Hello there. First of all, I am an atheist (self-proclaimed although human & therefore occasionally doubtful).
I was born & raised Catholic; my birth parents went specifically out of their way to make certain that I would be adopted & raised Catholic. I was Catholic until I was about 16. I went through a very rough time & I witnessed some very terrible things caused by “devout Catholics” & was completely turned off against the Catholic church, & eventually against the idea of God.
My fiancé & I are getting married in January. He’s a Catholic & although he’s not extremely religious, he believes & was a bit touchy against my beliefs for awhile (I was Catholic & strongly believing when I met him). He wanted to get married in the Catholic church, but due to us moving in together & moving our wedding date up a year, we couldn’t go through with the process in four months.
One of the biggest concerns we have right now is raising children. As children, we both attended mass regularly with our parents, & I have to admit it was comforting to me to have something whole & united like that community growing up, & I really did believe strongly in God & Jesus when I was younger. That belief helped me through my grandparents’, father’s, & best friend’s death, & MANY other hard nights for many years. I remember feeling at peace & very much happy, as opposed to the cynical, “jaded” way I view life today
Well, our concern is how to raise our children. I don’t believe in any of the religious ideas, but my fiancé really does & he’s very adamant about raising our children Catholic. When I argued that our children should be able to decide for themselves from a neutral ground, he argued that they should be raised Catholic & stray from the church if that’s what they choose.
Does anyone have any advice (perhaps from experiences or anything) on what the best option is? Although I still do wonder/sort of believe there might be a god, I don’t believe enough to raise my child that way. What is the best option for our child when my fiancé really does believe?