Well,** I pretty much agree, with the exception that the OP “went where angels fear to tread”. What I was trying to say is that people in authority, by and large do not like to be corrected, and their responses vary by personality. Some will calmly discuss an issue, even though they may not like what you brought up. For the rest of them, things escalate from a cold smile and an immediate shut down to something this side of nulcear. I simply don’t think she should have been surprised; if she was, I would expect that it was due to lack of experience, which is a form of naivety. Naivety is not bad, or evil, nor does it make one less of a person. But it sure can lead to some awkward (to put it mildly) situations. She got one lesson, and it hurt quite a bit.**I am not a youngster, and over the years, I have learned somewhat to pick my battles. Some of that learning was at the cost of some skin. Too soon old, too late smart.
I was in the seminary once, and many have been the days I have rejoiced that was not my vocation. I am not naive enought to think that all was smiles and giggles pre Vatican 2. But since then, pastors have become more battle scarred from those on the left and the right, as people have become more aggressive about what they want, or feel is right, or thing is correct… some are reactive just becasue they have run out of patience for every critic and every critique tha comes down the pike. Some others just have not so nice personalities, something that may have been inherent, or may have been learned.
You are right; she didn’t kick “anyone”. Kicking the dog is a euphemism. She “kicked the dog”, and it bit her. Some people learn from their choices and the results they get from enacting them. Others don’t. Objectively she was correct. Subjectively, she will have to decide, the next time she observes that someone is incorrect in what they do, if and how she will approach them. Perhaps all that will be necessary is “tougher skin”. Perhaps a different approach will be used. Or perhaps she will choose to let “sleeping dogs lie”. That will be up to her.