choosing a parish

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I’m not sure if this belongs in this forum, but I wasn’t sure where it would fit in.
There are two parishes within 2 miles of my house. Part of the reason that I haven’t had my sons baptized is because I need to join a parish before it can be done. However, I have issues with each church. Church A is closer, prettier and the new Monsignor is a great speaker and gives fantastic homilies. Church B has a school (which MIGHT be an issue), has lots of established ministries (ladies bible study, youth groups, stay at home mommies group, ect) AND best of all, they do the Angelus after weekday Mass. Those are the pros. They each have their cons. Church A isn’t very friendly, doesn’t have many community/ church family activies and worst of all, the deacon is so good looking that I sin in my heart. He is very active in the parish and provides much the parish counseling, adult education, ect. The cons of church B are also numerous. Church B is the church I grew up in. When mom got divorced, she and the pastor had a major fight. Also, when I was a teenager, a close family was involved in an abuse charge against one of the priests. Neither of these priests are still there, but every time I step in the door, these issues surface. The other issue is that it’s REALLY ugly. It was built in the 70’s and really looks it, with really ugly orange and yellow abstract stained glass, very abstract art-type statuary and other art. All those cons combined make it hard for me to focus on the worship. Any advice?
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I don’t know what to tell you except pray. As much as I love pretty churches, I wouldn’t base yoru decision on the way it looks. Just pray, God won’t leave you hanging.
 
I could be wrong here, but can you try this?

Join Church A, the one where you will attend Mass.

Join in the activities at Church B.

I know that our CWA does not check your membership before you attend a meeting. (I am a member of both the parish and CWA). Anyone is welcome at the Parish Picnic. The same with our Mommy and Me group. In fact, with the Mommy and Me, I know that some of the members are not Catholic, let alone a member of the Parish.

If you want to later send your children to school at Church B, check to see if you need to be a member. Some require membership, some do not. If they do require membership, see what you can work out.

And like Adam said, praying won’t hurt. Your answer will be there. 😉
 
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