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I agree. Ditto.I try to wear clean,modest clothes that will not distract others in the congregation. No one should note or remember what I wear.
I agree. Ditto.I try to wear clean,modest clothes that will not distract others in the congregation. No one should note or remember what I wear.
This is off-topic but seemed it might be important - have you discussed your shoveling with your doctor, in light of the two little ones you carry?I wore jeans and a hooded sweatshit to Mass last Sunday, I have two kids one on the way and I spent the morning shoveling…
I think the best advice was given by mariyka below:I think, before we, who are for clothes that say we are somewhere important (outside of costumes for balls), run off people coming back after a long leave of absence from the Faith, people that come in when they are able in whatever, or people taking baby steps in approaching a Church they never knew, let me say that I would use the philosophy for illegal immigrants. If you are an illegal truly escaping persecution or truly needing America to care for your family, then come right in as you are. I just think that is a small percentage–just as it is for those coming to Mass in play clothes–even if they are yuppie play clothes like sandals and polo shirts. I admit I’m not better consistently, but I don’t make up phony reasons for not dressing in a sport coat (the dressy kind; not a team logo coat), slacks and dress shoes (maybe for other things, but those things are not the topic).
I think the same phony reasons for messing with the Mass involved fast Masses and weak Gregorian choirs. Instead of reforming the priests and choir leaders, we almost reinvented the Mass and abuses became worse. The same thing has gone for clothes. Instead of correcting those showing off and thus, returning to a balance of externals and internals, we went to wearing play clothes if we feel like it–even if we can afford something that looks dressier.
I still think, if one has the humility to go to a second-hand store or Catholic Charities, one can find something respectable at an affordable price (you might want to give it a cleaning in case of bugs or something, but I never bought clothes from one) or else to a relative for something probably free.
I think, for the sake of men’s souls, women who come in spontaneously from the beach to worship or those who are taking baby steps to come into or back into the Church (maybe a modern-day Mary Magdalene), wearing less than appropriate, should watch from the least public spot possible (I know that St, Mary touched Jesus and everything, but perfect contrition does not grace everyone who comes back, our priest’s cannot forgive in Christ’s name outside the sacrament of reconciliation and even Jesus sent the people of his time to their priests for reconciliation with the valid church of the time). Otherwise, the parish should provide robes or shawls or something. Maybe this should be applied to men who might come in from the beach in California, Hawaii, Florida, etc. as women have been getting into the sins of the eyes worse and worse, though it is probably less frequently a problem.
We are hooked into this world by our senses and we cannot live in our little soul world. We need standards in a community, but also charity. Let’s maintain a harmony between our internal piety and external standards, but not beat the different ones. The priest should be the one to learn their story and tell the others if they can help.
I try to wear clean,modest clothes that will not distract others in the congregation. No one should note or remember what I wear.
Thank you. This attitude is precisely what keeps me away from the Tridentine Mass. I know that you are not the majority (or at least that’s what I’ve been told), but I am welcomed in my parish whether I’m wearing dressy trousers, a skirt, or jeans and sneakers because I’ve been working the SVDP donations truck, and I think I’d prefer that over having people who’ve never even met me assuming that I am “bad” and “stupid” because I’m not in a skirt.Look at yourself. If you are a woman wearing pants,ANY pants, and a veil to a trad mass, know that you look stupid and like you don’t know what you are doing. At a trad mass either be the “That’s right I am modern and bad” woman in the pants and NO veil, or wear a skirt and a veil and maybe a hint,just a hint, of humility. Come on. It’s a no brainer. It’s not about looking good it’s about obedience and humility.
That attitude is not the majority at my parish anymore, but there were a group of people that were there when I first started going there that anointed themselves the Clothes Police and had a lot to say about what everyone wore. Our pastor spoke to them about it because they were causing tension and hurt feelings, and he felt no matter how good their intentions were, the attitude wasn’t helping people. They all got insulted and stomped off to the SSPX chapel.Thank you. This attitude is precisely what keeps me away from the Tridentine Mass. I know that you are not the majority (or at least that’s what I’ve been told), but I am welcomed in my parish whether I’m wearing dressy trousers, a skirt, or jeans and sneakers because I’ve been working the SVDP donations truck, and I think I’d prefer that over having people who’ve never even met me assuming that I am “bad” and “stupid” because I’m not in a skirt.
Way to show the love of Christ and Christian charity.
I try to wear clean,modest clothes that will not distract others in the congregation. No one should note or remember what I wear.
What source do you use to justify your representation of the traditional Mass as being the highest form of Catholic worship of a people - at least in the Western world? Or are you able to acknowledge that is only your opinion?The pants thing was probably a communist idea to supplant the Biblical gender roles (which is not without some exception when stuff happens, like the man is abusive or leaves her). Still, it’s hardly something to bug someone about at a trad. Mass. I think one should humbly adjust themselves to any culture, unless they of the culture dress immodestly. I think temperaments should be blamed more than religion, Catholicism or, more specifically, the trad. Mass, the latter being the highest form of Catholic worship of a people–at least in the Western world.
Of course, the highest worship comes from people like St. Francis but, come on, are most of us going to respond to grace nearly as well? That's why we need what the pre-Vatican 2 style art and worship provided--help to respond better---and no occasion to show how well you personally can sing or to show how P.C. we can be by allowing altar girls.
I do believe that's why most of this stuff happened (Pope Paul 6th allowed some, but did not design all of this, though it should have been foreseen by him), Everybody has to be in everyone's business, even into the priest's (or priests') and deacon's business in the sanctuary. Heaven forbid anyone be left out because they're a woman or not clergy. It has to center around us, thus round church buildings, instead of the kind where the priest leads us to God (the priest facing us was a bad idea).
So, in fact, you are relying on your own opinion as “fact.” Yet that’s not enough. You go on to suggest you can read the mind of the Pope. “Now, I know the EWTN and Pope’s Masses are what the N.O. Masses were meant to be, and what I listed are accidentals, but they don’t see it important that the flock gets that as well and so we naturally get the irreverence seen at most N.O. Masses–at least on Sundays or Saturday nights.”It’s the highest collective form of Catholic worship. I mean, there’s no clapping for the band, there’s no “yuck, yucks” (outside of a moment of maybe some dry humor during a sermon) during a representation of Christ’s suffering for us, there is respect in the clothes worn, kids don’t wear play clothes and play with toys, people don’t leave after receiving Holy Communion, it’s not a showcase for everyone’s talents, and you actually learn about your Faith at the sermons.
Now, I know the EWTN and Pope’s Masses are what the N.O. Masses were meant to be, and what I listed are accidentals, but they don’t see it important that the flock gets that as well and so we naturally get the irreverence seen at most N.O. Masses–at least on Sundays or Saturday nights. It’s not important to the ones above that our parish churches are showcases for modern art and modern(ist) thought. I am not one to ordinarily talk about all Rome’s money, but maybe they could use it to correct some of those designs.
Our immigrant ancestors put their hard-earned money into real-looking churches (that are being shut down because they all go to the fuzzy-wuzzy togetherness ones that helps us forget what’s happening there) as they, in their non-upwardly mobile lifestyles, knew what real worship involved. Some beneficiaries were rich and they knew that offering up their wealth meant what works would be pleasing to God because love was put into those designs. Even Orthodox Jews, Wiccans (though not necessarily in instructional buildings) and Buddhists recognize the worth of beautiful rituals and art that teach their faiths.
Code:Of course, the highest worship comes from people like St. Francis but, come on, are most of us going to respond to grace nearly as well? That's why we need what the pre-Vatican 2 style art and worship provided--help to respond better---and no occasion to show how well you personally can sing or to show how P.C. we can be by allowing altar girls. I do believe that's why most of this stuff happened (Pope Paul 6th allowed some, but did not design all of this, though it should have been foreseen by him), Everybody has to be in everyone's business, even into the priest's (or priests') and deacon's business in the sanctuary. Heaven forbid anyone be left out because they're a woman or not clergy. It has to center around us, thus round church buildings, instead of the kind where the priest leads us to God (the priest facing us was a bad idea).
I didn’t forget that what I offer are my opinions. Never would I announce without qualifications that one form of the Mass is superior to all others. You did that. Remember?Catharina, by your attitude, I think you forgot your counter-position is merely an opinion as well. Unfortunately, I did not think up my ideas on my own; but from well-informed sources. TAN books are useful in understanding the problems. You know how the fruits of something are very telling of the judgment of its architects.
What have we had? Drunken priests, party priests, lost vocations, a flock that decides what dogma or Church law they will or will not concern themselves about, people in play clothes 'cause they feel like it, kids playing with toys in the pews, people leaving after receiving Holy Communion, nothing learned from the pulpit except the upteenth sermon about being nice to each other (even an EWTN show host admitted that's a problem).