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It is more that your position is too simplistic. You will find that most addicts realize that their addiction remains, whether they achieve and maintin sobriety, or not. Many do not continue to identify themselves as “recovering addict”, but they find, often through painful experience,that if they go back to using, their last state is much worse than their first.Church of England lifts ban on gay bishops.
that is the topic,what i cannot get my head around is this.if you are gay,you are gay.if you are a ex-gay then thats another thing.
you cannot hid behind this title of being gay,but not doing the actions.its madness in my view.
drunk…ex- drunk.
druggie…ex-druggie.
smoker…ex-smoker.
but this is saying
gay…gay.
or is this just me?
Those who have conquered the addiction to nicotine in it’s various forms do not hold out the possibility of ever going back, knowing that they will again fall into the addiction. Meaning that there is something in them that responds this way to the chemical, so that becoming an “ex smoker” is more than just changing a behavior, but an entire mindset.
So also with same sex attraction. A person may stop living a gay lifestyle, or cease to be involved in homosexual activity, but they may continue to suffer the rest of their lives with same sex attraction. The fact is that there is much more to sexual orientation than just “behavior”.
It is not helpful for people who are homosexually oriented to pretend to themselves and others that they do not have this condition. they can make a decision not to act on their attractions, but that will not necessarily make them go away.