Civil Unions: Can Catholics Support Them?

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As women past the age of menopause are not by nature or biology designed to bring new life into the world,
Sure they are. Age may have rendered them sterile but they are still oriented toward procreation by design.
in what way can a marriage between a man and a woman past the age of menopause be considered procreative?
Because they are man and woman. The marital act is procreative by design whether or not conception takes place.

Do you actually think two men are analgous to a man and woman?
 
Sure they are. Age may have rendered them sterile but they are still oriented toward procreation by design.

Because they are man and woman. The marital act is procreative by design whether or not conception takes place.

Do you actually think two men are analgous to a man and woman?
No, I have never said that two men or two women are identical to a man and a woman in terms of reproduction. I have, however, said that as the ability to reproduce (either in actuality or even as a theoretical possibility) is not a requirement for a heterosexual marriage under civil law (and in fact, the inability to have children is a requirement for civil marriage in some cases), I see no reason that it should be a requirement for homosexual marriage.
 
I have, however, said that as the ability to reproduce (either in actuality or even as a theoretical possibility) is not a requirement for a heterosexual marriage under civil law
Opposite genders is a requirement, or always has been. That is not an accident and it is based, partly, on the fact both persons are designed to be procreative togther whether or not they can subjectively reproduce.
(and in fact, the inability to have children is a requirement for civil marriage in some cases),
Not sure what this means?
I see no reason that it should be a requirement for homosexual marriage.
Why not? You admit they are not equal comparisons. It is not only about being able to reproduce, but a lack of complimentarity is a problem. Sterile men and women may not reproduce but they are oriented in that way.
 
Not sure what this means?
It means that in many states, first cousins are allowed to marry only if they are over 65 or have medical documentation that they are unable to have children. It’s been mentioned a few times in the thread, so I didn’t realize it needed clarification, sorry.
Why not? You admit they are not equal comparisons. It is not only about being able to reproduce, but a lack of complimentarity is a problem. Sterile men and women may not reproduce but they are oriented in that way.
I don’t see that opposite gender is a requirement for any complementarity other than reproduction with each other. Emotional and psychological characteristics are more disparate within each gender than they are between genders.
apa.org/releases/gendersim0905.html

As to being oriented toward raising children, same sex couples have been showing for decades at minimum that they are fully capable of being parents, whether of the biological children of one of the couple or of foster or adoptive children, just as infertile couples who adopt or who remarry after divorce or the death of a spouse bringing children from a previous marriage are. Not every same sex couple chooses to try to become parents, but not every heterosexual couple does either (in fact quite a few go to great lengths to be sure they do not become parents).
 
It means that in many states, first cousins are allowed to marry only if they are over 65 or have medical documentation that they are unable to have children. It’s been mentioned a few times in the thread, so I didn’t realize it needed clarification, sorry.

I don’t see that opposite gender is a requirement for any complementarity other than reproduction with each other. Emotional and psychological characteristics are more disparate within each gender than they are between genders.
apa.org/releases/gendersim0905.html

As to being oriented toward raising children, same sex couples have been showing for decades at minimum that they are fully capable of being parents, whether of the biological children of one of the couple or of foster or adoptive children, just as infertile couples who adopt or who remarry after divorce or the death of a spouse bringing children from a previous marriage are. Not every same sex couple chooses to try to become parents, but not every heterosexual couple does either (in fact quite a few go to great lengths to be sure they do not become parents).
Thank you, Karen. This has been a valiant effort at educating…and I know personally, your last paragraph to be true. I don’t think this is a debatable issue for some. That’s where they invoke “strawman”…:rolleyes: :rolleyes:
 
In the Pope’s words:

lifesite.net/ldn/2008/jan/08010710.html

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Pope Tells Nations He is Upset by Attack on One Man, One Woman Marriage
Says, “Political leaders, of whatever kind, should defend this fundamental institution, the basic cell of society”

By Peter J. Smith

VATICAN CITY, January 7, 2008 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Pope Benedict XVI told the nations of the world he was disturbed by the attacks on the family and traditional marriage saying it was the duty of politicians to defend the integrity of these institutions. The Pope made his statements in an annual “state of the world” address before the assembled members of the diplomatic corps accredited to the Holy See at the Salia Regia in the Vatican to convey the Church’s pressing concerns for the world.

“I regret, once again, the disturbing threats to the integrity of the family, founded on the marriage of a man and a woman,” Benedict said. “Political leaders, of whatever kind, should defend this fundamental institution, the basic cell of society”.

Benedict’s words were very much directed toward western nations, but especially Europe where the legalisation of “gay” marriage and pseudo-marriage alternatives have come part-in-parcel with the de-Christianisation of Europe. The Pope told ambassadors that he is “following attentively the new phase which began with the signing of the Treaty of Lisbon.” However the Pope warned that the new “European home … will be a good place to live for everyone only if it is built on a solid cultural and moral foundation of common values drawn from our history and our traditions” and if it preserves its Christian origins.

The defence of marriage is a top priority of Benedict XVI’s papacy and in last year’s address to ambassadors the Pope recognized threats to the traditional family as equal to those against life itself. **“Attempts to relativise” marriage, he said, “by giving it the same status as other radically different forms of union… offends and helps to destabilise the family.”
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**Pope Benedict: Marriage is Between a Man and a Woman “Admit No Alternatives”
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2005/jun/05060602.html

Well Over One Million Spaniards Demonstrate for Marriage and Family
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2008/jan/08010303.html

Pope Benedict “Alarmed” at Global “Attacks on Life”
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2007/jan/07010907.html

Pope: Legal Recognition of Gay Unions is “Dangerous and Counterproductive”
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2007/jan/07011110.html

Pope States the Family is one of the “Fundamental Objectives of New Evangelization”
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2007/jul/07070501.html

Benedict XVI: Marriage is a Real Good for Society
http://www.lifesite.net/ldn/2006/may/06051508.html ;**

I don’t expect non-Catholics or non-Christians to understand the morality that being taught by PAPA B and Holy Mother Church. I just don’t want to have sin taught as something desirable and right.
 
It means that in many states, first cousins are allowed to marry only if they are over 65 or have medical documentation that they are unable to have children. It’s been mentioned a few times in the thread, so I didn’t realize it needed clarification, sorry.
Again, so they cannot reproduce but their bodies and human nature are oriented toward procreation. To deny this would mean marriage is not about man and woman but simply any arrangement one describes.
I don’t see that opposite gender is a requirement for any complementarity other than reproduction with each other. Emotional and psychological characteristics are more disparate within each gender than they are between genders.
apa.org/releases/gendersim0905.html
I have no idea what this proves. We have no access to evaluate the data or what the goals of the studies were. Also, if they are comparing media representations to whatever they studied that only means the media is wrong. It does not mean men and women are simply cogs in a machine that are interchangeable.
As to being oriented toward raising children, same sex couples have been showing for decades at minimum that they are fully capable of being parents, whether of the biological children of one of the couple or of foster or adoptive children, just as infertile couples who adopt or who remarry after divorce or the death of a spouse bringing children from a previous marriage are. Not every same sex couple chooses to try to become parents, but not every heterosexual couple does either (in fact quite a few go to great lengths to be sure they do not become parents).
Robots perhaps could be made to raise children. That does not make it good or natural.
 
Again, so they cannot reproduce but their bodies and human nature are oriented toward procreation. To deny this would mean marriage is not about man and woman but simply any arrangement one describes.
Our bodies and human nature are certainly not oriented toward monogamy. If the primary purpose of marriage is to follow our human nature and most efficiently use our bodies for procreation, we should then be advocating polygyny, as one man is capable of impregnating many women virtually simultaneously. Such an arrangement is certainly in keeping with scriptural precedent and with tradition.
We have no access to evaluate the data or what the goals of the studies were. Also, if they are comparing media representations to whatever they studied that only means the media is wrong. It does not mean men and women are simply cogs in a machine that are interchangeable.
The blue highlighted text at the bottom of that page is called a link and leads to the study for further information. In case that doesn’t work for you for some reason, here is the study
apa.org/journals/releases/amp606581.pdf. If you go to the end of it you will find all the individual studies reviewed and can look at as many as you wish, though I doubt all of them are available online.

Why in the world would anyone assume that they have to be blindly interchangable in order for a couple to have a marriage relationship? I certainly do not believe that any random man will do equally well in the place of my husband as part of my marriage simply because that random man has a working penis. Complementarity (at least as I interpret the term, meaning that each brings a unique presence to the relationship that works with that of the other to create a whole) is about much more than chromosones or anatomy. It is quite possible for two women or two men to be more different and complementary to each other in a multitude of ways than for a given man and woman to be.

It would appear that your view makes them much more machine-like than mine.🤷
Robots perhaps could be made to raise children. That does not make it good or natural.
And if the moon were made of cheese, we could mine it to help alleviate hunger. Neither of these things is relevant to this discussion.

I am talking about human beings, one who are already raising children and have been doing so successfully for a very long time.
What is “unnatural” about a child being raised by its biological parent? Do you believe that adoption is not a good thing?
 
Our bodies and human nature are certainly not oriented toward monogamy. If the primary purpose of marriage is to follow our human nature and most efficiently use our bodies for procreation, we should then be advocating polygyny, as one man is capable of impregnating many women virtually simultaneously. Such an arrangement is certainly in keeping with scriptural precedent and with tradition.
By human nature I mean man’s moral end as in the natural moral law. I am not talking of physicalism.
The blue highlighted text at the bottom of that page is called a link and leads to the study for further information. In case that doesn’t work for you for some reason, here is the study
apa.org/journals/releases/amp606581.pdf. If you go to the end of it you will find all the individual studies reviewed and can look at as many as you wish, though I doubt all of them are available online.
Great. That does not change anything though. The studies compare media images. Why is the media the touchstone?
Why in the world would anyone assume that they have to be blindly interchangable in order for a couple to have a marriage relationship? I certainly do not believe that any random man will do equally well in the place of my husband as part of my marriage simply because that random man has a working penis.
Great, does that mean any woman you happen to love mean she could be your “husband”? The issue is not that any man could be your husband but that any woman could never be your husband.
Complementarity (at least as I interpret the term, meaning that each brings a unique presence to the relationship that works with that of the other to create a whole) is about much more than chromosones or anatomy.
Do you think the nature of male and female are simply an accident of nature? You folks seem to minimize anatomy and chromosomes as if they are incidental and simply tools to use as you wish. Man is body and soul.
It is quite possible for two women or two men to be more different and complementary to each other in a multitude of ways than for a given man and woman to be.
Only if you define complimentarity apart from gender. Two men can be different, but not different in the way a man and woman are different.
It would appear that your view makes them much more machine-like than mine.🤷
Nope, it makes mine accept there genuine differences endowed by the creator. Your position makes us disembodied minds that see our physical natures as instruments to be used like tools.
And if the moon were made of cheese, we could mine it to help alleviate hunger. Neither of these things is relevant to this discussion.
Sure it is. Just because something is done does not justify it.
I am talking about human beings, one who are already raising children and have been doing so successfully for a very long time.
Define success.
What is “unnatural” about a child being raised by its biological parent? Do you believe that adoption is not a good thing?
If the child is raised in an atmosphere were two same sex persons act as husband and wife that is directly contrary to nature.

Adoption is great, but authentic adoption not some contrived union. Children have rights.
 
Again, so they cannot reproduce but their bodies and human nature are oriented toward procreation. To deny this would mean marriage is not about man and woman but simply any arrangement one describes.
Please explain what “being oriented toward procreation” actually means to the post menapausal woman?
 
Please explain what “being oriented toward procreation” actually means to the post menapausal woman?
  1. The sexual activity, in which husband and wife are intimately and chastely united with one another, through which human life is transmitted, is, as the recent Council recalled, "noble and worthy.’’ (11) It does not, moreover, cease to be legitimate even when, for reasons independent of their will, it is foreseen to be infertile. For its natural adaptation to the expression and strengthening of the union of husband and wife is not thereby suppressed. The fact is, as experience shows, that new life is not the result of each and every act of sexual intercourse. God has wisely ordered laws of nature and the incidence of fertility in such a way that successive births are already naturally spaced through the inherent operation of these laws. The Church, nevertheless, in urging men to the observance of the precepts of the natural law, which it interprets by its constant doctrine, teaches that each and every marital act must of necessity retain its intrinsic relationship to the procreation of human life. (12)
Just because one is not ovulating, or sterile permenantly, does not mean the marital act ceases to be oriented toward procreation.

The marital act is always unitive and procreative, unless the pair as taken steps to frustrate that aspect through contraception.

Same sex acts are very much like contracepted sex acts. Both are nothing more than mutual masturbation.
 
Great, does that mean any woman you happen to love mean she could be your “husband”? The issue is not that any man could be your husband but that any woman could never be your husband.
I am heterosexual, so no, it would be highly unlikely that I would seek out a woman to be my spouse, whether same sex marriage is legal or not. I really doubt that you will have hordes of people who are heterosexual clamoring to enter into same sex marriages just because such are legally available.

I have a marriage with a particular human being, my spouse. I have a marriage with the entire person, not just his external sexual organ. Sex is great and wonderful, but hardly the single most important thing in our relationship.

That particular human being is not randomly interchangable with any other human being, regardless of chromosones, genitalia, ability to function in any particular way sexually, etc. That relationship is not based on the ability to have biological children together and would continue without the ability to do so.

Based on the same sex couples that I know, their relationships are no different.
Do you think the nature of male and female are simply an accident of nature? You folks seem to minimize anatomy and chromosomes as if they are incidental and simply tools to use as you wish. Man is body and soul.
Yes, humans are body and soul and much more than only baby-making machines. That would be part of the reason that civil marriage is allowed between couples who have some sort of physical disability and are not able to insert tab A into slot B, even though the Church does not allow such. This does not minimize anatomy, it knocks it off of a pedestal as the be-all and end-all and puts it into perspective with all the other aspects of the person that lead toward marriage.
Only if you define complimentarity apart from gender. Two men can be different, but not different in the way a man and woman are different.
And you define complementarity solely based on gender characteristics, which, as the studies I cited showed, are highly influenced by culture. The core differences between men and women are that men can produce sperm and women can bear children.
Nope, it makes mine accept there genuine differences endowed by the creator. Your position makes us disembodied minds that see our physical natures as instruments to be used like tools.
I see it as acknowledging that our physical natures are not all identical and interchangeable. There is nothing “disembodied” about the love between a heterosexual couple or between a homosexual couple.
Define success.
Raising children who are able to function independently as adults and be contributing members of society.

webmd.com/mental-health/news/20051012/study-same-sex-parents-raise-well-adjusted-kids
Adoption is great, but authentic adoption not some contrived union. Children have rights.
Please define “authentic adoption” and how it differs from legal adoption.
 
Just because one is not ovulating, or sterile permenantly, does not mean the marital act ceases to be oriented toward procreation.

The marital act is always unitive and procreative, unless the pair as taken steps to frustrate that aspect through contraception.

Same sex acts are very much like contracepted sex acts. Both are nothing more than mutual masturbation.
so its essentially meaningless…just means that one item goes into another item. The fact that through menapause NOTHING can procreate is of no consequence. Does this tell you anything about the strength of your argument?
 
Please define “authentic adoption” and how it differs from legal adoption.
Actually, you’ve hit the nail on the head. The fundemental problem that Catholics have with gay marriage is that marriage is one of our 7 Sacraments.

However, it is just one aspect of a problem that has been manifesting for a very long time. Namely, a legal, secular marriage and the Catholic Sacrament of Marriage are two very different things. For example, ‘no fault divorce’.

So, on the one hand, we have the secular institution of marriage creating a civil rights issue. Property, taxes, medical visitation, etc. On the other hand, you have Catholic marriage as a fundemental theological tenant of our faith.

I know it sounds contradictory, but I think both sides are right. As our society has shifted from the stable, essentially permanent Catholic vision of marriage to a society where divorce is a coin toss, we’ve propogated many social ills. On the other hand, discrimination and stopping the formation of stable family units does not seem particularly just or good for society.

In a pluralistic and free society, we probably should leave marriage entirely to religions and only register civil unions. The Church already makes a distinction, for example, a marriage outside the Church is not officially recognized. But I don’t think that Rome is ready to throw in the towel. To me, turning back the clock and elliminating most forms of divorce seems hopeless, but as a Roman Catholic I am called to be dutiful and obey, not calculate the odds.

Peace
 
so its essentially meaningless…just means that one item goes into another item. The fact that through menapause NOTHING can procreate is of no consequence. Does this tell you anything about the strength of your argument?
Spirit, I don’t think you can tell him ANYTHING…ever. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: What’s the use? The blinders are thickening…:confused:

I want to ask “fix”…does it harm YOU that 2 people are given legal rights to visit each other in the hospital…for example? :confused: :confused: They ask nothing of the Church.
 
so its essentially meaningless…just means that one item goes into another item. The fact that through menapause NOTHING can procreate is of no consequence. Does this tell you anything about the strength of your argument?
Fertility has no bearing.

Homosexual acts are objectively disordered. Period. They are unnatural in that they defy the requirements of natural selection. Thus from a purely secular and naturalistic point of view they are gravely disordered.

Period.

With that premise, any activity that condones such a disorder does violence and injustice to those who suffer from it. Why, because affirming the behavior is not different than affirming the behavior of a person suffering from schizophrenic hallucinations while denying them medical care. It is just cruel.

Of course, one significant difference is that most homosexuals do have some limited control over whether they act upon they impulses.
 
Homosexual acts are objectively disordered. Period. They are unnatural in that they defy the requirements of natural selection. Thus from a purely secular and naturalistic point of view they are gravely disordered.
From a strictly secular point of view, that is false. If homosexuality is a genetic characteristic (and evidence suggest that a genetic component is very likely), then it is counter survival, since it does not genetically propogate the species.

In research, homosexually inclined lab animals will sometimes engage in normal sexual intercourse when prohibited from engaging in homosexual activity. These acts sometimes result in progeny, which keeps counter survival genetic traits in the group’s gene pool, the opposite of natural selection.

In other words, it is the tendancy towards homosexual acts that drives natural selection, not vice versa. It has even been suggested that it is long standing taboos that has driven the incidence rate of homosexuality to a relatively high level. But the evidence seems non-compelling, there are some instances where homosexuality was not culturally taboo and incidence was apparently quite rare, but most evidence suggests that it is not an on/off trait, but a gradiated slope with most of us somewhere on it. And the incidence of hermaphrodites, individuals born with ambigious gender, remains surprisingly high.

While talking about God’s will and biology, it is important to remember that we also have a Christian obligation to the weak and outcast as well.
 
In other words, it is the tendancy towards homosexual acts that drives natural selection, not vice versa. It has even been suggested that it is long standing taboos that has driven the incidence rate of homosexuality to a relatively high level. But the evidence seems non-compelling, there are some instances where homosexuality was not culturally taboo and incidence was apparently quite rare, but most evidence suggests that it is not an on/off trait, but a gradiated slope with most of us somewhere on it. And the incidence of hermaphrodites, individuals born with ambigious gender, remains surprisingly high.
:rolleyes:

And water is poison and the sky is purple.
 
In research, homosexually inclined lab animals will sometimes engage in normal sexual intercourse when prohibited from engaging in homosexual activity. These acts sometimes result in progeny, which keeps counter survival genetic traits in the group’s gene pool, the opposite of natural selection.
And in real life that is considered to be bi-sexual. You prefer either gender, for people as well as other animals in the web of life.
 
While talking about God’s will and biology, it is important to remember that we also have a Christian obligation to the weak and outcast as well.
I will ignore that bad biology here and limit my response to the last paragraph.

Did you not see what I wrote in my initial post? (Okay, I have fixed some typos here, but the meaning does not change.)
…any activity that condones such a disorder does violence and injustice to those who suffer from it. Why?] Because affirming the behavior is no different than affirming the behavior of a person suffering from schizophrenic hallucinations while denying them medical care. It is just cruel.
That means that I am saying the medical community has done great harm to those who suffer from SSA by telling them they are normal. And the fact that I said it should implies that I think harming people is bad.
 
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