lunch and I am LIVID! We went to SouperSalad, I dont know if any of you has been there, but the seating is very very close together. We were behind a middle age couple and right behind them was a young mother and her beautiful new born baby girl. The baby began to fuss a little and the middle age “man” instantaniously began to huff and puff and roll his eyes, he did the whole half turn thing and shot the mother a dirty look. His wife then said “people with whining little brats should leave them at home” the comment was directed at her husband obviously but there is no way the poor young mother didnt hear her, when i was seated behind her and she was facing the mother. Then the man stated “thats exactly why we never had any, children are such a nuisance!” my jaw dropped and my husband said if he didnt know any better he saw smoke coming out of my ears.

The mother became obviously flustered and embarrassed. I was going to get some more salad and shot the man and his wife a nasty evil look and stopped and told the mother that she had one of the most beautiful babies I had ever seen, and we chatted for a minute and I commented how sweet the baby was and what a lucky mommy she was. the man and his wife rolled their eyes, meanwhile my husband got up to join me and the mother in our conversation and commented to the man “cute baby huh, cant wait to have my own!” the couple then finished with their meal and left in their pretty black BMW.

This brought to mind when me and my sister flew to Missouri with my baby niece who was 16 months old at the time. When we began to take off she began to fuss and cry. her ears were popping and the noise was frightening to her. meanwhile two rows behind us this jerk who was as old as my dad, but thought he was some young frat boy and his buddy start hollering "plug it up, we dont need to hear that $#!% " and complaining to the stuardess, it was an evening flight, my niece was the only baby on the plane, I was holding her and trying to comfort her but Frat boy Frank kept running his mouth, finally I turned around in my seat and said “do you mind? shes a baby?” and the man sitting in front of him turned to him and said “your bothering me more than that little baby is” that angel of a man then gave my niece a little pink bear he had in his bag, he had gotten the bear for his daughter but figured he could get another one at the next terminal.

when we landed my sister and I pointed out the man to our dad and my dad gave him a good talking too. It just amazes me how RUDE and INTOLERANT people are of children, you almost have to be embarrassed to take a child in a public facility any more! No wonder 1 child is considered enough and if you have two YOURE NUTS and no wonder abortion runs rampant and childless by choice is Chic! I was SO UNBELIEVABLY LIVID at the couple in the restaurant, but the more I think about it, the more I am just plain sad for them. They will never know the joy of a child. Ok getting off of my soap box now!
 
It’s a shame, isn’t it?

Yes, children do have an annoying habit of not allowing us the right of being self obsorbed. How dare they exist!:rolleyes:

That said, I do think that sometimes people take very young children to places that are inappropriate. Some restaurants are more for adults. But even there I would much rather hear a very small baby cry than a slightly older child. But you were at a FAMILY restaurant.

And a plane is a plane is a plane. What do other passengers expect? That you stuff the child in a pet carrier and put them in the cargo hold? On second thought just forget I asked because there probably are some passengers who DO think that way.
 
😦 People are so ignorant! I have 4 little “nuisances” of my own. Those nuisances are part of the reason I had my conversion, all of the reason I quit smoking, drinking in excess, flirting with other men, and most of my opportunity to grow in patience, love, charity…

I would have done exactly the same thing you did. My blood boiled when I read your post. It just shows how much prayer this world needs. It’s eyeopening to see people like that, isn’t it?

Peace,
~donna
 
I agree with you 100 percent. And i too could actually see the steam comming out of your ears! This behaviour was normal…it was not misbehaving, it was a baby!

Bravo, for sheilding the mothers heart…
 
Don’t you just feel sorry for people like that? They have no idea how clueless and self-absorbed they are. They can’t be very happy.
 
Children are a real JOY !!!

I love kids of all ages, especially the little ones. They make life tolerable. I really miss my kids when they were younger, I wish I had 20 more, I would lover them ALL !!!

Needless to say, when/if I ever have grandkids I will spoil them rotten.
 
I was on a loooooooonnnnnnnnng flight to Johannesburg (18 hours) and there was a little girl on the flight with her dad (from the conversation I surmised that the parents weren’t together). She started every sentence with this high-pitched “daddy”. I mean every, single sentence.
  • Daddy? Are you going to wear your sleeping mask?
  • Daddy? They gave us toothpaste, are you going to brush your teeth?
  • Daddy? What’s this for?
  • Daddy? Are you going to sleep?
  • Daddy?
    etc. etc.
I thought it was HILARIOUS and I welcomed the in flight entertainment. However, I could tell that some people hemming and hawing around me didn’t share the same sentiment.

I miss that little girl.
 
I think that’s one of the things I love about our current parish. It is a primarily “retired” parish and I worried a little bit when we first started showing up with the four grandchildren under 18 months old.

The people there have been an absolute joy though and we have yet to have a negative comment even on the most distracting of days. Of course we take them out if they get overly noisy, but for “normal” stuff we just do the best we can. Even the priest is ultra-supportive and will crack a joke if one of them interrupts his homily.

I usually just feel sorry for those who make the kinds of comments you heard Tara, as they have missed out on the best part of life.

Peace,
 
i welcome, as a gift from God, any chance he gives me to be a thorn in the side of the self absorbed, baby boomer and younger crowd. 👍
 
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TarAshly:
Then the man stated “thats exactly why we never had any, children are such a nuisance!”
When they lay dying, they will be alone (except for the paid medical staff/retirement center workers), when the woman who had children may have her loving family surounded by her.
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TarAshly:
the couple then finished with their meal and left in their pretty black BMW.
I seriously doubt they will get any visits in the retirement home from a BMW.
 
If their parents had the same mindset as they do, they wouldn’t be here today…enjoying their BMW! Should be thankful that their parents were generous enough to make ‘nuisance’ !
 
Although I have never been married and had and fathered any children (At least none that I know of:eek: ), I have a soft spot for children. I always smile when I see them at laugh at some of their antics.

For some reason kids (especially bablies and toddlers) are not afraid of me and I can get them to smile and laugh by just by shooting a smile at them.

Children are a joy not a nuisance.👍

PF
 
Good for you TarAshly…

Thats exactly what I would have done…going over to that mom was the only thing to do. It would’ve been a sin if you hadn’t 😉
 
I am so proud of you, Tar Ashley. You showed a lot of courage.👍 You also made that poor mother feel less alone and embarrassed.
 
Those sad, pathetic, JEALOUS people who are unable to have kids could use visits from the ghosts of Christmas past, present and future.

Had we not prayed and kept trying to have a baby after my miscarriages until we had one, they could have been us. That’s what scares me.
 
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MarthaMartha:
Those sad, pathetic, JEALOUS people who are unable to have kids could use visits from the ghosts of Christmas past, present and future.

Had we not prayed and kept trying to have a baby after my miscarriages until we had one, they could have been us. That’s what scares me.
Not everyone that does not have kids due to the fact that they cant, it is because they do not WANT ANY! Hard to believe that there are folks that simpy put do not want kids of their own! :confused:
The people that do not want any kids are not jealous of people like me or others that have them…they view them as a hinderance to their lifestyle.:confused:
 
Sad, huh?

Not all cultures or people are like that, though. Years ago, when our older two kids were around 1 and 3 years old, we were invited by a Vietnamese coworker to a New Year’s Eve party. They said kids were welcome so be sure to bring ours. I’ll never forget what happened when we arrived. The host came out of the house to greet us, practically got the kids out of their carseats himself, and couldn’t wait for them to join the party! Their culture loves children. It was a wonderful witness. —KCT
 
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MarthaMartha:
Had we not prayed and kept trying to have a baby after my miscarriages until we had one, they could have been us. That’s what scares me.
Even if you had never had children, I don’t think that could have been you. It takes a lot of evil nerve and a very little heart to think something like that, let alone say it loudly! You are obviously not one of those kinds of people…
 
Well, what haopens when these two become a “nuisance” in their old age? Then it will be someone ELSE’s children that pay their Social Security pension, wheel their wheel chairs and wipe their bottoms in the nursing home,ect.
Gee, a lot of these people never think of that.

Someday taht BMW will be in the junkyard but a child is…
forever eternally.
 
My son is a bit of a chatterbox…to anyone who will listen. Not a shy bone in his body…lol…what I live for, is when he walks up to an older (60+) person, and just starts chatting them up. They LOVE it, and it reminds me of the beauty of an innocent child, and how much joy they bring. I love taking my kids out in public, b/c of all the smiles I see on the faces of the older folks around us. They are oohso happy to see small (friendly, for once!) children who aren’t afraid of them (I"ve actually seen kids jump back from the seniors at the mall who bend down to say hello) – that in my mind, it almost negates the obnoxious people who shoot me dirty looks when I stop to console a crying kid, or nurse a hungry baby or worse yet, demonstrate that a “crumsnatcher” actually owns my heart…lol. It’s all good when I think how much more hapiness they bring to the world than “stuffy” people will ever understand…
 
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