Compliments from your spouse

[cheeto1]

Ok, I have a question for all of you ladies. I try to do this, and my DW has been so down lately that she can’t/won’t take the compliment, and is even angered by my compliments believing them to be empty.

What do I do?

Well, Are you giving empty compliments? If my husband
doesn’t like the dinner, he compliments me. He says, “This
dinner is delicious…Oh it’s so good…Oh that was a good dinner,
I’m really full now” (dinner is not finished). If he is quiet and just
eats his dinner, I know he liked it because it’s gone, or he eats
seconds. He is the one who is mad if I don’t believe him, but
actions speak louder than words…

 

[mrsfrazier]

Well, Are you giving empty compliments? If my husband
doesn’t like the dinner, he compliments me. He says, “This
dinner is delicious…Oh it’s so good…Oh that was a good dinner,
I’m really full now” (dinner is not finished). If he is quiet and just
eats his dinner, I know he liked it because it’s gone, or he eats
seconds. He is the one who is mad if I don’t believe him, but
actions speak louder than words…

ROFL!!! My DH says, “it’s good…” (while furiously shaking salt and pepper over it. Adds more salt every few bites. After he is halfway finished suggests that we order a pizza or says that he’s not too hungry!)

 

[ChinaDad]

Well, Are you giving empty compliments? If my husband
doesn’t like the dinner, he compliments me. He says, “This
dinner is delicious…Oh it’s so good…Oh that was a good dinner,
I’m really full now” (dinner is not finished). If he is quiet and just
eats his dinner, I know he liked it because it’s gone, or he eats
seconds. He is the one who is mad if I don’t believe him, but
actions speak louder than words…

Nope. They’re completely “full” compliments.

 

[leonie]

My dh’s love language is not words of affirmation. He could care less about any compliments I give him. He loves touch and acts of service.

I love compliments. Sometimes, I even ask for them. He hates that!!! He says it seems fake.

His acts of service are so abundant and sacrificial that I “hear” I love you over and over.

But, still, I’d like a few compliments…

 

[ems3]

Well, we have been married 22 years and I am 49. He still thinks I am attractive, which is a huge compliment to me.

I think the biggest compliment is when he says to our severely handicapped dd “your mama takes such good care of you”. It always makes me feel good and appreciated for all the little stuff I do to take care of her.

 

[Almeria]

My hubby and I are both suffering from depression and anxiety, him more than me (he’s on meds, I’m not at the moment). We’ve always found that communication has helped us to have an amazing marriage, and it helps us both get though each day right now. At least once a day we’ve thanked, complimented, and spontaneously said I love you (and what prompted it) to each other. It’s not that we’re intentionally telling ourselves, “I’m going to thank him today”, it’s that we just feel it and say it. And let me tell you, hearing it from a depressed and stressed out spouse makes it feel that much more awesome.

 

[jules11]

My husband often says ‘You’re such a beautiful woman,’ with such emphasis, that I know he really means it. It’s so sweet, 'cause I don’t feel it sometimes.