Church attire (all kinds)

[callmeChris]

A great homily on dressing appropriately by Fr John Trigilio. His speech makes us realize that it’s not what we want, not even the Church law, but what God himself wants.:yup:
youtube.com/watch?v=8G_ePdvRsA4&feature=feedf

 

[Zhenia]

When I was studying to become Roman Catholic, I was taught that the proper way to dress for the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass was with a dress or skirt to the knees or below; no sheer fabrics; no sleeves shorter than 3/4 length, no low cut tops, and with head covered. Apart from the head covering, this is also the way traditional Catholic girls and women are supposed to dress normally, too.

 

[MissRose73]

Thank you for the link.

I wish more people would show more reverence and modesty at Mass with their clothing choices. I am not asking to return to the days of the dressing to the nine’s like the 1950’s but there are good choices that are appropriate for Mass.

 

[callmeChris]

Thank you for the link.

I wish more people would show more reverence and modesty at Mass with their clothing choices. I am not asking to return to the days of the dressing to the nine’s like the 1950’s but there are good choices that are appropriate for Mass.

Indeed. You CAN be modest, AND comfortable at the same time

 

[Joe_Kelley]

We always called them our “Sunday go to meeting clothes.”

 

[TrueLight]

Yet another one.

 

[MissRose73]

Yes, I make sure my clothing is comfortable for Mass yet appropriate. If I can wear it to my business casual wardrobe office, I can wear it to Mass too but I try to dress up a bit for Mass if I can.

Indeed. You CAN be modest, AND comfortable at the same time

 

[CMatt25]

I wear about to the knee (I’m kinda on the tall side) cargo shorts to church. Jesus walked in sandals. I honestly believe He has more important matters for us to be concerned with than our attire or the attire of others at Mass. I believe He welcomes all and is just glad when we are there.

 

[CMatt25]

Yet another one.

 

[Love_Divine]

I wear about to the knee (I’m kinda on the tall side) cargo shorts to church. Jesus walked in sandals. I honestly believe He has more important matters for us to be concerned with than our attire or the attire of others at Mass. I believe He welcomes all and is just glad when we are there.

I wore shorts to Mass once. We were at the lake, and the Church was on an island that was only accessible by boat and required us to wade in the water to get to shore. Aside from that one time, we always wore our Sunday best, even if we were at the lake and had to drive in to town for Mass. We always packed our church clothes.

 

[Love_Divine]

I’m in the process of making myself another mantilla. I made my first one out of black lace (I started veiling at a NO Mass for now until I move in a month and can attend the TLM, so I went with something more subtle), and I accidentally cut it a bit too small. I decided to make another one, in the more appropriate white, but now I think I cut it too big.

It’s a semi-circle with the flat side about 49" and the lowest part is 25" and falls about mid to the small of my back.

Does that sound like it’s too big for a NO Mass?

 

[karow]

I’m in the process of making myself another mantilla. I made my first one out of black lace (I started veiling at a NO Mass for now until I move in a month and can attend the TLM, so I went with something more subtle), and I accidentally cut it a bit too small. I decided to make another one, in the more appropriate white, but now I think I cut it too big.

It’s a semi-circle with the flat side about 49" and the lowest part is 25" and falls about mid to the small of my back.

Does that sound like it’s too big for a NO Mass?

If it looks good on you, wear it.

 

[Love_Divine]

If it looks good on you, wear it.

Should I not be concerned about it being “too showy”?

 

[Cider]

I’ve yet to see anyone wearing one much past the shoulders in the parishes I’ve been to.

 

[Metamorphoo]

When I was studying to become Roman Catholic, I was taught that the proper way to dress for the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass was with a dress or skirt to the knees or below; no sheer fabrics; no sleeves shorter than 3/4 length, no low cut tops, and with head covered. Apart from the head covering, this is also the way traditional Catholic girls and women are supposed to dress normally, too.

My brother and his wife have invited me to attend their Traditional Latin parish, and I am trying to decide what to wear to Mass. My sister-in-law and nieces have begun wearing skirts all the time since they started their involvement with this parish community a few years ago (they didn’t use to), and the few women friends from their parish that I have met also wear skirts or dresses as their normal everyday attire.

While I certainly believe that modesty is important for those who follow Christ, why is there such a push to eschew pants for women among Traditional Catholics? Personally, I dislike the look of full skirts in general and on me in particular (I feel frumpy in them); and while I think straight skirts look nicer, they are not very comfortable to wear. Pants are much easier to maneuver around in (especially if you have young children or need to bend over a lot or even climb up a ladder), and I never have to worry about a strong gust of wind blowing my skirt up. To make a long story short, I own only one skirt and have no dresses. And that is by my personal preference. Will people be giving me the evil eye if I wear a dressy pant suit to Mass?

I can understand how form-fitting clothing of any style (whether pants, dresses, skirts or tops) would be immodest. That’s not what I’m talking about here. What bothers me is the sense that as the quoted poster stated, Traditional Catholic women “are supposed to” normally wear skirts/dresses on a daily basis.

I have heard my sister-in-law make comments (and pass on comments that other Traditional Catholics have made) that allude to the idea that pants incite men to stumble and are unfeminine. While SOME pants would certainly cause men to stumble (i.e., those that are tight), I don’t think that wearing pants makes a woman look like a man (unless she is a transvestite–and that is a whole different matter, with a woman who is trying to look like a man and wear men’s clothing). Women’s pants are made for women.

Wearing skirts/dresses wouldn’t bother me if the women did it out of personal preference (we all have them, and that is certainly okay); but it seems to me that there is some pressure to conform to (what appears IMHO to be) a legalistic moral standard within the “culture” of Traditional Catholicism.

I would like to hear (name removed by moderator)ut from Traditional Catholics on this issue. I don’t want to make any waves at my brother’s church, but I really do not care to wear a skirt.

 

[Monica4316]

I’m in the process of making myself another mantilla. I made my first one out of black lace (I started veiling at a NO Mass for now until I move in a month and can attend the TLM, so I went with something more subtle), and I accidentally cut it a bit too small. I decided to make another one, in the more appropriate white, but now I think I cut it too big.

It’s a semi-circle with the flat side about 49" and the lowest part is 25" and falls about mid to the small of my back.

Does that sound like it’s too big for a NO Mass?

for a NO Mass, probably… I’ve seen a girl at the TLM Mass I’ve been to, wearing a very long and beautiful mantilla, but whenever I see her I’m really inspired to be more reverent and modest so instead of her mantilla bringing my attention to her, I think it’s actually brought more to Christ. But at the NO Mass, it might be a bit big…

actually I was wondering where did you find the lace?? I looked around in fabric stores back when I wanted to make a mantilla but couldn’t find anything appropriate… I ended up just buying one. But I’d love to make a semicircular one sometime in the future. Mine is triangular and I like it a lot, but I like the semicircular ones because they remind me of Mary and it’s easier to cover the hair with them

I’ve yet to see anyone wearing one much past the shoulders in the parishes I’ve been to.

my mantilla is triangular, and the front part goes past my shoulders, but the back part does not.

 

[Walking_Home]

My brother and his wife have invited me to attend their Traditional Latin parish, and I am trying to decide what to wear to Mass. My sister-in-law and nieces have begun wearing skirts all the time since they started their involvement with this parish community a few years ago (they didn’t use to), and the few women friends from their parish that I have met also wear skirts or dresses as their normal everyday attire.

While I certainly believe that modesty is important for those who follow Christ, **why is there such a push to eschew pants for women among Traditional Catholics? **Personally, I dislike the look of full skirts in general and on me in particular (I feel frumpy in them); and while I think straight skirts look nicer, they are not very comfortable to wear. Pants are much easier to maneuver around in (especially if you have young children or need to bend over a lot or even climb up a ladder), and I never have to worry about a strong gust of wind blowing my skirt up. To make a long story short, I own only one skirt and have no dresses. And that is by my personal preference. Will people be giving me the evil eye if I wear a dressy pant suit to Mass?

I can understand how form-fitting clothing of any style (whether pants, dresses, skirts or tops) would be immodest. That’s not what I’m talking about here. ** What bothers me is the sense that as the quoted poster stated, Traditional Catholic women “are supposed to” normally wear skirts/dresses on a daily basis. **

I have heard my sister-in-law make comments (and pass on comments that other Traditional Catholics have made) that allude to the idea that pants incite men to stumble and are unfeminine. While SOME pants would certainly cause men to stumble (i.e., those that are tight), I don’t think that wearing pants makes a woman look like a man (unless she is a transvestite–and that is a whole different matter, with a woman who is trying to look like a man and wear men’s clothing). Women’s pants are made for women.

Wearing skirts/dresses wouldn’t bother me if the women did it out of personal preference (we all have them, and that is certainly okay); but it seems to me that there is some pressure to conform to (what appears IMHO to be) a legalistic moral standard within the “culture” of Traditional Catholicism.

I would like to hear (name removed by moderator)ut from Traditional Catholics on this issue. I don’t want to make any waves at my brother’s church, but I really do not care to wear a skirt.

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There is lot of extremism going on within the Traditional movement—and can get quite fanatical.

Is your brother’s Traditional Latin parish–part of the FSSP? --SSPX? --or other?

 

[Love_Divine]

actually I was wondering where did you find the lace?? I looked around in fabric stores back when I wanted to make a mantilla but couldn’t find anything appropriate.

I found nothing at the normal fabric store here, but we have one that sells fabric for sewing wedding dresses. They have racks and racks of lace…at bridal prices.

 

[CMatt25]

I’m in the process of making myself another mantilla. I made my first one out of black lace (I started veiling at a NO Mass for now until I move in a month and can attend the TLM, so I went with something more subtle), and I accidentally cut it a bit too small. I decided to make another one, in the more appropriate white, but now I think I cut it too big.

It’s a semi-circle with the flat side about 49" and the lowest part is 25" and falls about mid to the small of my back.

Does that sound like it’s too big for a NO Mass?

I am reading this thread and please I sincerely do not want this to be taken wrongly. But I have to ask with all sincerity and respect, because it is scaring me a bit. Is this what the faith has become? Concerns about and the importance of the color of the lace and measurements of a mantilla a woman wears?

 

[Love_Divine]

I am reading this thread and please I sincerely do not want this to be taken wrongly. But I have to ask with all sincerity and respect, because it is scaring me a bit. Is this what the faith has become? Concerns about and the importance of the color of the lace and measurements of a mantilla a woman wears?

No, this is what it was. What is has become is much worse.